basically i am really making an effort to stay friends with my ex.
we both still have feelings for each other and the other night i went over and we kissed and had a massive d&m.... so we decided because we have so much history we want to be friends, and in an effort to make that happen we wouldnt talk for a month...
well last night i was drinkning and i sent her an email that basically said that we shouldnt have to go a month without talking and that i thought it was stupid and i was ready to be friends now (im not). it sounded really needed.
she is yet to reply so im thinking she is probably just ignoring it.

so what do i do? go along with that and just genuinely dont talk to her for a month or more to let her forget the email so we can try and be friends (she does understand that i am emotionally a bit messed up SPAM).
or apologise and risk sounding more clingy?
i am not ready to be her friend yet but i do like the idea of being able to get along with her in the future.

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just because my name is safety doesn't mean i like condoms

i don't know the situation of your break up or your relationship but it SOUNDS like you clearly still have feelings. like i know you stated that in your post but it sounds like you were the one who got dumped.

i ended things with my girlfriend after 19 months a couple weeks ago. take my advice. FORGET ABOUT HER. forget about her in the sense that if you are gonna be friends you have to lose all those other feelings for her. go out and play the field, enjoy being single man. take a break from it, step away. then, you can go back and (maybe) be friends with her, on your own terms as an independent guy

Why would you ever want to be friends with someone with whom things eventually went downhill, is beyond me.

That being said, the best thing to do when it comes to your exes is to forget about them. There are/were reasons you didn't work out. Those reasons won't go away just like that and they will always be there to hamper any form of relationship between you both.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

I really do still have feelings which is really annoying. Don I would like o stay friends with her because she was a big part of my life for more than a year, also I have alot of good memories with her. Makes sense to me anyway...
Highflyin thanks man. I haven't followed up the email. I'm just going to go out and meet other people and move on with my life. Maybe she will be a part of it further down the road but not now.
Oh and to clear things up I broke up with her but we kept having sex. She then told me we couldn't do that any longer and moved on pretty quickly so I feel like I was broken up with yes.

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just because my name is safety doesn't mean i like condoms

If 1 month is what she wants. Than give it to her. So what if you still have feelings for her. If she doesn't want to see you for that time, then that is what she doesn't want. If she were the one sucking up to you it would be different, but that's not the case here. You are the one sucking up to her. You shouldn't really do that.

I say go along with it. Don't talk with her for a month. But if you still "want" her so badly. Than do something to improve yourself while you are waiting. Whatever went wrong, or was wrong with you, FIX IT! Be whatever it is she wanted you to be. But you are not being like that because she told you to. You are doing it because you want to yourself. That's what should be going through your mind. And seeing other girls would be good too, specially in a way that makes her figure it out. Jealousy is your friend.

And even after all this effort, if she doesn't suck up to you.
Then... She is f*cking NOT worth it!