| I stumbled on this thread, few months old, but i'll comment. I'm currently kind of in a similiar situation (although more extreme).
In any event, it is very possible for a chick to be totally into you in real life and be flaky/distant with you over phone/text even if it was only a few days after you met (let alone a few months). I've seen it a few times in my personal life and I've heard about it from others as well.
This is why phone/text are usually only reserved for logisitics and organizing stuff. Personally, I don't think anyone fully understands text/email/online game very well. Especially in the long-term, it's very difficult becasue communication is mostly non-verbal anyways, and basically you are communicating to the chick in a diminished state. The least worst way in my opinion is video chat, but this is no replacement for face2face.
In any event, what the chick told you was probably the truth. She dosn't feel attraction over the phone. This dosn't mean if you met up and gamed her again, that she woulnd't be attracted again... i bet she would, but getting to that point will be hard, in some sense, you have to "start over."
I really think this is true, once you take it on the net (and the net is the primary driver of the relatinoship) the game is restarted and you have to think of it that way. Further, you can't really play the game very well in these mediums so it makes it even that much harder.
This may sound counter-intuitive, but i think if you really like a chick, and you're forced to take it online (distance/life circumstance/etc.), I think perhaps the only least-worst solution would be to minnimize contact and maintain a sort of 'stasis' state until she thinks of you again (and if you did your attraction right, she will).
As others have said, communicating with her (or attempting too) will only deflate attraction otherwise.
This owuld be an intresting project to work on, trying to build strategy for internet/online game where distance is a factor.
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