I'm sorry if I pissed you off. I'd be interested in hearing what exactly you're talking about if you wanted to elaborate a little. Will you tell us your story?

I really think that everyone nailed it in those first few posts. I need to quit blaming things and just except responsibility for everything.

So I guess I made the first step, but now I have to figure out where to go from here.

Hi, before you read this, don't make judgements about who I am because you don't know who I am. I can tell you that I'm a hard working nice guy with a descent job and I deserve to have a girlfriend like everyone else. I'm not even that bad looking.. not that I'm great looking or anything, but that' either here nor there.

I read the game about two years ago. I started studying pick-up very hard. I had no success with it. I honestly feel like I have a horrible curse set on me.

First off, I graduated college last year and moved back home. I don't hang out as much with the people I did in high school. I don't really have a lot of opportunities to meet people my age either. The thing is, I don't think there are a lot of people in my age group, which makes things even more difficult for me.

It's not like I'm not involved in anything. I work full time and I'm a member of networking group, where I'm getting to know a lot of people. Of course, they are almost all twice my age.

When I do get the opportunity to talk to a beautiful woman that I'm attracted to, there's never a spark any more. I do get the opportunities to talk to girls I would like to go out with, but they usualyl don't feel comfortable unless they know you from somewhere else. Nobody wants to go out with some guy that doesn't have a lot of friends his age.

I haven't had sex in five years and I feel like I'm just letting life pass me by. I don't go a day without thinking about these things. It's been this way for too long. I think getting a prostitute might be the best idea. I honestly think this is my only option.

Does anyone have any advice for me? Please don't be mean. It's not my fault I'm in this situation.

I now know enough about you to call you defensive, insecure, and weak. Why are you validating yourself to us?
Translation: You're arrogant, self-centered, and naive as to how the world works.

You're NOT a nice guy. (No one is)
You hate your job (It's either a good job, or NOT a good job)
And you don't deserve a girlfriend (You EARN a girlfriend by doing what WORKS)
Looks don't mean shit
It's YOU that matters (Your self)

...and your self is SHITTY and ROTTEN to the core. It can be fixed. We will do so, right NOW.
And you're still bitching about life? Waste of time if you think about it.
And you also THINK about it very hard, which is why you FAIL very hard.
Because you THINK negatively, instead of AT THE MOMENT, which is neither negative or positive, it just is.
No, you think too much.
Stop thinking in the past. Stop thinking in the future.

I can also tell you were bullied, ostracized, rejected, maimed, bitched, abused, outcasted, beatdown, mocked, ragged on, mindfucked, targeted, smacked around, gossiped about, trashed, and destroyed by "evil society which doesn't care about you".

...it's all bullshit bro.
You're living in a bubble. I will pop it for you. You will not like me for it. You might hate me for it, but I will pull you out of the dark fog. All I ask for you is to LISTEN TO WHAT I TELL YOU, 100%, NO QUESTION OR SECOND GUESSING.

If you do NOT listen to me, you will suffer. Simple as that.

Let us begin:
Congratulations. Good stuff.
No one ever does. It's life.
Bullshit. How about "Go outside and meet people"? Bars, museums, volunteering, social events. You're lying to yourself, and giving yourself a shitload of excuses. Shut the fuck up and leave your house. Period.
Are you fucking insane?
There are people EVERYWHERE you look!

You're sabotaging yourself dude. Look at the shit you rewind in your head everyday. It's fucking bullshit bro.
You aren't; are you not here bitching?
Work: Nothing new buddy. The WHOLE POPULATION is involved in "work".
What's your job?
They're probably creeped out by you before you even look at them. Why? Because of how YOU CARRY YOURSELF. Look at the venom you're spewing.
Not true. They LOVE meeting new guys, but with YOU...you're a pile of negative vibe-killing shit. You THINK too much, and you THINK NEGATIVELY. These two things alone make you uglier than a pile of rotten flesh.
Absolute bullshit. People like those who LIKE THEM. If you genuinely want to befriend people, you must first BE A FRIEND.

