The problem i'm having is that i'm secretly hoping for us to get back together one day.

I'm not over her.

I'd rather be, but I'm not. Which kind of sucks.

well at least your experiencing some emotions ... better than nothing otherwise it would be boring as fuck.

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Yeah like they say "Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all".. Right now still feels pretty shitty tough.

I just don't want to turn out to be like some of those losers who can't get over there first love for years, because I always thought those dudes where pussies. But truth is I just couldn't relate to them back then.
For those of you who haven't love and lost (me not so long ago), its tougher than it looks.

Now I just need to get over this girl and stop fantasizing about getting her back one day.

If only my heart could listen to my mind & d**k...

I have been through exactly the same thing recently. It was the first time I actually had genuine feelings for a girl, but at some point she told me she didnt want to be in a relationship anymore. To hear that from her was like getting stabbed and I didnt know what to do, though we kept seeing eachother and even had sex a couple of times. What I did not realise, was that keep seeing her only makes it more painful. You'll sit next to her, but you can't kiss her.

Eventually youll have to accept that she will move on and when you still have feelings for her that could get really though. If you really value her as a person, you can always initiate contact when you have processed all this, but as for now, not keeping contact in any way is truly the best way to come around. Seriously, continue with things you did before you met her, hang out with friends, go out, go on a vacation with friends, Fuck ten other women, actually anything that keeps you occupied. Good luck bro!

I even did this as well, you're thinking of the good times you guys had together, but you should know this: Once a heart has been broken, it's hard to fix again and even if you manage to get it together, the cracks will remain. Things wont be the same as before, as hard as that might be to accept. It's best to get her out of your mind completely!

Thanks for all the great answers!
Does anyone know some material about post-breakup? How to rebuild your frame, forget your ex and stuff like that? It would truely help thank you. I am in code red wimp mode again, really need to get back on the horse.

This is no real answer.

Well there is, but it is what everyone else is saying. Take action and try to hook up with other girls. Build that attractive lifestyle.

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And if shit wasn't tough enough, I just found out she has a new boyfriend..

Well thats actually a good thing to move on, while she was single you still though you could be with her again, now with her with a boyfriend you can say to yourself "OK theres is now 0% chance of getting her, time to move on for now"

Dont know if it helps, good luck