Thanks, you are right, I will reply in full soon, also she never told me what things made her uncomfortable, I just got the whole "you should know" thing.

You are absolutely right blackendstars and I was just foolish to think that a new Friendship would work with her, it really won't as all I see is more drama with her in the future and I won't be contacting her again.

She moves upstairs to an another office on Friday and it is absolutely for the best, I can't talk to her because she pisses me off and I can't believe that the "harassment" thing was seen as a drunken joke, but nobody told me?...Friends do not put each other through this kind of bullshit.

I have forgiven her and moved on and I have also noticed exactly how much of an attention seeker she is and how annoying she is, my life will be so much better off without her, I am actually really glad I never slept with her as well, she is the kind of girl that would ruin my relationship and go around telling everyone that we slept together, she has a bit of a rep for sleeping with dudes from the office as well and they end up avoiding her and not talking to her lol...she has a fair bit of growing up to do...and so do I this was a test and learning curve for me.

Hey neo87,

I did say I would reply back to you in full (and this is not me over analyzing or looking at every little detail, you told me I was being vague so I hope this gives you more insight) nothing has ever happened between me and this girl, we have been out drinking a lot and clearly enjoyed each others company, she would often buy me drinks and we would talk and laugh, we have both flirted with each other (in the past few months) and neither of us acted on it, our Friendship started to change and get weird when we did a course together and I told her that the tutor was flirting with me because she kept touching me on my back and my hand, she didn't like it and came up with an excuse that I didn't want her help during the course (which was bullshit) and she said "we should have a talk sometime, but not now, when the time is right" so I said let's talk after the course and we did and she got all pissy at me, she often got pissy at me to be honest and would skulk around the kitchen when I sat with other female co-workers, she also put her head down when I mentioned another girl and would often ignore texts if I mentioned her.

If you go back over my posts you will see that I have said to her numerous times that we are good friends and I have never made a move on her or come onto her, I admit that I did send her some flirty texts but she always texted back and laughed and said things like thanks or she would compliment me on my clothes or haircuts, I used to get a lot of Facebook messages from her and I have one where she listed all the things I have done after she said she wanted to keep her distance (ie ignoring her, being cold to her, being mean to her etc)

She also said that she can't even put into words why I made her feel uncomfortable and I wouldn't want to anyway because I didn't think you knew why anyway."

Again, she never told me what made her feel uncomfortable or that she wouldn't feel uncomfortable being alone with me and it was clear that was all bullshit as we spent a good 20 minutes alone in each other's company talking on Friday night and she also followed me around the bar that night.

I suspect that perhaps she used to get really pissed off at the times I would walk off on her and then text her the reasons why, I would never say that they had anything to do with her, but in hindsight I should have just left it alone, I was just trying to be polite...but yeah dumb move haha

She also said this to me on Facebook when she told me I was talking about her behind her back (I was but not in a bad way)

"No I discussed this situation with her (her friend) so I could get her opinion. As in basically asking if I was reading too much into it."

If you have anymore questions, I'd be happy to answer them neo87, I am done with this girl, I haven't contacted her in anyway or form since Friday night and I already feel free

Well it has been a while since I posted and I don't talk to this girl at all, a simple Hello and that's it, if we are out at the same place, I acknowledge her but I don't engage with her, she is a smack talking gossip/drama Queen that I don't trust at all and the reason for my posting is that she is getting moved back to my office next week, I'm not overly happy about it and I just want to ignore her but I feel that is unprofessional and will only make me look bad in the workplace, any advice here please fellas?

Quick Update: I keep my distance from her and have done since I last posted, I hardly talk to her, in fact I ignore her and only discuss work issues but she always seemed to be around my area, looking for excuses to talk another guy (gay) on my team, it just seems blatantly obvious that this is just to get my attention and other people have pointed out how much she looks at me, I've asked them to stop because I don't care.

I just want to know if I can on a professional level tell her to go away?, this girl is so annoying, she whistles all day, talks and laughs loudly and actually disturbs a few of her co-workers.

I grew up and realized how much of a pain in the ass she is and I don't like her, sure if I wasn't taken, I'd bang her into 2020 but I could imagine that she would tell everyone and make my life hell and she is just not worth the drama, all she has done is make me out to be the bad guy.

I am looking for other work as I need a fresh start but in all honesty, ignoring her can be quite draining and while I don't care what other people think, it does affect the team morale, I just need some advice here.

Thanks

She is your co-worker. You're bound to be on teams with people you don't like. That's part of life. Deal with it and don't react in a negative way. Let her pass right through you and be professional.

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Thanks, it is hard though, she just annoys the shit out of me, I'm confused as to why I think about her and all of the BS we have been through, I honestly don't care anymore but I guess because things are unresolved it's the reason?