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Ok, lets assume you are out wherever you may prefer to be, and you are open to a casual encounter. You see a guy who may be candidate. What would be the perfect way for him to go about it with you? What would be said or done that would get him home with you that night. Or perhaps, the next night? Theres no reason you cant just be friends who sleep together.
I think the problem with sites like this is that they can make it seem as if there is a perfect formula that applies to every women, "If you say X and do Y then she'll agree to sleep with you." Which isn't how it works. Some things to bear in mind however;
1) If a woman is not open to having a sexual relationship with you (whether a one-off or not) no tips or tricks you try will change her mind. These kind of pick-up moves only work on women who are at least OPEN to the possibility of having sex with you (or are not sure and are trying to see).
2) Women all like different things in men. Some might actually be attracted to the macho-male routine, some aren't.
I personally am not. If a guy comes up to me at a bar and "negs" me or tries some cheesy line he's pretty much lost me from the start, regardless of looks. If a guy comes up and tries to get to know me and makes jokes and is genuinely nice and charming then he's in with a big head start (that might seem like a lot to ask, but really, as a lot of the people on this forum have already said, most of that is just about confidence, or faking it at least.)
Real life examples;
1) A guy in my dorm at college was an abercrombie model, and acted like he knew it. He was super cocky and went around introducing himself as a model, and in terms of casual sex with girls who never really got to know his personality, it worked for him. But every girl who had had a conversation with him of more than 5 sentences thought he was unbearable.
2) My last serious boyfriend on the other hand, was average looking, but genuinely kind and probably the funniest guy I've ever met, and that made me more attracted to him than anything else.
3) A guy who's in between is a friend of mine who honestly isn't that attractive, but he always goes home with girls at parties because he's incredibly confident, shows a lot of (supposedly) sincere interest in them, and is generally charming. He also maintains genuine friendships with a lot of them outside of hooking up, so they don't mind being his occasional booty-call (or using him as a booty-call) because they know he's not just some asshole who will never speak to them again, even if he's not looking for a relationship. Then again, these are girls who aren't looking for relationships either, so it's a lot of context.