Recognizing it's your ego isn't ignoring anything. Simply acknowledge that's all it is, and that you are not your ego. The feeling, thoughts and/or emotions will pass...such is the law of impermanence.


In other words don't act through your ego - meaning no judgment, no characterization, or egoic impulses just accept the situation as is and move on. Don't call anyone out; as nobody likes this and it only serves to drive you and that person further into unconsciousness (mind identification).

Maybe to listen to the Power of the Now by Eckart Tolle for a Bette understanding.

I'll definitely check that out but I completely understand. I'm gonna take that and keep it in mind because this isn't the first time I've felt some type of way because of my ego. This is just the first time I've recognized it before taking action. I'm gonna work on that. You just might have turned me into a better man. Lol

_________________

The next time you feel irked, and there'll be many more times, you have two options:
1) cling to your egoic mind and become increasingly unconscious
2)use the time as an opportunity to become more conscious (present)

When you feel the overwhelming desire to act out, like an itch you need to scratch, do something else such as go for a walk, talk to a friend (not to commiserate but use as a sound board), draw, workout etc anything to cool off so you can think more rationally.


Ask yourself a few questions such as the following to get you grounded again:

"What is going on in my body right now?"

"What can i do right now to increase my presence"

'hey dude i was in your exact situation with a oneitis of mine about a month ago. It took me a while to realize she was playing me and even longer to realize it was my fault for not manning up when i had the chance. You said it would be awkward if you cold shoulder her and see her around campus but thats a good thing. Trust me they love the cold shoulder

I completly cut contact with mine/ removed her on facebook. Since then she has told my mom she misses me (saw her at work shopping, we both work in a supermarket), Told friends of mine she misses me and it didnt work out because"I don't like her"-i just told her i would not be treated as an option She knows I like her though she just says stuff like that cause shes manipulative and trying to get a response out of me--DONT buy into it. Anyway now at work she stares at me all the time trying to get a reaction out of me, and i just walk by saying nothing. I can tell its burning her up inside. In the meantime i'm hitting up other girls and slowly, slowly forgetting about her. Maybe I'll talk to her in a month or two and say what's up. Hopefully I won't be that desperate though and if I am hopefully I'll man up shell realize she cant play games with me.

In conclusion I use the cold shoulder aka freeze out as a reset button with girls I've fucked up with. Honestly cold shoulder is fucking amazing. Also "k. or ok" are the most powerful texts if used in the right situation.