I'm just wondering if anyone ever struggles to not give in to a flirtatious girl? I didn't exactly give in, but you'll see what I mean. Here's my story from last night:

Showed up to the bar a little later than my buddies. Couple of them were already in a booth talking to an HB10 and an HB8. Turns out they had known each other for awhile, met in college last year. So I said hey to the bros, then grabbed myself a drink. Later, it was just my 2 buddies and the HB10, so I went and sat down (assuming I wouldn't be an extra wheel this time ). Introduced myself to the HB10, and right away noticed she was a very cheerful, flirty girl. She wasn't throwing herself out at every guy or complimenting all of us, but she did enjoy to joke/tease a lot, and be part of the convo the whole time. We all danced for a bit, and were gonna go to a another bar, but ended up getting separated from her when her friends wanted to go to a different one than we wanted to go to.

So that's the events from last night. Like I said, she wasn't throwing herself out to every guy, but I could tell she enjoyed being the center of 2 or 3 guys attention. She wasn't a bitch either, she is a genuinely nice girl, just flirty. It didn't bug me, I just flirted back and figured if I didn't take her home then I'd at least have had a good night of training lol.

My problem is, all day I've been asking myself why I didn't try and get her digits. But I know it's ridiculous because in high school I chased a flirty friend forever, and I've vowed to never chase a flirt again. I'm thinking maybe it's because I recently got turned down by a cute girl I know and I'm probably just looking to find a new prospect.

Anyone else ever encounter this problem? How do you clear it out of your mind?

Sorry for the longer explanation, but thanks to those who read it

I know EXACTLY the kind of girl you mean. I think of them as female naturals. Now gaming these girls is very possible, but the way I see it is that your game needs to be SO tight. Nothing flashy necessary, they won't give you bullshit LMR or need the Cube or some game to create rapport, but your inner game needs to be solid, and you need to be the alpha male constantly. They can have their pick of almost any guy, so when you choose them, you have to make sure they're choosing you too.

That said, it wasn't really your question. You're having trouble getting her out of your head. Read The Power of Now and you'll never have this problem again (or at least you'll know exactly what to do) but the short answer is: focus on what you're doing at this moment. The more consistently you can do that, the less you'll want to think about her. When you sense irrelevant thoughts creeping up, or notice that you've been thinking them for a while, say "Okay! Now I get to practice being in the moment!" and clear your mind the same way used in most meditation. Good luck!

Great reply man, thanks a lot. It's funny, because last night was probably the best my game has been in the past 2 or 3 months. Why? Because I knew she was a flirt, so I didn't really care about messing up. I put myself in the alpha male position and while my buddies were caving in to her flirting, I was doing a lot of negging and push/pull. Obviously it could have went better since I didn't score with her, but I was using my natural game and I could tell I broke her flirty "every guy wants me" shield a bit.

Anyways, I will definitely read that book. You totally got the point I was trying to make in my post. Cheers [/quote]