As of now, you're the scum of the earth; a sad, pathetic worm looking to take advantage of any kind gestures people throw your way. You're a fucking leech parasitic douchebag. Look at your behavior. No one wants to be around people like you. You think too much. You try to look for these complicated answers, when the answer is right in front of your fucking face.

Keep it simple. It's not that hard. You've been conditioned to THINK too much. Question everything; try to find meaning in the meaningless; be a smart, reputable thinker. BULLSHIT!

Be human. Be a friend. Be a kind spirit. Do NOT QUESTION WHAT WORKS!!!
Yet you say you're involved with people, you're a nice guy, you have a decent job, and deserve to have a girlfriend. There's a reason you haven't got laid in 5 years bub; you're a fucking life-draining parasite.
WHICH IS EXACTLY WHY YOU'RE SUFFERING AND NOT GETTING WHAT YOU WANT!!!!

Are you that blind?
I agree.
Fuck you! Don't THINK!
And prostitutes will make you feel like crap (And you could get tagged by a police trap)
You fucking bitch pussy motherfucker.
No it is not. You're pathetic dude.

You claim to be this NICE, HARDWORKING, DESERVING guy, yet you fail to secure a quality woman who, supposedly, "Wants" a guy like "you".

You have a college degree in god knows what, a "decent" (Read: Shitty) job you HATE and want to get out of, no friends to hang out with, and no sense of self-worth, yet, you say you DESERVE better.

You want better, EARN it.
Man, FUCK YOU! You need a mean edge to get you going, you fucking fairy bitch.

Look at your whining, babbling, shit-talking, and desperate attempt of validation. You think anyone else would care? They would shit on you, take advantage of your negativity, and stomp you to the curb to get the hot girl, the dream job, that steady stream of income, and everything else you want so dearly.

Do you know why?
Because of your behavior.

The following are the reasons why you suffer. I will tell you how to fix them. YOU ARE TO FOLLOW MY SOLUTIONS, TO THE TEETH, 100%, if you want positive results. If you do NOT follow my instructions, to the teeth, 100%, you will fail, and probably commit suicide.

And if you DO shoot yourself, I will not fucking care. No one else will either. Do you know why?

Because we all have our own pain, turmoil, and suffering. Why should we expend ourselves for YOU?

Mad at me yet? Want to kill me? I'm about to save your fucking life. Listen up.



1)You don't stay in the present. All that matters is RIGHT NOW. Right NOW, you are fuming mad, sad, angry, livid, confused, hurt, sadistic, and probably contemplating suicide. Good. Feel it. LIVE IT. You are HERE RIGHT NOW. As of NOW, I am NOW going to deliver you OUT of your misery, right NOW, and get you to a better position NOW. NOW is all that fucking matters. Your past does not matter. The future does not matter. NOW MATTERS. Now, as you read the following sentence: "The Pink Elephant uses it's flowery snout to drink out of the holy steel Keg of Samuel Adams Dry Ale", you are in the present, imagining a giant pink elephant in a frat house drinking out of a keg of beer. NOW, you are here.

You are here.
Right

NOW!

***Solution 1: Stay in the present. RIGHT NOW is all that matters. The present = NOW.


2)Stop thinking outside the present moment. No girlfriend? STOP THINKING! College sucked? STOP THINKING! You're here right NOW. No sex in 5 years? STOP THINKING! You're here right now. Job sucks? STOP THINKING!!!!!

Bills to pay? STOP THINKING!
Nothing works? STOP THINKING!
You think the girl from two weeks back likes you? STOP THINKING!!!!

It's too hard to not think? STOP FUCKING THINKING!!!
You feel bad? STOP THINKING!
I'm an asshole? STOP THINKING! (And I probably am. xD)


All that matters is right now.
Right here.

And right what your about to read:

3)Do, or do NOT. Do what works, avoid what DOESN'T WORK.

Example: Driving

What works: Driving with your hands, or NOT driving with your hands?

