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hey guys, theres this one girl. she sent me iois all the time and i got her number. she has an exboyfriend whos my friend and she still has feeligns for him, in fact they have rekindled their relationship in the past 2 weeks. Shes known for being flirty with lots of guys, but she gives me this look in the hallways and stuff because she knows im trying to persue her and i dont think she gives this look out to just everyone.
So the other day, i have my arm around her and then we part ways for like a minute, and then i come up from behind her (i dont know what came over me) but i grabbed her ass..pretty aggressively. she screamed so loud. And afterwards she gave me this look that wasnt playful or smiley which worried me. but the thing is i know she likes me, even if its just a little bit. so how do act now. oh and her ex boyfriend whos rekindling the flames, came up to me and told me not to grab her ass. so she obviously told him and i was wondering what this meant.
It sounds like she was interested, but you screwed it up by escalating improperly. A surprise ass-grab that causes her to scream is basically sexual assault. Women's body parts aren't just there for our pleasure, she has to be in a state that is receptive to that sort of thing before you just go and grab her ass. By not doing that you come off as a creep who objectifies women, which is a massive DLV. I doubt you'll be able to recover and salvage this one without letting a lot of time pass before talking to her again. You might have actually helped your friend get back together with her by giving him an opportunity to protect her from someone who doesn't know the difference between sexual aggression and sexual assault (but don't try and take credit for this, it will make you look pathetic).
Move on, find some other girl, and read Vin Di Carlo's e-book on escalation.
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