So it goes a little something like this... (bullet points are quicker to read I suppose)

* I saw this girl at a party but didnt get a chance to speak to her
* Found out she is a friend of someone I know so emailed her 'hi' on facebook
* She responded well and we communicated for a few days
* Friend spoke to her and said to me she was excited about me contacting her.
* I eventually called her and we chatted, phone chat was a ok'ish
* She agreed to meet when we both got back from our holidays in 1-2 weeks
* I texted after 1-2 weeks.. she didnt reply.. then called.. she didn't pick up.
* One week later she emailed on FB to apologise for not responding earlier and to say she wont have time as she is going on another trip and then away for 4 months - which was true.
* I didnt reply as she didnt suggest meeting on return or anything.
* Friend of hers said combination of ex boyfriend problem and trip away was too blame
* Could be that or something I said etc..
* She returns from trip about now
* I am due to see her in a couple of months at a party I know of which is going to happen, but part of me doesnt want to leave it that late.

so...

What would you do in my situation?

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here to learn.. thats all.

Seems like you've done everything right, but sometimes things get in the way.

You should have replied to her apology and wish her a good trip. It doesn't matter if she didn't suggest meeting.

Don't call her now. Find other girls till next time you see her. If she likes you she will call you. If she doesn't next time you see her start from scratch. Just don't be needy and too eager.

good luck!

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I have to return some videotapes...

Hey man;

In 2 weeks a lot of things can happen. Specially if she is attractive person there is a good chance she gets asked out by other men.

I am not saying this is over but best you can do is to learn this: Next time something like this happnes, MAKE SURE YOU APPROACH so you know right then and don't wonder for weeks after.

Girls don't lead, they follow leader men, if a man knows what he wants and he is experienced, he can lead almost any womans mind. She may have seen one of these guys. I hope you get a hold of her.

Move to the next one, increase your chances by approaching more people.

Good luck

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Nathan Griffin

Well, maybe she found someone who actually could see her in person more than you can. Also, she seems to have lost all semblance of interest in you.

The best thing to do is to ignore her existence now and at the party, go find other girls and enjoy you life.

Not every shot is meant to end up in the back of the net.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

thanks for the responses


Puss World - I don't think she met anyone as I would have been told different by friend.


Defy - I think you are right to wait, but what I would say is that I think not replying to her last time was a better idea... ( i think)..

For example.. before we stopped talking and i knew she was going away, I sent her a text to ask when she was leaving.. she replied 'in 10 mins x' and then I sent a 'have a great trip' text.. I didn't get a 'thanks' for that text.

I am not as good as i should be hence why I am on the forum, but the one thing I have noticed consistently with all woman I have been with, is that the more unreliable and unresponsive I am, the more they want me. Its such a sad state of life, but true.

Not answering her last message was aimed at providing a little bit of needed mystery. i.e. Is he annoyed?.. does he actually care? has he moved on?.. I want it to chew her up a little and for her to remember me.

As it happens, all her pictures on facebook are private, yet her latest trip away is unlocked and she has been 'tagging' a neutral friend on it. Once or twice in an odd way that makes me a little suspicious that she may be doing it to stick in my mind as she knows I will see the pics.

As things stand at the moment, I think I will leave it till we next meet. Not sure whether to make the effort with her or not. Such a fucking shame. She is really suited to me and I was told she was keen.

FUCK IT !!!!

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