Wtf? At least she apologized but no, she should not have done that. She should have told him to fuck off.

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1.I don't know about you, but if I send a girl a naked pic, it's understood it's not to be showed to other people. And vice versa.

2.That aside, snapchat has screen shots and most people who use it know this. It notifies the sender if a screenshot was taken but you can't stop someone from doing it.

3. There are better ways to tell someone fuck off. Sending someone a pic of her bf is funny, but if the orbiter was so bold to send a pic himself, her "funny" fuck off just DEFLECTS his advances. This is what girls who entertain orbiters do; they never tell them fuck off so they can use them, but they will slightly brush them off or joke off their advances so they can continue hanging out. Bringing you into it was your gf sending a "joke" in response to an advance. So she used something of yours that was private to be funny.

4. A big no no for me is girls who bring me into their drama. You're a big girl, you can tell someone to fuck off without mentioning me, sending a pic of me, or asking me to fight your battles.

5. Subtext: Think of it from the point of view of the orbiter. If she sent you her bf naked, wouldn't you think "well, she obviously has no respect for her bf is she's sending his private pictures to someone else. There's a chance" So it accomplishes nothing.

6. She lied about it

Regardless, you were used as a funny way to deflect an advance. She will continue to see him and entertain him. She will not tell him to fuck off and will string him along. Def not gf of the year.

The thing is, she does not hang out with him, this is a kid who she met in class who texts her (they were in a group together).

What the hell should I do about this? This isn't something I could have changed in her behavior is it? I thought orbiters are not to be worried about and never show that to her

She always calls me an asshole, knows other girls want me, and I pass her shit tests. What gives? Is she just immature?

Looking to him for attention.

It happens if you don't give her enough attention she will seek it elsewhere. You always need to know where the balance is in give and take. Still, don't know the chick she could just be a flirty person in general. I know a few women who message me all the time and have boyfriends. They also cheat on their boyfriends. Not all of them but a lot of them do. Just an observation.

A typical week goes like this for us:

Mon, Tues, no contact. Wed we text for a few hours to set up plans for the next day or Friday. See her that day, then see her Saturday and/or Sunday.

She says I take a long time to respond to texts, but I always respond. Also, it is not like she texts me and I ignore her. If she wanted attention on those 2-3 days where I don't see or talk to her much, then she could text me.

I have also (I know it is bad) checked her phone and the conversations are not sexual at all, the guy will say he would like to meet up and she does not agree, they'll say something like "when will I see you" she'll say I don't know, or he'll say "are you going to ignore me like usual" and she'll just laugh

Man, that sounds so fucking boring. It's like a system you have. Where's the spontaneity? Start getting exciting and random. That kind of relationship would kill me...

I work 6-5, she has class Mon Tues Weds until like 8pm, we are pretty much forced to see each other those times

As GamesN said, it's for attention.

Don't get me wrong, not saying she's a terrible gf, just that what she did wasn't the best move and I understood your concern about it. Out of curiousity, what are the shit tests? Examples? I think many guys mistake a lack of respect for shit tests

-She'll say get me something, I'll say no.
-She'll try to get me jealous by bringing up random guy, I'll say I'll get you guys a condom.
-We'll be in a bar, she'll go up to an uglier old guy and tap him then run away (i know, immature) and I don't let it phase me.
-She'll text in front of me, I'll say put your phone away in my presence
-She'll come to my house 15 minutes late, I'll leave before she gets there, do an errand, make her wait 15 minutes or more


I generally know I pass them because she will say things like "I wish I was with a wussy guy who would make me breakfast when I snap my fingers", "you are delusional confident lol", and she calls me an asshole alot

She will say "I am not a punctual person, you are impatient" with the late thing, and I say "well you will be punctual with me, or you'll miss the bus and you'll wait!"

Don't get me wrong, I'm not a total asshole, for example the other night after sex and she swallowed, she asked for a massage and joked "comon I just did that for you and you won't give me a massage" or something silly like that and smiled, and I gave her one, or I'll do something for her but I very often expect and demand her to do things for me, which she does

I understand that all these "shit tests" bother you. Maybe it's just how she is. Otherwise if you act non reactive she will have no respect because you have not shown that you have boundaries = you let her get away with anything.

About this picture thing. I don't think it would bother me if my girlfriend did it. It's an ego stroke because she did it because she thinks you look hot naked. But that's me. It does bother you. So tell her "Baby, well done, but don't send my photos to random people" - after that stop worrying about the topic, don't make a big scene about it.

Do you think by me acting non reactive to her messing with random old guys in the bar, I showed that I have no boundaries? She is young and will do stupid stuff like tap them on the shoulder and run away, or something like that. I acted non reactive and talked to the other people with us or just laughed. She doesn't stand there and flirt with them

Do you think being non reactive when she brings up these orbiters is bad? I don't want to show jealousy.

I am reactive when it comes to her being late, aka I leave and make HER wait. Same goes for cheating, which I've told her is once and it's over for me. And with the texting or going on her phone in front of me, I literally take her phone from her hands and say don't do that when I'm here. She does keep doing it, but I keep calling her out. I go on my phone too sometimes and she gets upset when I do.

I've also told her that flaking is not ok on plans and she never has.

That's just weird... have you considered that this girl might not be shit testing and is instead just a little crazy? Or immature... as in that seems like the kind of thing a 9 yr old would do.
Some girls like to see a little jealousy, it helps them know you care. It's still weird she keeps all these orbiters around, someone else said she was seeking attention and I think he might be right. OR she's trying to provoke some sign of jealousy. (Seriously she could block their number rather than sending them naked pics of you.)

See, there you're just being a hypocrite. However it still seems like attention seeking behavior, she keeps doing something minor she knows you don't like so she gets a reaction out of you. Again, like a 9 year old.

You said she was young... but how young?

She is 21 and she is quite immature

A girl sending someone a naked picture of her boyfriend is her way of saying LOOK I AM NOT INTERESTED IN YOU I HAVE A NAKED BOYFRIEND, THIS IS ALL YOU'RE GOING TO GET IN EXCHANGE FOR NAKED PICTURES

most girls are not direct and would not say "I'm kind of uncomfortable with you sending me this" so they ty to redirect.

The correct way to approach this situation would be with CURIOSITY, and a vibe that says "I'm assured you're not going to leave me for someone because I know I am a much awesomer boyfriend than he could possibly be." You can ask any questions you want but be genuinely curious to learn about her, and do not come across jealous - you will look like a weak bitch who can't hold down a girl.

if you would rather not have naked pics of you sent to people at the end of the conversation say "I understand, but in future I'd rather you didn't send out naked pictures of me again." you can even add "If someone is bothering you just say 'I'm not interested I'm seeing someone' and leave it at that."

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Sending him the naked pic of you was her way of saying Fuck Off.

However it was incredibly immature, misjudged, and a mistake. There is nothing you can do about it apart from calmly telling her not to do it again. If she really is this immature you have to be the father figure and calmly tell her what is right and what isn't. It seems she isn't very calibrated socially. Does she have daddy issues by any chance?