Seeing that a newbie question got 3 pages of replies, I was intrigued.

Resurrection - guess what, life doesn't 'kick you in the teeth'. You want to know the better part? Life doesn't CARE about you. It isn't even aware of your existence.

You want to know a little secret? There's only one person who really, in all honesty, cares about your success. Nobody cares about your success anywhere near as much as you yourself.

You say none of us understand you because you've been through a lot. Guess what buddy, you don't understand us either. Everyone here has had some past experiences. We're all coming from somewhere else. If you need help, as you claim you do, help the people here understand where you're coming from. You wanna shroud yourself in mystery, be my guest. But don't expect real answers. I cannot get inside your head. You have to come out to me.

How can you change? I don't know. I can tell you how I have changed my life. But I'm not gonna bother writing it all down here for you. I'll give you the starting point. I started to change after reading David DeAngelo's books. After that came watching his seminars. I'll tell you the rest once you plough your way through this material. I could put a couple hours of effort into spelling it out here for you, but I don't care that much.

I care just barely enough to write this post. Get back to me once you start following the advice the guys have given you here - it's all gold. Once you start following the advice, I may start caring a little more - just enough to give you the next piece.

Ice, Fiction, Nomadic, Rye, Roads, mozy - I envy your patience guys.

Resurrection - PM me if you do any of the stuff I recommended here. I won't bother checking this thread until then. Ta-ta.

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On we plough.

Love,

Ace

This thread is ace anyone looking to change their lives for the better should start by reading this thread, it has so much great advice in it.

Its also a perfect way to show the difference between a PUA and an AFC.


Res : When i say lazy i mean mentally lazy, your attitude stinks. All i'm hearing is I want it now and if i don't get it i'm going to stamp my feet and threaten to kill myself. Well that is tough !!! There is no magic formula. (Well David D's CF stuff is pretty close)

You have a lifetime of programming, neuroses and social conditioning to undo if you think that can be done overnight my god your naive.

It doesn't take long to start to change and see results, but like everything in life you have to be committed.

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"Nobody ever gets what they deserve out of life, they get what they believe they deserve."

YOU CANNOT HAVE POWER, HAPPINESS, AND INTELLIGENCE WHILE LOATHING IN SELF PITY

YOU MUST LOSE SELF PITY.

IT IS THE ULTIMATE POWER DRAINER. YOU WILL NEVER HAVE ANYTHING YOU WANT IN LIFE WHILE HAVING SELF PITY. VICTIM MENTALITY WILL HOLD YOU BACK FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE

YOU CAN BE ANGRY ABOUT THINGS. GET IT OUT OF YOUR SYSTEM QUICKLY THOUGH. SOMETHING BAD HAPPENS IN YOUR LIFE SAY "FUCK THAT SUCKS" AND MOVE ON.

SELF PITY IS THE ULTIMATE BALL AND CHAIN ATTATCHED TO YOUR ANKLE.



FIND SOMETHING WORTH WHILE RIGHT NOW IN YOUR LIFE. FOCUS ON THAT. AND START SOME NEW SHIT. GET INVOLVED WITH NEW THINGS THAT INTEREST YOU. INVOLVED IN SOCIAL GROUPS AND SPAM. I DONT CARE WHAT IT IS. A CLUB SPORTS TEAM, BOOK CLUB, MUSICAL GROUP, A NEW JOB SOMEWHERE

DO SOMETHING AND GET OUT OF SELF PITY!


"CANT BE LET DOWN IF YOU DONT EXPECT THE WORLD"

"STAY POSITIVE AND LOVE YOUR LIFE"

"ONE DAY YOU'LL SEE BEYOND THE GRAY SKY AND SEE THE CLEAR BLUE"

Oh please everytime you open your mouth you talk even more bollocks.
Take your face for a shit mate as you obviously know nothing about me but still continue to talk complete rubbish

Why dont you tell us about you instead of crawling up in your little ball that you feel safe in and move out of your comfort zone to make changes in your life?

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I'd rather go out swinging than strike out looking.
A lifestyle is a terrible thing to waste.
What I say when I see her is what I'll say.

I know seriously. He must enjoy feeling shitty.

Change is hard, but it is possible. Attracting women and turning your life around is like losing weight. You have built up a lot over the past, you dont see immediate results despite the diet and exercise, but eventually you do reach your goals. You are not going to all of a sudden gain success by flipping open a book and going out a few times. You fail a hundred times but in the end its worth it because you learn each time you fail.

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"To Give anything less than your best is to sacrifice the gift" -Prefontaine

Not a PUA just a girl offering my opinions/advice

Well resurrection? You've heard the crowd. They want to hear what's so bad, so they can give you the help you're looking for. It's now or never and this is one thing you DO have control over and can't blaim life for.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

I'm really inclined to think this is a troll as well, but there is a possibility he's not. I know people that can act kind of like him, none that have all of these negative traits, but some that have a few.

If you're honestly not a troll, to be blunt if you don't want help then go and let yourself rot. And you don't want pity? Ha.

If you're for real, and your responses are for real, you're not looking for a solution. You're looking for sympathy and pity and people to agree with you that you have such a terrible life and that 'fate' keeps you at the bottom, kicking you in the teeth for fun. You're not going to find it on a self help forum.

Looking for a solution? Yes definately
Pity? No chance


I am all for changing my life and getting the life I really do deserve but with all the things around me going wrong it is preventing it from happening, and I cant change these things around me It would be like asking me to change the weather. It cant happen its just natural causes.

lol ...So creating this thread wasnt to seek pity?

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"To Give anything less than your best is to sacrifice the gift" -Prefontaine

Not a PUA just a girl offering my opinions/advice

First of all please don't deny that you at least were looking for pity. You wouldn't be overdramatizing if it wasn't for that. It's not a deadly sin.

But anyway, do you think the rest of us can magically change the world around us? No. But we can change ourselves and influence what happens to us by making things happen. What is so bad in your life that prevents you from doing anything?

No one ever said that things would be easy, they never are, life is'nt easy, what is?

My life's not great either, but you wont hear me complaining about it, all you can do is get on with things. surely the only way is up, if there are area's of your at rock bottom. All you gotta do is figure what the main problems are and try to change them, TRY very fucking hard, like i said its never easy, but very achievable.

I think this thread should be locked cus i cant see it moving in a position direction.

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To effectively communicate, we must realise that we are all different in the way we percieve the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.

You are beating around the bush. What do you have? 1 leg? No penis? A missing eyebrow? 3 nipples? What the fuck?

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I'd rather go out swinging than strike out looking.
A lifestyle is a terrible thing to waste.
What I say when I see her is what I'll say.

You don't deserve anything.

"Nobody can give you freedom. Nobody can give you equality or justice or anything. If you're a man, you take it."
~ Malcolm X

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Lo' there do I see My Father.
Lo' there do I see the line of My People, back to the beginning.
Lo' they do call to me, they bid me take my place among them.
in the Halls of Valhalla, where the brave may live forever.

resurrection 08 in life you don't have good or bad luck, you can only make your own luck and PU is the way to do.

on a side note I have read MM and the Game but I want to read David D's stuff. Ace of Spades or anyone else where can you actually buy anything by David D, I looked on amazon but there was really nothing?