| Ok, time to enter Economist nerd mode! (Sirens blare)
There are two ways to look at costs. The basic one is what you lose. You go to the store, buy a gallon of milk, the cost is the money you pay, what you lost. If you game a girl and buy her a drink, that was the cost, the $5 you spent buying her a drink.
A better, more accurate description of cost is clearly defined as opportunity cost. Just like it sounds, opportunity cost is the missed opportunity that results from using any resource. It is the best alternative given up by your use of finite resources that not only includes money, but time, energy, even emotional investment. If I go out and buy a case of beer, I think of the cost as what else I could use that $20 to buy. I mean, that could get me food, gas, or even simpler I could use the money for liquor instead of beer. The point is that if I can clearly find a better use for it, I shouldn't buy it huh? It's an issue of maximizing your resources.
Here we are talking about money, because it would spend a significant amount to travel 150 km to see a girl, as well as time and effort. What are you getting by spending the time and putting the energy into this girl? If you aren't getting anything back right now, you're getting nothing. As for cybering, you're getting a stripshow, and trust me sex is better than anything virtual. We can never get time back, and you could spend the time "online gaming" to study so you can do better in school, or work out so you can feel better about approaching women in person, or you can use that time and work to actually deal with the women who surround you in every day life. If done right, that can get you immediate satisfaction, or a realistic chance at a relationship that can make you a happier person. The possible rewards and the honest chances of getting them are far higher in those scenarios than what you're doing right now.
You're not "giving up," you are using your limited resources in a better fashion.
Aaaaaaand geek time is up.
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