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I just think if he said " haha so when are you free haha? So we can hang out Haha "
He'd be setting up to go on a date right now. Lol
She'd be like " haha I have class till late tomorrow haha i'm free on friday after 5 haha. Are you?"
And the he'd go " yes haha! I say we go see the avengers haha"
And she " haha awesome. Let's go haha. "
And then he " haha alright so what's your address haha? I can pick you up at 8 haha"
And she " haha alright. Here's my adress ___ ___ ___ cya soon! haha "
I think the "haha" was his form. Who's to say what form is superior. If my form gets me laid just like yours gets you laid, who's to say which is better. It's not about what you say, it's about how you say it.
I can get laid using tons of smilies or I can get laid using none at all. It makes no difference to me. I have the confidence to build rapport with a woman through any medium, any set of rules. It'll all get me to the same place, because it is not my words that gets the girl, it's my confidence.
Oh gawd I laughed so hard reading that.
Anyway, in my opinion it's not just about how you say it, but also about why you're saying it. If you send hahas every other text you're just fucking around. You went through the grind, you've had your training. Ofcourse you can get away with it.
With him? it's different. I could bet the reason he uses them is to reduce the riskiness of his message. To play it safe, in a way. It's like asking a girl out on April's fools just so you can say it was a joke if she turns you down.
It's basically a counter-measure to protect the ego.
In any case, we can't force any style on him. Ultimately he has to choose whichever is congruent with his personality. We can just help him figure out what that is by giving him some outer perspective.
I can agree with that. If his "haha's " are to reduce the riskiness i'm 100000% with you. I didn't even consider that.
And at the same time if his over and incongruent " Alphaness " is a mask for his lack of confidence it will have the same effect as the haha's.
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