Many times I sit back and wonder why I feel alone when I have a lot of women attracted to me. Most of these girls I just didn't feel right about and thus leave them be. My attitude especially towards women has been that I need to feel a connection straight away if it's going to be worth going after it. Unfortunately I haven't felt that since I got destroyed mentally by onesis 3 years ago due to the fact I thought failure was my fault. For some reason I keep thinking that you must feel a great sense of attraction towards a girl before you make an effort. This means that I never take the time to get to know girls and connect that way.

As probably feminine and gay as this sounds I actually have a belief in love at first sight and have always wanted a girlfriend under similar terms like that. I'm nearly 20 now and actually haven't had a gf because all the girls that liked me 'didn't feel right'. The honest reason I'm in this situation is because of myself. The belief that having an amazing relationship with someone you really like is ruining my mindset.

Can someone steer me in the right path.
Are you just meant to have a girlfriend who is great to be around?
Is a girlfriend someone who your majorly attracted to and hang out with?
When do you know it's time to make her your gf?

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With the way society has been designed today, at lot of relationships are doomed to failure. Also many couples group up for financial reason today. Honestly dude, it sounds like you still haven't got over your last relationship. I don't see why you in a desperate search for a girlfriend. Maybe you should consider being more open minded and taking things one step at a time. Have sex with some other girls. Let go of this idea of finding the perfect girl. No girls perfect. Just enjoy women. When you find one worthy of having a relationship with you'll just know. You wont have to ask us

this is ridiculously good advice.

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Thanks Mack

I'm going to +1 this for emphasis.

Thanks for your advice. I guess I may be looking too hard when I just need to chill. However one of my main concerns that I have is that a lot of my friends from back home have in my eyes 'settled'. A few have girlfriends that drive them mad and complain about them all the time, heck they've even said they've downgraded in the looks department as well. However they also have times when they say they really like them as well. From my honest perspective I have more attractive and more energetic girls that liked me than their GF's yet I still felt that It didn't feel right or I didn't feel majorly attracted.

I think I'm just going to chill for a bit and date a few girls. The down side to that is that many like to play hard to get and are extremely hard to get out, even for a game of pool and a chat. Some of these girls aren't even that attractive. So to say the least i'm in a hard situation. Do I just have a girlfriend who is attractive socially and I like being around but doesn't feel right or do I bust my balls trying to date many girls who aren't even that attractive but still give me a hard time trying to get them out? Guess time will tell ...

I said this many times, it is better to start backwards, start with sexual relations, and then work your way to a relationship, also date anywhere from 3 to 5 girls using my strategy, out of that pool then you pick your girlfriend, if meets your goals, i put down in a sheet of paper everything i wanted in a girlfriend visualizing, and did not settle till i found that girl... But remember always work backwards, sexual relations first, then girlfriend..

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If you are not attracted to any girls you have met in life, there is a large possibility you are swinging for the wrong team champ! Jk

Yo;

Life, is a battle field. It punches you in the face everymorning you wake up till you go to bed. Everything is a challenege, from makin ur breakfast to paying your bills. If you dont have the right attitude you WILL loose, go depressed or become a social retard like majority of people.

Bad things happen, such is life. You must forget what happened to you and move forward. You have a life time ahead of you. IF for any reason you blame yourself for past you simply loose your future opportunities. Remember we all have made mistakes, God knows if I wanna think about mistakes I made with my ex I should shoot myself in the head.

Get out, go get what you deserve, dont be ordinary and logical, accept life is a tragedy, prepare, get ready, learn what you need to go get it.

Yes love at first sight attitude is great , you already have what you need to feed you for the rest of your life.

Meet as many people as you can, increase your changces of meeting the one as you do that.

Good luck (also check my videos, got some stuff on positive good attitude)

Best of luck

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Nathan Griffin

Alot of people are in the same situation. Maybe your not over your oneitis?

You should really try to try out more girls. Not all great relationships start out with love at first sight.
Go out with some girls. Have some fun. If the girl/girlfriend isnt great to be around, then you obviously have a valid reason to dump her on the spot.

You'll know when its time to make her your gf when you feel like it.
What are you looking for? Marriage or MLTR's? etc.
Everything comes down to you in the questions.