Gentlemen, I don't know what it is, but something tells me she's going to crack soon. Today is the first day I've been feeling good and not because I believe she is going to crack. I'm just looking on the bright side today.

So an update. I caved in and contacted her two nights ago. It was because I wasn't drinking that night. (I told you alcohol helps me from breaking NC.) I feel somewhat bitchmade, but at this point I honestly don't care. And the PUA inside of me is telling me I shouldn't care if she thinks I'm desperate or needy anyway. I shouldn't care at all what she thinks! But anyway I caved in because I wanted to ask her if she's done anything with any guy. After a lot of pestering, she finally admitted that she hadn't but that the fact that she hadn't didn't mean anything. I talked to her a little yesterday and drunk-messaged her last night. Then she stopped replying. I STILL find myself missing her and wanting her back, but now I feel like I can't take her back because I see her current behavior as disrespectful. I'm also worried that she's going to do something with another guy. I hate the way girls are after breakups. The slut in them comes out in full effect, and the guys they dumped are at the brunt of it. I'm going to try to go NC again. I think I may be at the point where I should stop trying to get her back and just move on. It's just extremely tough to do it. I wish I didn't live alone during times like these! Lol. Also, on a last note, she's coming back to my state in four days. As I wrote in an earlier post, she doesn't have the hottest support system here so I'm wondering if she'll break once she's back and contact me. She's always talked about how she has attachment issues. That's why I wonder how she's so strong all of a sudden to just walk away. Maybe she's getting that tip from some other dude. Oh god!

On a more positive note, last night I went to my friend's party for New Year's before going out to clubs. At my friend's party, I met this tiny little Asian chick and ended up F-closing her in her car. I also met one girl who I can tell is a high-quality good girl and got her number. I'm hoping she'll amount to something so that I can replace this main squeeze I'm battling. I got one other fine-ass girl's number, but she seemed kinda distant so I don't know about her. And lastly, I pulled some random-ass chick to me at midnight and made out with her. So even though I'm hurting from the main squeeze, at least my game with other girls isn't being affected. I'm still as much of a beast as I always was.

Please provide any feedback. Thanks, guys.

You need to accept the fact that although she said she hasnt gone off with anyone else, she probably has or definetly will. You can get her back, in time. Let her make the first move if she dumped you, stay NC. It could even take 2 months. It could take more.
When she contacts you, which she definetly will, don't go all AFC. Don't speak about any of your emotions. Just be cool, chilled, relaxed, conjure up that feeling of fun and happiness inside of you - bench press the world, and conversate/hang out with her. Don't bring up any of the past.

Ah, this is what hurts, man, wondering if she has done anything. I wish girls would just be straight up at least and tell guys after they've dumped them if they've done anything else. Do you have any tips at making NC work? I tried my hardest last time and only lasted five days.

All right, so another update. I talked to the girl today on the phone. She finally confessed to making out with a guy one week after breaking up with me. Man, it hurts. But oh well, I see she wasn't the girl for me after all. Thanks for all the support, guys. This is going to take some time to get over.

Believe me I've been where you are right now, it's actually what made me get into PUA, because I wanted my ex back. I got her back after a while using PUA, but when I got her back I kissed her and told her it wasn't going to work. I was loving getting better quality girls. She still wants me back and that was 3 years ago. She can't have me though, shouldn't have dumped me in the first place.

Sit tight, time will heal you. No contact means deleting her number, blocking her facebook, snapchat, viber, instagram, twitter and ANY forms of communication she may have available.

You don't own her, she is her own person, as are you. Big up yourself, there will probably be more times that this will happen to you with different girls, but next time you will be better prepared to handle it and will recover from it quick.

I think I was suffering for almost a year after that breakup, I didn't go no contact, I couldn't, then the next time it happened to me with a different girl I counted the days it took for me to get over her - 9 days. I did this by going no contact. I got a new number the next day straight away, and blocked any forms of communication. 9 days, that's pretty impressive if you ask me.

It is a tough thing to try and get through.

Sorry to hear that shes gone and done that, if it makes you feel any better I had the same thing happen to me, but instead of hearing about it I saw it with my own eyes. I was in a bar turned club for tuesdays, saw my ex at the bar being hit on by a guy, didn't take her long to start making out with him and grinding. Felt like I'd had my heart ripped out, that was 2 weeks after we broke up.

In the long run though I feel I'll be alot stronger and am sure it will be the same for you.

Classyness is right, she's a free agent now and she has the right to do what she wants.

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Thanks for the replies, guys. Yeah, I'm doing pretty well actually. When she confessed to making out with another dude, something switched in me. It was like I had the closure I needed to fully let go of her. I guess I can't really complain anyway. Since the breakup two weeks ago, I've madeout with ten girls, and, as I wrote above, I did A LOT of stuff on the side when I was with her. Last night I went out alone and scored a threeway makeout with these two cute-ass chicks.

I'm taking this time to up my game even more. I got some really good advice from one of RSD Tyler's videos that says that the time right after a breakup is potentially the best time to game because it forces you to become state-independent. So my game isn't suffering at all. The only thing I still battle a little every day is going from having a full-time emotional connection with a girl and having someone present all the time to being by myself and gaming girls I don't really care at all about. Also, it's going to be weird seeing her at school this week.

Oh, also, an interesting addendum: the guy she madeout with is a total beta. She went on a date with him once, before she had met me, and she said he was so nervous and awkward. And he didn't even attempt to kiss her during that date. It's interesting how a chick left me to settle with some beta rebound. I had become somewhat beta myself during the relationship, becoming insecure of certain guys. And this was one of the guys I told her not to communicate with.

