Here is my story: There is a girl she is my sisters best friend. We have known each other for about 15 years. We have always flirted even though she was married for a few years. Well she got divorced about a year and a half ago. I asked her out after she had been divorced for about 6 months. She said she could not because she wasn't ready to date anyone. Then I find out that she went on a few dates with a guy shortly after this. Its been 7 months since I asked her out. Over the course of this seven months she has dated 3 more guys, nothing serious. We have remained friends the entire time. Over the last few months we have been hanging a few times a week and we have been texting daily. Our texts are very flirtatious. She always ends the texts with "Gnite Sexy Man" and she always tells me how she loves hanging out with me. I have had feelings for her the entire time I have known her. But since she was always my sisters best friend I never pursued to heavily. So last week I hear that she is getting serious with this guy. So I go by my sisters and drop off all the stuff that she left at my house and tell her to tell her friend that if she is getting that serious I don't think its right for my and her friend to be texting all the time and hanging out so I want to distance myself from her. So she calls her friend and I get a phone call about a half hour later. That her friend was balling and saying that she can't believe this and that she had no Idea that I liked her ( Which is bull, everyone knew I liked her ) she said she would love to go out on a date with me and that she wanted to talk to me and needed to see me right away. So I waited 3 days to text her that we needed to talk. She said that she really wanted to talk to me about this. So we decided to go out on the Friday and talk. We went for dinner and this is how the conversation went. I started and told her that I had feelings for her. And she said then why didn't I ask her out. to which I replied that I did and she said no. So she explained that she said no because she wasn't ready to get serious with someone yet and that she just wanted to hang out with different people. And then she tells me that she never liked any of the guys she dated that they were all just friends ( Which is bull to, my sister had told me that she really liked a few of them ) Then she says that if I asked he out on a date she would say yes. So I ask if she wants to come by and watch a movie on Sunday and she says sure, but she flakes on me that night and cancels. She asks to take me out for breakfast to make it upto me. I can't because I have to work. In the mean time she has started to see this other guy. So I decide to freeze her out for a few days cause she flaked on me. I then text her and she says she misses me and wants to hang out this week. So I text her on Friday and she says that she is just going to visit her mom for the night. So I saw cool I will see you Sunday at my sisters for Barbecue. Then I talk to my sister the next day and she says that she went to the drive in with the other guy, On the Friday. So she lied to me. My sister tells me that she is going to tell her that she told me about going to the drive in. So she tells my sister that she doesn't know what to do about the whole situation. She likes both of us but doesn't want to hurt either of us. She is the type of girl who thinks everyone likes her. So My sister tells her that she should pursue the other guy cause my brother just isn't interested anymore. To which she gets all quiet and says really. Then she starts to back track saying well I didn't like him that way anyway. My sister did it because this girl always has the upper hand. So a few hours after this I send a text to the girl saying that " I want her to be happy but I know that I am not the one for her" and that " There are too may red flags for me" and that I wish her the best. She replies " I wish you the best to " " Too may red flags....?" I do like this girl so what do you guys think I should do about this situation,

Thanks

The guy she is dating is a loser. He is a recovering drug addict, With a " Do not resesitate tattoo on his chest. He won $35000 on a scratch ticket and spent it all on booze and drugs. He lost his licence and lives at home with his mother and sister. But she says that he has been honest with the whole thing and tells her that he has changed. My buddies say that you don't want a girl who is into a guy like that. She would have way too may issues. My one buddy says that people tend to date in there class

Over the year and a half I was hanging out with her. I took her to Hockey games, Concerts, Shows, When she first got divorced I took her and my sister to Dominican Republic for a vacation. Cause they were both getting out of tough relationships. I know that I have done too much and have always been there for her. She says she knows she should date a guy like me. And that she is done with losers. Her ex husband was a drunk. But she goes back to them. Her mom told her that she is stupid to let me go. So I told her that I don't want her now. What is my next step. I am gonna def freeze her out. But next time I see how should I be towards her. I wanna portray that I am not nice or needy and that she blew a big thing.

Thanks anyone who will reply

Okay, first, from what I can see if you ever did get into a relationship with this girl, she would make your life hell: how she treats you now is generally as good as it gets, but that isn't really the problem. At least as you self-represent in your post, you seem to have a needy, pining attitude toward this girl.

Second, at least in my universe, people I've known for 15 years don't get to flake on me--the fact they have tits does not excuse this. It's one thing for a girl whose phone number I got the other night to flake; a friend who flakes under circumstances like the ones you describe better have a mother in the ICU.

Third, back to the first point, I see you are trying to get out of the friend zone, but it clearly isn't working, she has all the power, and the only thing you can really do is stop chasing and go out there and find someone who doesn't think of you as someone she can take for granted.

Sorry to be so stark.

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Cuts like a knife

The truth is smacking right in your face and yet, you refuse to acknowledge it.

She is not interested in you, as much as you are in her.

She is just playing you.. maybe stringing you along.. for God knows what reason.. but it's not the hallmark of decent woman.

Forget about her. She wants to take her chances and play the field. In short, she is not looking for what you are looking for.

Find someone who shares your plans. Forget about her.

Good Luck.

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Some girls like this, is attractive, a bad boy that does not give a fuck, the girl makes it a goal to change him, believe it or not the guy indirectly is playing it right hahaha! with that being said my policy is next, no sister friends, no neightbors, no coworkers, no exes of friends etc...

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Thanks Guys for the resposes. I am going to just forget about her. I need to work on my nice guy issues. I know that neediness and chasing are my two worst enemies so I need to work on them. And I will remember no sisters friends ever again. I talked to more people about her and they say don't date her. She has alot of emotional issues.