Girl/Guy: "Do you think she is hot?"
Me: *look at the girl she's asking about and then without pausing to think about it* "Yep."

If the person is asking about someone that isn't there, then just say "yes" right away. That's assuming that you think the girl is hot of course. If not, then say no. The point isn't the answer, the point is just to say what you actually think and not worry about what they think about your answer. You have to be confident in yourself and the fact that you can think/feel anyway you like. Hell if I'm in a relationship with a girl I'd tell her if I thought someone was hot, I just would let her know that I like her better and that I'm not gonna act on it.

Girl: "Do you think she's hotter than me?"
Me: "I never really thought about it. You're the one I'm interested in, so I don't really care if she is or not."

That reply could just as easily be used for the first question too.

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Okay Rye, do you know of anyplace, on the forum or off, where I could find some good bf destroyers. It has been awhile since I read any?

On to my real question. The HB7 w/ the bf I have seen a few times and negged her about how she is stalking me and a terrorist. She even said that I was funny and can tell she is somewhat interested. Because of her bf, she gave me her email. With email, would you recommend communicating in more of a rapport building fashion (as much as one can over the internet) or go more negging, push-pull, false disqualifying associated with the last time you saw each other in person?

Here is my message:

(Fluff story)

The number of times we have run into each other makes me believe you either like me, or are obsessed with me. Too bad I am not into sleeper-cell terrorists. You might actually have a shot.

(Another rapport question)

Seperate question from today (10/24/08 )

Email-closed another HB7.5, attractive in sort of subtle way, very cool. Anyway she was at work and unable to give me her digits. She said "Well I normally don't give out my number at work." How would you respond to that? Would you push the frame with something like "Well I am not a normal guy," or something to that effect. I told her I respected that. but I got her email and name so that I could facebook her.

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My goal: To become a Pickup Artist in everything but name.

And yeah, This is (still) just the beginning.

Hey

Im going to a wedding next week, the wedding party will most certainly be hairdressers or the sort as the bride has a salon, its the perfect opportunity to practice.

Im not bad with the openers to point of hey how do you know the bride /groom etc, seems a bit afc to me, can anyone give me some suggestions as to what would be a great opening and how to transition ive read all the theory but not had the opportunity much to practice.


Looking forward to a successful night, thanks in advance for your help

Hey Rye. Right, I'll be as conscise as possible: I pulled a HB at a party, made all the right moves, and wound up spending all Sunday morning in bed with her. She was very into me, holding, kissing, light foreplay. Come 2 o'clock, suddenly she turns. Goes a bit awkward, hints that she's busy and has got stuff to do. I ask her why, says she has to 'see a friend in hospital', which I don't quite believe, it sounds as if she's just trying to get rid of me. Maybe she sobered up, maybe I outstayed my welcome. My friend thinks I should have left early, left her wanting more. I think he's right.

My questions to you: What happened?? Why did she turn? And what can do to turn the situation round?

Bear in mind that I made a bit of a mistake just before I left: I asked her "So how do you see this, as a one night stand, or you wanna see me again?"

She said she'd like to see me again, but when she's sober!

I told her I'd call her in a couple of weeks

Help would be appreciated big time, she's very beautiful

thanx

hey i got a friend and we are each other's wingmen. since we just entered college the girls have matured so it's a little different. he gets girls by looks and not game. i've opened girls geting them interested but i now run out of things to say a little bit after i talk to them. then i brush it off by saying i have to get to my friends.

my question is what do i talk about with the girls? how do i keep the conversation going? I am just so intimated by the new college girl crowd that i don't really know how to change my game in this new situation at parties and clubs. thanks a lot man.

Seeing as you're at a wedding, you are doing what is called a "warm approach". You've already got an "in", so you don't have nearly as much resistance. As such, you really don't have an issue transitioning to normal conversation, you just start talking to them about whatever. In reality, it's that simple in pretty much any situation, but when you're at an event like a party or a wedding, it's even simpler. Just say, "Hi, I'm _____" then roll with it.

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I'd say you're right about leaving earlier being more beneficial to you. You don't want to give someone their fill of something, because if you do, then they won't crave more very soon. I wouldn't be too concerned about it though man, those sorts of things happen when people realise they've spent half the day in bed with someone they just met the night before and the buzz is wearing off. Doesn't mean she isn't still interested, she just started to feel awkward and needed some time and space to process things. Hell, I do the same thing when I have my guy friends crash at my place! If they're still around past noon I start feeling crowded and honestly want to tell them they've got to go. I still like the guys, I just need some space after someone crashing at my place.

