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PostPosted: Wed Dec 08, 2010 11:44 pm 
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Just don't escalate...
I've been in this situation with a coworker (as an AFC, which I sort of still am), and not escalating can actually be akin to being nonreactive and actually make her want you more (especially if you're teasing her and being naturally Cocky and Funny™ without ever having read DeAngelo and being completely unaware of pickup)...

But I think the answer is pretty simple here, just state or otherwise imply that you don't date people you work with under any circumstances, unless of course you're in a job where that's obviously not true because its not your career or the restaurant industry (in which everyone fucks each other) or something...
"not escalating can actually be akin to being nonreactive and actually make her want you more "

I think this is exactly what has happened.

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I've had to LJBF ex-girlfriends (I actually wanted to be friends with them, and am) and I've also done it to a few girls that were attracted to me. It depends on the personnality of the woman we're talking about, but in most cases so long as you have a legitimate reason:
- I'm really into someone else
- I'm not ready for a relationship yet

they'll back off abit, if you want to keep them as a friend after this point you'll need to put in the effort to let them know you want to be friends, but as with men when we're LJBF'd some women will back off because they feel as though they got shot down.

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I have however found that some women are a little more agressive, and that even if you LJBF'd them with a legit reason.. they'll go after you that much more. They'll tell you that they just want to be friends with you and then consistently try to seduce you.
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Best advice I could give you would be:
1) give them a reason that won't hurt their feelings but that gets the message across (you have to believe this reason cause if you don't it'll show in your body language)

2) Try to maintain the friendship by hanging out with them in very friendly contexts (ex: don't take her out for supper)

3) Stand your ground (if she starts trying to seduce you, let her know that you're just not looking for that)

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I'll try. But she's that resolve draining grey area. I don't honestly believe she is long term material but if she hangs around me long enough sooner or later I will have a moment of weakness. But when it's over I'll come to realize she's not right for me and it will end. I did this once before and I don't really want to do it again.

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LJBF is an important concept to apply, but the mindset behind it is more important.

You need both the POWER to sleep with as many women as you want, through "alpha" behavior. And you need a high standard in which women must meet to sleep with you, and a higher standard for entering into a monogamous relationship.

The higher and more broad your standard is, the longer the application process will be. This application process can be brought out in a healthy manor through friendship, which avoids having to reject women after you've slept with them.

Your initial interactions with women set the basis of your relationship. Sleeping with someone is a basis of monogamy. If sleeping with a woman is the basis of your relationship from the beginning, once that ends, you have nothing to revert back to. This is what makes breakups very difficult.

If you befriend a woman, and say "Look, I am attracted to you, but I don't know that we are right for each other, so let's just keep this friendly and see where things go from there," the relationship you build from then on is of friendship and you can still hang out and gain all the social credit that comes along with being associated with beautiful women. If you enter into a sexual relationship from there, you always have the friendship to go back to, and you have a greater foundation of trust.

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Be nice to them..

Be honest about your expectations in the relationship from the beginning.

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