Chelios you seem like a cool dude but you totally have one-itis right now.

Listen to your posts. You're freezing her out, you're setting boundaries, but only for a few days and then you're back on the hook. Whatever strategy you're using right now, it's still all about her.

I know this because I was in the same exact place two years ago. I met this girl in college through a mutual friend. Back in my AFC days I was a bit lovestruck because this girl was funny, cool, and sexy as hell. But like your girl she had been used a lot by guys so she was carrying around serious emotional baggage. She told me she liked me but she kept hesitating to commit. She'd get jealous when I started hanging out with other girls but when I spent time with her, she'd shy away from anything too serious and would always try to 'slow things down'.

Even back then before I got into this whole PUA thing, I knew that the worst thing you could do was be a chump. A lot of my buddies had experience with girls so they told me to push and pull and all that stuff. I'd do exactly what you're doing. I knew she was unstable but deep down I knew I liked her. And I was too much of a nice guy to put my foot down too hard. This crap went on for half a year bro. Biggest waste of time ever.

Finally one day I said screw it. I was so sick and fed up. I shut her out for good. Summer was coming and I wasn't going to waste my time following her damn bread crumbs anymore. My buddies and I planned a trip to China. So for three months we had a great time hitting on girls and partying and seeing the sights. Lo and behold she'd flood my facebook with messages, asking me where I was, how I've been. Saying she missed me.

But by now I wasn't even faking it. I had truly moved on. I started dating this girl in China. She was an American there to have fun with her friends, like I was and we hit it off great. Nothing serious but it was laid back and chill. Anyway, my other girl freaked out. Word must have gotten back to her through out mutual friends that I had seriously moved on. And she could feel it too. So she'd be calling me, telling me she was ready to be serious. Saying she had sorted her emotions out and was ready to go to the next level.

But I didn't feel anything for her anymore. I was polite and I told her I wanted to just be friends. And I treated her like a friend from then on. To this day she still texts me wanting to hang out and facebook stalks me.

And dude let me tell you it was only then when I realized just how true all this PUA stuff was. You really have to be willing to lose it all if you want the girl. I'm not just talking about playing her hot and cold. I'm talking about deep down willing to just walk away and never look back. And the moment she realizes that too, nothing she can say or do will give her the power back.

Wish I had had the guts to just cut her out long ago when I still had feelings for her. Things might have turned out differently.

You really have to be willing to lose it all if you want the girl.

I like that statement. In the context of her behaving badly though. My biggest problem has been playing it too cool and missing the boat - they weren't behaving badly, they were advancing, and I wasn't responding. Friend-zoned.