I agree with this, but I think you can translate the "I'm nervous" part as a witty, confident statement (if you say it right). Personally I think poking fun at yourself is a good way to stand out and be seen as an easy going guy.

The thing is though, it doesn't have to come from being genuine. It can, don't get me wrong, but you can be a good manipulator if you can pretend to be shy.

I can see that you can learn from the shows, which I didn't deny before, but once again, it's still hard to differentiate little techniques and analyze them with the flow of entertainment that comes with it. Analysis of those videos doesn't seem like a bad idea, so I guess yall really are doing something good, and I was mistaking.

Nonetheless, to once again to allude to what I mentioned in the beginning of this post, Hank Moody in Californication is very self-critical but in a fun way, and I think those writers and Duchovny's acting have it nailed down. Then again, his character is probably one of the most analyzed seduction characters out there.

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Yeah...you are right about being able to be tweak it if you are a "good manipulator" and make it sound confident by being self-deprecating.

In fact, that's my bosses style, and I think he even mentions that in one of the videos - maybe the Magician or the Witty Intro one.

On a personal note, I did Match.com about 5 years ago and got tons of emails and went on many dates.

Of all the guys I met, I ended up dating a guy for over a year who used a line very similar to what I mentioned above.

He genuinely was nervous and totally opposite of my fashion preference (i.e. he wore skinny jeans and was really metro-sexual). However, his genuine nervousness and candor was refreshing compared to all the guys I went out with who tried to impress me.

Each girl is different though, so you sometimes just have to use your instincts about which approach is best.

That's one reason why we did 7 different videos analyzing different approaches to kind of point out some of the positives and negatives you may encounter IRL.

Thanks for acknowledging the potential value. It's impressive when someone can have a heated exchange, yet change their mind if they are provided new information they might not have considered.

If only we could get politicians to do the same

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True story, I have a good friend who was on the bachelorette, he got shit kicked off the show episode 3, he's handsome as they come but can't keep a chick for the life of him. I can tell you with absolute certainty these shows use real people. I went to school with this guy, he told me all about the show and what goes on. He got shit kicked to the curb like he does in real life by women, and its always been a mystery in my group of friends why this 10/10 looking guy can't get past a first date or 2, the only time he gets laid is when women take him home drunk and there is 0% chance of fucking up.

The few people I know who have been on reality tv (not the bachelorette though) have told me it is basically scripted; no script, but most stuff is done w/multiple takes and the producers/directors are directing shit all the time.

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