Well, you COULD drive with your feet, or mouth, or elbows, but nothing WORKS AS EFFECTIVELY AND EFFICIENTLY as driving with your hands.

Driving with your hands WORKS, NOT driving with your hands...DOESN'T WORK.

With women; having a positive attitude works. NOT having a positive attitude...DOESN'T WORK.

It's that fucking simple; thinking makes it complicated.

If you're NOT thinking on your problems, you're in the moment, with what you have already.

Now, if you're thinking IN THE MOMENT, you're IN THE MOMENT, which means you only have two directions: FORWARD or NOT FORWARD.

Do or Do NOT.

But, as of now, you will understand it a different way:

Do or NOT DO.

Seduce the girl or NOT seduce the girl.
Get money or NOT get money
Be negative or NOT be negative.

Do or NOT DO.



That's it. Follow those 3 steps.

1)Stay in the moment
2)Stop thinking (Outside the moment)
3)Do or NOT do.


THE REST STEMS FROM THOSE 3. Follow 100%, without question.


Also, you may be thinking "Easy for you to say, you fucking asshole. You never endured the pain I endured".





...I was bullied since 3rd grade, all the way up till my sophmore year in college. I was ostracized, ignored, bullied, mocked, abused, beat down, rejected, isolated, and hurt. I was urinated on in 5th grade, beat up by a girl, threatened with a knife for no reason, rejected by every girl I talked to, didn't go to prom, didn't go to junior prom, never had a girlfriend, sucked at every sport I did (except wrestling), became a video game addict, have only one friend whom I cherish like a brother, no friends from high school or college, never went to a party, and I currently spend my weekends alone, walking around NYC talking to people, going to bars and getting #s that end up not leading anywhere, as it ALWAYS is in life, and looking to graduate soon (Yes, I'm also 21, and younger than you), and I'm $65,000 in debt for student loans.



Wanna bitch about your life now asshole?
I thought so.

Let me know your course of action. I am here to help you, but you must be willing to ressurect yourself. You're either alive or dead.

Choose your difficulty level.

I wanted to reply to this because you remind me of me to the core. I was chronically shy through high school. I got bullied for a good five years which was the worst years of my life.

You know, the feeling of pure isolation. Desolation, sickness in the stomach. Then, as is so often the case, the victim becomes the perpetrator. I became the bully. Why should I have to go through that shit?? Someone else feel my pain. Pathetic.

Did I care? No I WAS the victim?

At uni I was a geek, I studied IT. When I should have been living the best years of my life I was studying. But I couldn't even do that. Because the 'no girlfriend' tag would consume me, I ruined my studies and thus my grades.

Everytime i went out i'd wonder if it would ever happen, if I'd ever get laid...Where's that girl who is going to save me?

Then someone introduced me to the game. And wow, I felt a new sense of being. I was picking up girls I wanted. But again because my core was still the same it never went anywhere.

Skip to age twenty five i was at my wits end. So i decide to rattle a prostitute hoping it would make me more dominant with women.

I want to talk about the dark side, if the mods will let me as a warning. Of course the effect it had is indescribable. Feelings of intense guilt paranoia. Nightmares. Not being able to look anyone in the eyes. . . Especially girls. Coupled with my already lack of success with women this resulted in everyone around me thinking I was gay thus increasing my paranoia!

Please I'm telling you now, do NOT sleep with a prostitute. The mind fuck is enough to kill your soul. I hope I can get over it, I really do...but sometimes I have my doubts. I look at myself in the mirror and see an empty vacant expression staring back.

Each day i wake up and think this is the shittest fucking feeling in the world. Let's end it. I hate the world.

But you know what. It's not the world that's to blame. It's me. I'm a life sucking parasite. It's no wonder no girls want to date me. All i have done is complain blame the past and look woefully to the future when I should have been doing things now. Fixing the wrongs.

You've been offered some good advice. Live in the now. Take a break from pick up if that is all you think about. I believe one day it will happen for me and you but only if we embrace the power of now. I hope you appreciate my openness. It's difficult for me to talk about, even on a forum full of strangers.