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| User13247 | PostPosted: Wed Feb 06, 2013 11:33 am | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Zealot | Joined: Fri Oct 19, 2012 11:08 am Posts: 415 | | You are spending all this time and mental effort on creating the perfect response, but thinking about hypothetical responses is a completely trivial and meaningless activity. Spend your time on more important things like a job, hobby or social life, and you will find that witty responses come naturally and with very little effort. After all, you're not writing a poem that's supposed to poignantly capture the wisdom of the ages, you're just texting some random girl. _________________ One of the most useful things you will ever learn about body language.
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| Silver007A | PostPosted: Wed Feb 06, 2013 1:31 pm | |
| Offline | | New to MPUA Forum |  | Joined: Sun Mar 28, 2010 12:56 pm Posts: 20 Website: http://www.pua-training-network.com | | I agree with VietnameseProdigy. You're too involved. If you had more women on the go you wouldn't even think about it. I really hope you don't mind me saying this, but I think you sound too needy thinking up all those different answers. Honestly, she probably isn't even giving it a second thought. Looks like you have done a lot of work on learning this stuff though, which is really good. You have probably heard of this before-
The 4 stages of learning:
Stage One
The first stage is that of unconscious incompetence - we don't know that we don't know. For instance, we might not know that there is even a different way to lead. We might decide that there is something wrong with this group of employees.
Stage Two
The second stage is conscious incompetence - we become aware of a different way to delegate, but don't know how to do it. Often this awareness provides the momentum and motivation to learn. A child sees another riding a bicycle and wants to be able to do it. The possibility has been introduced.
Stage Three
The third stage is conscious competence. We learn how to communicate in this way, but when we try it out it seems awkward or uncomfortable. This is often the point where people give up and go back to old ways - at least that way worked in some way.
Stage Four
If we persevere, we get to unconscious competence - we don't know that we are communicating in a more effective way. The skill has become automatic. Often it is difficult to explain or teach someone else how to do the skill. In order to teach it, you need to go back to stage three.
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