Telling your girlfriend not to communicate with someone is what I call "slipping." And as Dr Dre said in one of his early songs "If you slip, then you're slipping."

You don't wanna slip. I think we've all done it though [telling our girlfriends not to communicate with someone etc.] and the thing is she will make you believe she has stopped but she will continue to communicate with the person (usually) behind your back, and you look like a little bitch then.

When it comes to relationships, I have learned it's best to pick the right girl (I know what you're thinking "duh" right? But it's easier said than done.) The right girl for you will be the girl who doesn't make you feel that you need to ask her not to talk to any guy in particular. She will respect you.

For me, relationships aren't what they should be, I consider women of our times to be less classy, have less values, and don't respect their man (both behind his back and onfront of him.) Maybe this is something that has always been there, maybe I'm projecting and our times are the same as 50 years ago etc.

Take my advice when it comes to a relationship. If you want to find "the one" and believe you have done, in the future, don't ask her to be your girlfriend. Screen her for at least a year, or more, as you date her. Sure you can tell her you like her and after some time tell her you really like her, that's required. If she is the one, you will both know it, and rushing into a label such as "girlfriend and boyfriend" doesn't change anything, if she's "the one," right? In fact it puts more pressure on the both of you if you "become official" prematurely.

If she's the one she will be exclusive with you without both of you talking about it. She will treat you right. You deserve to find her. Don't put girls on a pedestal, sure you may think you're in love with the next girl that comes along, but your judgement will be clouded by your emotion and you will overlook all her bad points that may backfire further down the road. Screen the girl for at least a year or more before having a serious talk. Don't fold to pressure from her friends trying to persuade you into asking her to be your girlfriend. You should take the approach of "I'm really liking hanging out with her and who knows further down the line maybe we will, I don't like to rush in to these things but let me tell you I really like her and am not and don't plan on seeing anyone else. If it's meant to happen it will happen."



Go slow. Slow is fast. Think of it like that.

This is really good advice. Thanks, man.

Well, it's been another five days NC, and I'm still missing the ho. Wondering now if she told me she only madeout with a dude to get me to stop talking to her. Part of me wants to send a nonchalant text and ask her to meet for coffee or something. But she hasn't contacted me since five days ago when I talked to her on the phone and even blocked me from FB, so definitely NOT going to push it anymore. She still has a few small things of mine, and I have one of her shirts. I wonder if she'll hit me up to exchange these things. I'd just like to see a little hint of desperation from her end at this point. I really dislike knowing that I'm hurting over here, and she's chilling, not sweating the breakup at all. How can a girl go from being so weak to all of a sudden acting like SHE's the player?

Do you guys think it's a good idea to turn this girl in a FWB?

Hey guys, so another update. I talked to the main squeeze yesterday and today. She admitted that she actually madeout with the guy I had the biggest issue with--the one she went on the Black Friday shopping spree with. I'm wondering if she really madeout with him, or if she's just telling me she did to push me away. It doesn't make sense to me why she would lie the first time and say she didn't do anything, then tell me she madeout with some other guy two days later, to finally end up confessing she madeout with yet again ANOTHER guy. I don't know why she would've lied. But anyway, I tried persuading her into being FWBs or having an open relationship, but she said she wouldn't do it. So I had her in my apartment yesterday, and while I was talking to her, I was sitting very close to her, so that ours legs were touching. And I felt her up a little bit, so even if she is messing with another guy now, at least she'll have to live with the idea that she got felt up by her ex while she was talking to him. (Makes it fucked up for him at least.) I can tell she still has feelings as she spent a lot of time in my apartment, but every time I tried to kiss her, she would back up and say she couldn't. I finally told her tonight that we couldn't talk AT ALL anymore, and she said she was fine with it. But, the thing is, the guy she is now saying she madeout with is a complete loser; and I can't understand how she would go from being with a future-doctor to some guy who is going to a community college. She always said she would never date below her level of education so I know this shit is not going to last. In all honesty, I have confidence that I'll hit it again. We're together for the next three-and-a-half years during med school so it's only a matter of time. But I don't like knowing that she wasn't willing to be FWBs.

Stop being stupid okay?
Read this carefully!

Have you ever taking the time to let it go through your mind ,that you can do much better?imagine your self verry indifferent not caring at all.....like now yu take a deep breath.and you realise that you are your own enemy ,and you can change all of this like right at the end of this sentence .and any time you see a full stop it makes you aware that you have changed.you are not weak you are a man,you do not care who sleeps with what girl cos they are all one night stands.do you see that?do you feel that impact ?like that change.you feel it ease your brain cells ,it makes you Lough at your self .yes Lough.
Lough louder haha haha yes read this from the beginning again and at this point you know it's better this way.you are free .imagine a lill kid asking you,what is the importance of freedom to you?you dint know the answer,you do know it now ,you see the light?you got it .




Ok so now do no contact and sleep with 15 girls make videos of you sargin them and post field reports,yes make it your priority to prove to me that you are indeed a player
You have 2 months and if you do make it without ever contacting your ex gf and then gaming and fclosing 15 girls that are hotter than your ex I will reward you ....so if you are man enough I dare you to take my bet.

And to make it easier for you read that paragraph again you will be motivated you know what I mean bc is you felt it when you read it .


Your friend omar

Gotta be one of the best posts I've read. Thanks, brah! I will definitely take you up on that challenge. I've got a date with one girl tonight (an HB8), and then I'm going out after her to game more chicks. I'm going to start a new thread for field reports. 15 girls in two months. That's a lot, but I'm definitely up for that challenge. I will post updates about the progress and will also post the link when I create the field report thread. Again, thanks, man.

Hey guys, so here is the link to my new field report post. Check it out:

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