Although the question of whether it was a one night stand, or something more is a bit of a social faux pas, again it's not that big of a deal. She said she's interested in seeing you again, so take her up on it. I personally wouldn't wait more than a week though, or she's apt to lose interest. Since you told her you'd call in a few weeks, you'll have to say something like, "I was thinking about how much fun we had together the other night and I wondered 'why wait?'" or "I'm planning on doing _____ and I figured it would give us a chance to hang out again now rather than in a few weeks." Play it off cool, it's not a big deal, but I'd personally mention why you changed your mind about waiting a few weeks, otherwise she might think you are just looking to get into bed with her again and that's all.

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What would you talk about with your friends? What would you talk about with anyone that you just met that you think would be interesting, as well as convey a sense of who you are?

Personally I find that people always find ways to talk about what they're interested in and passionate about in life, because they ARE interested in those things. Talk about what you're interested in and why, what it means to you, etc. Talk about what she's interested in and really listen when she's talking. The best thing you can do is listen to her and understand who she is as a person, so that when you say something back it will be something that may interest her as well.

It really doesn't matter what you're interested in, just as long as you're really interested in it and not just pretending in order to sound cool. If you're absolutely passionate about playing video games, it's better to talk about that than it is to talk about something that you think women would be interested in, but aren't interested in yourself. Now when she's talking about stuff that you aren't all that interested in, I'm not saying steer the conversation away or ignore her, I'm just saying when it comes to your turn to share. When it's her turn, find value in whatever it is she's talking about.

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Well now that you've been through the first call, you can loosen up and try again while being a lot more relaxed. You didn't die, right? Great, so it isn't gonna hurt to give it another try in a few days if she doesn't call you back.

To be perfectly honest, I don't think I've met anyone that can call a girl that they are legitimately interested in and not get somewhat nervous, so it's perfectly understandable and she'll understand that too. What matters is that over time you get used to the fact that it isn't all that hard and you can call a girl without anything bad happening, so you should be having fun with it instead. This may take a bit of time and experience, but don't stop trying because of that. I still get nervous as hell when I'm calling a girl that I'm truly interested in and that only proves to me that I actually like her and that I haven't become a robot yet.

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Thanks a lot man this really helped

Glad to be of help Ghetto!

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theres this girl in my class, so we had to arrange chairs in the class, and this short girl was carrying this big chair with her, so im gave her this sarcastic look and said"I don't think thats a great idea missy" that girl stopped and looked at me and asked "what", well anyways, I looked bhind her and this girl gave me like a big smile and walked pass me. So then like at the end of the day, we had this map plotting thing, and I tried to ask her for some points. I called at her name like several times, but then she just sorta ignored me.. I was never ignored like that in my life!!! OMG!!, whats wrong with this girl? I'm not sure if i'm loud enough, im pretty loud...

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Hello Rye Lee, two questions for you.

First, I have trouble portraying a playful tone. Things I think I say in a playful voice end up going bad.

Second, Can you give me a basic outline of kino escalation in a sarge? Like what happens first and so on.Thanks.

Okay i'm back again rye

Last night i went out to a concert and these girls sat/stood in the row in front of us. They were a little buzzed and were dancing the whole time. One girl asked me to take a picture of all of them. They were Hb 7-8. I didn't really know what to say since there were four of them it was a little more than i was used to. She made eye contact with me all night and I never got the balls to say anything else. Then they left.

Where did i go wrong/ what should i have done different or said?

thanks a lot man

what's up rye lee i need some expert help in this situation i meet an interesting girl she is around "8.5 / 9 " this girl wasn't be in a relationship for a long time and she broke a lot of hearts "serial heartbreaker" cause she wanna be free ...she told me that when we first meet "she was talking about her self" anyway i don't give a shit to all what she said all i do is play her so damn good using all the strategy i have learned from david d's materials so i get access to a lot of things that no guy before me had done " is to get close to her in a romantic way" so one night we was talking on the phone and i told her why you don't give your self a chance and give me mine too to try something together "just to make things official " she agreed but the next day she changed her mind saying that she wanna stay like that but me i want her as my girlfriend .. so the question is do i accept the "special friend " status and keep playing her or left all this and move on to other thing " she is the only one that gets my feelings involved i like her but i like my self more " so all i want now is some help to be sure of the decision i'll make .... i'll enjoy your help

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