I broke up with a girl who I practically asked to marry after 4 years. It was a pretty messy break up.

Things will eventually get better. Go out with your friends. Join a gym. Do things that make you happy. Maybe try something you have always wanted to do like skydiving or something.


My biggest suggestion though is not giving into what I like to call the trap and try to beg for her back. I've had multiple friends who I have watch do this and is the reason why I thought they were weak individuals and took from their example of not doing this very same thing. They eventually would get them back but it was after their gf already cheated on them or did something else.

Well I broke up after a 13 year maariage a year ago and all that really helped was talking to people on YOUR SIDE who wasnt judgemental and always gave you support, - eg my sister and an old friend - pick up where you were before you started your relationship with her with the people you knew when you were in a good mood before and bit by bit you will sort your mood out and feel good again. It took me about 9 months to get better though but just stick at it- you WILL be ok- promise!

Oh and Facebook all your old friends and mates you can think of and chat to them online- you will soon remember the good times and become your old self again- best of luck!

i had a similar problem as you.

you see the mistake we guys make is that when we dont like something in the relationship, we think that in order to get the message accross to our gf, we should threatin to break up or even break up. i know i did this alot, and the only problem with this is that the whole time, in ur head ur hoping and praying that she begs for u bak and comes crawling bak.

lucky for me i realised it wasnt her i missed, it was the gf. the fact she was the only girl i had

ask urself, is it her i miss and want bak? or do i miss my gf and want my gf back. its a big difference.

if u decide its her, go to her house the next day, and stand outside her house untill she agrees to have a talk, do whateva it takes. after that one day, neva go back, and if she doesnt come bak to you, move on

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when a woman gets me down, i usually just validate their higher value by living in total misery. i make sure i let them know that im miserable, because thats usually attractive to a woman. then i apologize 100 times, because 99 usually isnt enough. i find that if i take the blame for everything, she will like me more. then lastly i confess my undying love and neediness. follow these steps and you'll be out of depression in no time, screaming "nailed it!"

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