Why is it the crazies are always so fucking hot?

Or is it the lawlessness, making you think they are?

I think underlying it all is sex, she projected an essence of sex in every room she entered.

Every man wanted to fuck her.

Same vibe?

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Partially it's because they're a bit of a tempest - pure emotion you have to withstand. She did foreplay like it was performance art. She used the damn couch we were screwing around on to leverage herself and spin herself around me.

Repeatedly. Crazy flexible.

I looked at her with her midriff showing, and her sassiness, hair-done up and make-up and I knew she wanted to fuck, and she knew I knew what I was doing.

She was down tonight, but I fucked it up. She texts me at 11:15. I should have responded then but I waited for a bit as I thought she was still out of town.

We text for a bit, I invite her for drinks. She asks, "Where?", I mention the bar nearest my place, because, well, doh, logistics.

Well, she apparently didn't forget logistics either, as she gave a pretty solid no to that. I made fun of her a bit and kept pressing (never in a pushy way, always teasing). She said, "If we meet, I hope you know it's only going to be for drinks". I should have maybe said "Only what you're comfortable with" or something like that, but I instead said my goal was to flirt with her, seduce her, and make her love me, and then chase me for the rest of her life.

She liked that, and asked how I'd do that in a night. I told her it she'd have no idea what was coming. And she was like, "I bet I do."

At that point I told her I was going to go out and if she changed her mind, grandma, to let me know.

She told me to not wait up.

Part of me wants to text her now, but it's too late for any real use here - she's not going to allow the second meeting to just be a late night booty call, and that'll only push her further into the perspective I think she's in.

My reading of the situation is that Ms. Crazy over here has been dropped pretty quickly after fucking guys, and wants to ensure I've got a little bit more permanence - not necessarily boyfriend level, but not booty call level either - which is fine by me, as that's actually the level of commitment I'm looking for from her.

I mishandled the text today - otherwise I'd be balls deep in her right now, and not whining about it to you guys. Still, she seems hooked and I don't feel any real damage was done today. I may try to meet up with her tomorrow in a little less "booty call"ish SPAM. Only problem with that is that I technically have dance lesson plans with a hot Brazilian girl tomorrow (not sure if she's down romantically, but either way is useful to me - she's amazing social proof, even if she wouldn't fuck me), so I'll need to prioritize.

Anyone who feels I should text her at this point, after telling her I was heading out (which I did, but it was boring and I just didn't feel up to going out tonight), let me know, otherwise I'm just going to have a beer, go to sleep, and wake up for my workout tomorrow.

You didn't mishandle the text. Inviting her for drinks near your place was the smartest thing you could do blind. You can't have hindsight. You don't know her well enough to predict she'd say no. Moving fast is usually better than moving slow. Sometimes things don't work out. Take that new knowledge and put it to good use next time.

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RSDTyler

Having dated a HB9 with BPD my advice is turn around and run, keep running, don't look back, don't let her know where you're running to. Don't ever, ever think you can handle it and that it'll be alright. You can't and it won't.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g4QEptY3-KM

Bipolar disorder doesn't mean she's crazy. It just means she has days of extreme highs and days of extreme lows. These can last for months on end or be seasonal. If she was "crazy" there must have been some other underlying personality disorder other than BPD. BPD is essentially being very happy and then being very unhappy without any real cause for the sudden mood swing.

BPD isn't such a bad thing. Most people who are crazy generally use BDP as an excuse to act the way they do. In most cases they can rectify their issues but because they believe the cause is biological they fall into the trap of feeling there is no sure fix and therefore do not try and carry on the way they are using the disorder as an excuse to be the way they are. The reality is they need to become aware of how they are and their actions then condition themselves not to act out in specific ways.

Summed up BPD doesn't mean you're crazy, it just means you become depressed and there's not much you can do about that. The conscious actions people make are totally in their control they just choose not to rectify it.

heres a subject im good at:
the first ever girl i dated and slept with was totally fucked in the head, a former anorexic who had 4 abortions had 1 child which she gave away. was raped by her father and gang raped by her boyfriend and his father. and guess what happened it ended very badly. i wont go into too much details but she cheated on me with my closest friend at that point, the worst part was i got her pregnant and got a 5th abortion (stupidity),
now she has 3 kids and found god!

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life sucks and then you die! deal with it

BPD is not bipolar. It's borderline personality disorder.

edit:sorry should have made that clearer

And I'm a bit of an expert on borderline. Having put up with the self harming, the lying, the emotional maturity of a 3 year old, the emotional blackmail, the body dysmorphic disorder that went along with it, the eating disorder, the OCD. She was seriously hot but seriously fucked up and I did a huge amount of research on the subject of mental illness in my attempts to help her and my conclusion is don't touch borderlines with a barge pole no matter how hot they are.

Oh yeah and she was bipolar as well, that bit was easy to deal with

Ah, my bad.

BPD is BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER

NOT Bipolar Disorder. World of difference.

Sounds like my ex. I am still recovering from it 4+ months later...

The best parts were where she threatened my female friend to NOT invite me over in the evening again, months after we'd broken up, the contacting the police to tell them i was harassing her, listing herself on a sugar daddy dating site (guess a whore is a whore), and her making her own t-shirts with statements on them directed at me that she'd wear in the gym we both trained at.

If you want to play with crazy, prepare to go a little crazy yourself and be left to deal with the aftermath long after she's gone. Mine was the worst experience I've ever gone through, though an invaluable learning lesson.

And if your experience is anything like mine, the relationship with her was far harder to move on from than any other that I've ever had. I think probably because of all the extra emotional investment involved in dating a madwoman.

Exactly what I'm experiencing. Yea, you invest heavily, it takes that much longer to get out. Mine was so manipulative she had a cop threaten me that if I even so much as look at her the wrong way he'll arrest me and press charges (bunch of scare tactics). I got no crim record, girl was just trying to cause drama hence I left the gym (ya it got that bad).

Really, I blame the fathers (in most cases its the male figure who's either absent or abusive). These are damaged girls you want no part of, no matter how 'fun' they may seem in the beginning.

Go find yourself a feisty girl if that's what you want, but at least one who isn't mentally disordered.