I'll be straight with you. You have acted like an AFC who watched The Pick Up Artist. You're stuck on her. Your cocky/funny is barely cocky and even less funny.

You messed up here, move on and try again. Your window of opportunity is officially CLOSED.

Thank dude, and yes I'm still in learning process, ofc I made AFC mistakes. However, can you point out the mistakes so I can improve at least? And if it was you, what would you do or say to make a difference?

Not sure if I told you this, but I definitely know I made a thread on what to do after you get a number. In this thread I lay out all the fundamentals that have worked for me to get a date with a girl.

First off, it's about what YOU want and what works for you. You text her with a plan of what you want to do, when you want to do it, and the time you want to do it. If it doesn't work for her, then all you say is OK. At that point she should give you an alternative. The fact that you left it up to her gives her too many options and shows her that you don't have anything else better going on besides going out with her.

You then only contact her the day of the date. The fact that you contacted her before the day of saying that you wanted to know so you can make plans is wrong wrong wrong. You left the ball in her hands to pick and choose leaving you waiting for an answer as to whether you actually had a date.

After she said Tuesday was a go, you continued to contact her with the whole smiling thing. To me, it came off more as sweet than cocky and funny.

The fact that she canceled on you and didn't give you an alternate date means she's not interested.

As for a word for word of what I would have said, it could have been many things. Can't really say for sure.

First off, I make plans with her and she flakes. If she gave me an alternate date, we're cool. If not, I lose her number, end of story.

If I go with the alternate date, I don't bother contacting her at all until the day of and on that day I send her something the day of to make sure the light is still green. If she flakes again, I lose her number. End of story.

These are the rules I follow and they have always worked for me. If she flakes with no alternate date, her number is deleted and I go on to the next one. That's the beauty of gaming. There are too many women in the world to be worried about a what if with one. I think of the what if with the other women that I haven't gamed instead.

Thank thumper, I'll keep an eye on those things in the future.
And yea normally I follow the same rules as you. And I always wait till the girl txt me on the date to confirm.
I made the plan according to my schedule twice for lunch, but it didn't work out, so she asked my schedule, that was the canceled date last week.
For some reason, this week I was being an AFC and planned according to her schedule instead. I reap what I sow
I just wanted to know the root of my problem so I can fix it.

Like others have said you are the one in control. Maintain that. Be cordial, but never bend over backwards catering to her needs especially in the beginning. If she doesn't make a counter offer after she turns down your plan she's done. Toss her number. That's how I play it as well.

The only text back to her should have been, "I'll pick you up at 7:00 on Tuesday." and left it at that. "I want to know, so I can make plans." sounds pushy and takes away from the mystery of what you might be doing. You're trying to rush the gaming in the texting too soon. You're saying entirely too much before the date and hurting your chances in the process. Slow down, and save all that for face time.

I know others do it, but I never call or text to confirm the date after it is made. If she remembers a date made five days out and shows on time that is telling of her interest level in you, and it also means she has integrity. Something lacking in a lot of the users out there today.

Don't respond to the text, throw the number in the toilet, chalk this up as a learning lesson, and move on.