Hey guys,

Firstly I have been studying for a long time and had good success. Problem is I suffer from SAD (Social-Anxiety-Disorder). It's not major, mainly talking to new people and in new situations. This makes it really hard to come off as a confident/cool guy and when I first interact in a GROUP set with wings, I get zoned out pretty quick. For example: I was at club with a buddy(drunk social type) he approaches 3 girls, introduces me, they say hi, but give him the attention. I get none.

Later on that night I see one of the girls solo, approach her, and everything goes well, get a kiss, number and later some dates. She wasnt interested earlier maybe because I don't seem interested? I normally force a smile, have good tone and body langauge, but am secretly nervous. Do you think I might be giving off a vibe I dont know about? I won't really say much to the girls and dont give off to much personality. Maybe I dont come across as a fun dude?? This group shit/fail happens often.

I was able to approach the girl when she was alone and game, but when interacting in groups I freeze up and slightly regress. It seems one on one most of the pressure is relieved and I can lay the mack down smooth. I am not sure why I'm posting this, maybe to vent. I know the solutions but they are hard steps to take when you have SAD. I am just wondering if other people have had this condition and have fully fought it off? Videos? NLP? Therapy help? I refuse to take meds and think this can be beat by the mind.

Sorry for my rant! I burned an hour of work though and if grammer blows balls also due to being at work. Any thoughts and comments welcome.

First off you're not alone there are other people in your situation too. secondly you just gotta do it man as hard as it is you just have to bite the bullet and go. I was once housebound due to anxiety issues but I realized nothing will change unless I change things myself.

And in all honestly refusing to take medication if it will actually help you is not the wises of moves maybe get a professional opinion on that one tho.

Just keep it up man every time you stretch your comfort zone it gets a little wider and a little easier each time.