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I think the difference between us lies in how we perceive marriage. I don't see it as something profoundly different from a regular relationship. Getting a tax break, some documents, and exchanging rings are not good reasons for staying together. Married couples also have societal pressure to stick together which makes it harder to be objective about the sincerety of the relationship. Maybe the couples that don't marry just don't want to deal with that. I don't think they are any less desiring of a committed relationship. There's nothing wrong with having caveats to commitments. What's wrong with "We will always stick together as long as the relationship doesn't turn fearful and abusive"?
Marriage over the year has changed as far as its meaning and uses. Current day it is primary a business partnership if you will.
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With almost half of marriages ending in divorce (and rising), it's hard to think that one could know the validity of the commitments of a married couple. I don't think it's enough to say "we're commited" and many people act as if it is. This is why marriage is having trouble keeping up with modernity. Girls are dressing sexier, spouses are getting fatter, and sexual jealousy is still socially acceptable. This combined with the complacement notion that marriage puts some sort of protective barrier around the couple leads to failed relationships. EyeCrush even mentioned that marriage is possibly an antiquated human construct that could be phased out in the future. It looks even worse when you account for people who want to divorce but can't.
Marriage has been around for eons, and I doubt it will go away. Tho it will change into something else much like it has over the years.
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here are plenty of unmarried couples with more to lose than married couples.
How does an unmarried couple have more to loose than a married one?
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Oneitis is not completely accurate since I haven't even attempted a proper kiss close yet (we haven't even met outside of lessons yet). I'm also meeting other girls, but I don't write about them. In my original post it may appear that I plotted this large scheme to rip her out of her husband's arms (perhaps words like game were a bit strong), but I just had private lessons in private locations with some mild kino. Comfort comes natural for me with pretty much anyone. For lack of better terms, we clicked. If my goal was pre-mediated homewrecking, I would have sent all her e-mails to me to her husband.
I think you got the meaning of oneitits mix up here. As it has nothing to do with kissing a girl or not. Its about being infatuated in a girl, which you are. And there is no real proper kiss close either. You either get the kiss or not. And there are many ways to be a homewrecker.
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On another note, I think I have underestimated the power of PU and perhaps the powerful desires a woman can have for a man. It's like the struggle between self-responsibility and public interest. McDonald's is bad for you, but it's still your choice to eat it or not.
Very true.
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