Met a girl off a dating site. Suggested we go to the museum to check out this exhibit. We then go for pizza and drinks after. Then go to a lounge for couple of drinks. Says she has a tv show to catch in a bit that she must watch. We go to another lounge and she says it's cool to skip her show. By this point we're both fairly drunk. When we're done with this lounge, we start to head home. It happens that she lives very near me. (We're in a city). We go get some apps at a casual restaurant near us.

At the restaurant, we're talking and she tells me she thinks I'm not confident enough. That I'm a "good looking kid" and shouldnt need a dating site. This was completely unsolicited. Kind of odd. I can't remember what I said. I think I just contemplated it and was like you may be right or something.

At this point I suggested we go back to my place to continue the conversation. She hesitated for like a sec then agreed and while walking back we're being playful in a sense like I remember she was punching me and I was holding her like wrestling kind of and we were laughing. We go upstairs, grab some beers she likes my place. I play some music and botch the night by repeatedly trying to get her to dance. Eventually i give up and sit down. We talk for a few minutes I think and for some reason she decides to bolt mid beer. Bye..no hug, nothing, b lines for the door and leaves.

I escalated kino over the date in the sense that I tried to be more and more touchy. I tried putting my arm around her, push her or whatever, give her high fives, but it never felt like she was into it for some reason. So I'd do it for a bit and back off to not be too clingy. She must have had a good time though or she wouldnt have blown off her show and she wouldnt have come back to my place.

Couple of questions:
-During the date, she added me on FB. Two days later (I haven't texted her or anything) she blocks me. I wanted to ask her out for drinks this week, should I still text her or just wait it out now. I mean the date was epicly long and I had a good time. I can't imagine she'd skip her favorite show b/c she felt obligated.
-I'm assuming the confidence remark could be related to a million things, but maybe body language and kino in particular? I mean I did not kiss her. Primarily though, because she did not seem into the kino. Putting my arm around wasn't awkward, but it wasnt a 2 way deal.

During the date, did you DHV?
If you did, what did you do to do it?

The TV show thing couldve been some sort of emergency reason of thing to leave. Like sometimes you may not know what kinda man (or woman) you could get on the internet so you can kinda assume that.

With the block, can you think of any reason she would block you? Like mistakes that couldve triggered negative feelings. Anything.
If you cant then maybe its not your fault.
If you feel confident then just text her, i mean its not like you have anything to loose. In fact, if she doesnt want to go out for drinks, then she'll probably say why. If she doesnt, try find out. If theres a valid reason, try to learn from your mistakes.
What have you got to loose?

I'm fit, I dress well, and I make a decent wage and all those things were evident. I also had suggested some trendy spots in the city (not to impress, but b/c I like them) in prior texts, but it had never worked out and she made fun of me for having picked them (in a good way I think). I was in no ways trying to be showy and it's not really my personality.

My problem is usually the date will become boring b/c I slip into nice guy/interview mode, but this date did not feel like it.

The TV Show was brought up mid date. The museum and dinner alone were 3 hours...the TV show was brought up towards the end of the first lounge. I'm fairly certain she does watch the show, but it turns out, it started an hour later than she said it did.

Well there has been a lot of activity on my fb profile. I have no idea why she blocked me though. I haven't texted/called/messaged yet.

you didn't do anything wrong.

she was a crazy bitch.

don't date girls off the internet.

that comment about your confidence...bordered on insane.

trust me.

she has neuroses.

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Okay, those highlighted things are the key points.

First, the way you handled her opinion was pathetic. Sure, I don't care if you're Tom Cruise, but to just agree with her and NO, it was not a compliment either, was a dumb move. You could've put her in her place by saying, "I'll make my own decisions about what I need and what I do not." Saying that with a correct perfunctory smile and a calm voice will tell her that you are someone who is in control of his life and decisions and she won't pass judgements on that.

So, you got her home? Well done. Now, what was the whole insistence to play "Dance Monkey Dance" with her is what I'll never understand. Just because dancing can lead to easy kino doesn't mean you HAVE to do it every single time.

Also, the whole trying to escalate physical contact is just lame. The men who are good with women will tell you, that trying is failure, you just do it or you do not. It should flow naturally through your actions. If you feel as if you're trying, she will too. It will seem forced and that's just awkward and a turn off.

Now, that whole part of missing her TV show episode? Think of it as her way out, if things are that well. Similar to, "I had to pick up my friend from the airport tonight." It's just an excuse.

Well, she just wasn't into you. And the whole block on facebook, means that she doesn't want to hear from you again. There. I said it.

And listen to Mack. The Funny Quotient aside, his words always make sense.

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Mack thanks for your feedback although I'm sure I did plenty wrong.

Don your post wasnt as helpful.

With regards to dancing I never said I do it every time and already pointed out it was mistake. I was drunk.
I think you missed the point. I *was* doing it, but she wasn't receptive to it.

You're still not shedding light on why a girl would spend 6+ hours with a guy, have a relatively good time, go back to his house and then block him two days later.

I think you said it yourself."I was drunk." Drinking leads to making bad decisions. I'm not being judgemental because I've been there before.

From what you have written so far, I can't see that you really did anything 'wrong' per se, so I don't think there is anything you need to fix.

You went out and spent some time with a total stranger you met off the internet. You had enough of a nice time that you would like to see her another time. She unfortunately did not feel the say way and was not as attracted to you as you were to her and she does not want to spend any more time with you.

That is what going out on a date is, it is spending some time with someone to try to get to know each other and see if there is an intereste in spending more time with them....she didn't.

I think blocking you was a little extreme and a little rude on her part. She could have waited untill you asked her out again and then just said 'no thanks' and left it at that.

Because she was nothing more than a total stranger on the internet and because she did not respond positively to your advances and because she was kind of rude and a bitch for blocking you for no valid reason I think you should just chalk this up to a night that was fun but didn't lead anywhere. People will have lots and lots and lots and lots and lots of those over the years and that is perfectly acceptable.

Forget about it and move on.