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PostPosted: Thu Sep 01, 2011 6:39 pm 
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If you've known someone for about 6 months, meeting them once per week working with them and you're both volunteers. You're leaving and you want to keep in touch. What would you say to make rejection unlikely?

Thanks for any help, I will be externally greatful!


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PostPosted: Thu Sep 01, 2011 6:40 pm 
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Give me your number. Let's stay in touch.


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What the guy above said. Try not to make it sound like a question. It's natural for people who've been seeing each other for 6 months to exchange numbers, you shouldn't even have to ask!

Also, whenever I get a phone number, I take out my phone and look at the girl like I know she's going to give me the number. I.e. as soon as I say, "leave me your number," the phone is out and my finger is in mid-air, ready to write it down. Made number closing easier.

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I have a few different ways to deal with different girls (they're not all the same right?)
First way is to let them know they're gunna be asked. This gives them a chance to let you down easy without going "can i have your number?" and her going "wtf no!" instead she can say no the first 2 sentences or eject from the convo instead of putting you down. This is
me: "hey you txt (call if thats more comfortable) right?"
her: "yea"
me: "and you got unlimited like all the cool kids do im guessing"
her: "haha yes, yes i do"
me: "why dont you tell me your number, ill txt/call ya sometime"
This is more for if you've got time and youd rather ask for the number than giving her your phone (you left it at home ect.)

If you do have your phone and youd rather her put it in herself put your phone in her hands (not forcefully just put your phone infront of her where she'll instinctively grab it) and ask her "why don't you put your number in my phone?" (have everything set up for her, put in her name and everything so she doesnt have to fuss around with your phone, i almost lost a #close cuz she had trouble...) If you have the nuts to go one step further call her phone (to make sure its a real number first off) right then and there, and then ask to put in your name. Put in something like "carl - super sexy guy at the bar" or something where she'll see your name pop up and go "i gotta answer this guy"


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After reading the above post (which was very good cheers)
I'm wondering...

Say if a girl gives you their number do you immediately call them to check it's real and so they can check it's real and so they can add you?

Only if you know them well? Anything else?
After i've got the number, what should I say-I don't want it to be awkweward or silent but will have to kind of go.


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If you have the nuts to go one step further call her phone (to make sure its a real number first off) right then and there, and then ask to put in your name. Put in something like "carl - super sexy guy at the bar" or something where she'll see your name pop up and go "i gotta answer this guy"
You just asked what my last sentence said... and what success rate you have her number before that whats she gunna do take it back?


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of course, depending on the HB and the situation:

asking for a number and getting response may be less successful when the girls gives her number to you!

Instead of asking for a number directly, I always use the following:

me: Hey, this was a very interested conversation. But I got to go.
HB: oh...do you?
me: how can we continue this conversation? [actually, you are motivating the girl to give her number]
HB: do you have FB?
me: no i don't use that. I am already late!
HB: I can give you my number.....
me:...uh...sure....let's do that


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If you have the nuts to go one step further call her phone (to make sure its a real number first off) right then and there, and then ask to put in your name. Put in something like "carl - super sexy guy at the bar" or something where she'll see your name pop up and go "i gotta answer this guy"
You just asked what my last sentence said... and what success rate you have her number before that whats she gunna do take it back?
Very true..gues sim just scared of the awkeward if it's fake, haha!

Any other tips, i'm going to do this TOMMOROW morning!!! Exciting!

Me: You seem kinda cool girls, we should keep in touch.
them:ok
Me: Leave me your number! *hands phone all ready for her to enter number*
But i'm kind of worried taht there's two girls i'll have to like do that twice basically... Could be weird if one rejects...idk or other might be waiting or think hmm he likes me more (asked me first) (I think i'll ask the one who I least like first.)
Me:Let me know how you go onnif you make your mind up!!(they're confused about careers) or and scare me even more about what I might be doing after my degree (prospects aren't that great.)
Me:guess i'll see you then!
Them:bye
Me: cya

Not sure what i'll say to put my name as as i've been a volunteer.

P.s i'm goign to bed but will read your advice just before I go in the morning so please make it good advice for the sake of these two numbers!


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Wow your making this hard for yourself, if possible (even if not possible) get a girl alone and ask for her number when its the two of you. Add a third person and you'll get rejected probly 90 times out of 100 regardless if she wants to give you it or not. If theres two girls get one busy by herself and handle one, then get the one busy and grab the other from her work. It's your job to come up with some name thats fun and makes her answer you, what i said was a example but it should be similar.


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Wow your making this hard for yourself, if possible (even if not possible) get a girl alone and ask for her number when its the two of you. Add a third person and you'll get rejected probly 90 times out of 100 regardless if she wants to give you it or not. If theres two girls get one busy by herself and handle one, then get the one busy and grab the other from her work. It's your job to come up with some name thats fun and makes her answer you, what i said was a example but it should be similar.
To be hoenst, this is highly unlikely to seperate them! The girls volunteer together and always stay together! Kind of outside their comfort zones without! Any other ideas how I could do it? t's at a charity wherethey do workshops and we're in the same workshops but they sit together. If I did this I would need to ask the other in private anyway..

It's the situation we volunteer in!

Big downer on my confidence haha Is that from experience? WHy is this? Could I reduce this some way? I get on well with both of them, together and when we have eben in private (when one was away)

Really must go now so please write tonnes oif advice i'll read whilst having breakfast!

Thanks, I appreciate this!


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-Give me your number.
-I'm going to need your number.
-(Hand phone over) Put your number in.
-(Hand over pen) Write your number on my hand.

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I am going to this or that event. If she is interested, she might hint that she wants you to invite her there by saying "I love this or that event. When/where is it?" And you say "it's over there, do you wanna go?" if she is not interested she will simply ignore you mentioning the event and won't ask.

Or, you can say, add me on face book, here is my name, if you are afraid of creeping on her.

Or, if you want to show initiative and interest, you might say, how can I get in touch with you? She will say how she wants you to get in touch with her, she will decide on a number or email or fb or whatever.

I am an afc, but that's my advice.


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I don't ask for numbers. I give them my phone ready to tap the numbers in. They always complie.


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you have known her for 6 months, would be weird as shit if she wouldn't give you her number

i like talking to you, what is your number? (pull out phone)


better to just ask her on a date, don't worry about the will she accept / reject, you will never have sex with this girl if you never ask her out, texting her for 2 years with no meetup will accomplish nothing, and you are way more likely to get rejected over the phone then in person, girls are way more polite and friendly when they are alone and in person, way way way more tension for them, if they piss you off who knows what a big strong man will do, he might yell and get mean, and thats icky, girls avoid icky situations


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