Alright, thought I'd post a little update to this topic.
I've tried building a bit more rapport with the HB9, but let's just say that's dead in the water.
I know this is a long read. I wasn't going to post it, until today's conversation (December 7) so you can just scroll down to that if you want.
Now the HB8 still has potential. For the sake of things, I'll just post the text conversation to date. Yay smartphones. Last you may remember, she never answered my question of "What days are usually good for you?". Rightfully so, it's a pretty needy text. However, I don't think it's quite hopeless. To be honest, although this girl is quite young, she seems like a good friend to have and great student, and we have comparable grades. I don't have to worry as much as social proof and stuff, since she commutes from an hour away and doesn't really seem to have any life on campus. Regardless of whether I get sexual or not with her, I'll still like to become a bit better friends with her and give whatever it is my best shot. Also, due the commuter thing and her having poor reception at her house, I give her the benefit of the doubt on timeframes usually.
I also kind of get the feeling that either she doesn't recieve some texts, or is the type to not know how to respond and thus forgets to. Either way, not conveying a lot of interest for the most part, though her answers are lengthy. Any advice on how to integrate some humor into these would be nice.
I know during this I kind of lose the frame here and there, but I'm at a "don't give a fuck" mentality at this time. I had given up on trying to ask her out, and pretty much just wanted someone to talk to about school work.
The next night (Nov29):
Her (939) For tomorrows quiz can use our sheets we made plus our notes, right?!
Me (945) I bet with fine print, you could fit the whole weeks noteso n the crib sheets
but yeah i think so
Her (1058) Ha I typed mine all spaced out and it's a front and back page. Just things to remember and the formulas. Not putting \examples, bc I think we can use our notes for that if we need
Me (1106) Did you type out all the formulas too?
Her (1107) Yup!
Me (1108) Really? What did you use to do it? Word?
Her (1108) I didn't put down every step of how to solve them on my sheet though. Just the formula itself
Her (1158) Yeah
Her (1159) Go to insert, then symbols
Me (1205am) Ahh, I will try that thanks. I actually haven't even gotten around to studying yet.. FML! At least it's just a quiz, right?
Me (543pm, next day) 89 on the theories test! Sssssweeet... we really should have been making bets on these
Her (554) Good job!
Me (613) Thanks! sorry ya didn't do better (she told me her score in person earlier that day), all that procrastination must be catching up with ya :/
Me (2 days later, 419pm) How's the personality project coming?
...no response. Freeze time. It was around here I was letting stress eat me alive from my ex-girlfriend turned FWB. But that's another topic...
December 4
Her (1022am) (I missed class, got notes?)
Me (1252pm) Don't we have a test in social d today? And actually can I get the last two days of stats from you?
Her (1254) Yeah, can't make it. Really sick and have doctors appt. She already knows. Did you go to stats today?
Me (1255) No I didn't. I've been pretty sick myself.
Her (1259) Alright
Me (104) Hope you feel better. You didn't go to class yesterday then?
Her (110) Yeah I did
Her (111) Were you suppose to present yesterday?!
Me (112) Yeah I emailed him tho I can present tomorrow
Her (114) That's good. What did you do it on?
Me (115) I... haven't started it yet. How about you?
Her (117) Who's the procrastinator now?! I did mine on independence (I always tease her about procrastinating)
Her (118) Haha what did you do your Social Development project on?
Me (120) That's a good idea. I haven't gotten around to any projects or anything lately. My life has been pretty upside down lately and I can't focus on anything school related.
Her (126) That sucks. I'm sorry. The theories project actually takes a little bit of time and same with the social development one
Me (135) You think 6 hours is enough to theories?
Her (136) Definitely. As long as you do the trait scale
Me (137) Yeah. Was planning on just doing an all nighter I guess. What did you do?
Her (139) (blah blah school)
Me (140) Did you interview kids already and stuff?
Her (212) Yeah
Me (316am) Sorry if this wakes you, but I seriously just pulled that whole thing out of my ass in just over an hour. Wow, not that hard.
Her (350pm) (were you in class tuesday)
Me (407) No I wasn't there
Her (408) Alright
December 6 - yesterday
Me (1209pm) (can I get monday's notes)
Her (1246) My scanner is broken ;/ You can copy then later in class though if you want!
I didn't respond, saw her in class, 'forgot' to copy them. Suggested she stop by my apartment and use my scanner. She thought for a second, then said she'd be able to scan them from her mom's. (?)
Me (819pm) Got your email, thanks!
December 7 (today - tried a different strategy - mystery with a bit of pity, after an all nighter)
Me (840am) Are you going to stats today?
Her (841) Yeah, why?
Me (842) Let's just say there's no point for me to take the quiz, I just need the notes. Need this time to study for social D test :/
Her (844) Okay
Me (845) Maybe someday I'll let you in on why I been such a ghost this week, it's a long story, but I'd really appreciate if you could just get those notes this week.... I owe ya big time.
Her (848) I'm here to talk if you need to. Hope everything is okay. I will get you the notes later tonight
Me (852) Thank you. Appreciate it, and the offer. I'll be okay, at least when finals are over and some stress is lifted.
Her (853) Okay. Let me know if you need anything or need to talk. Good luck on the exam this afternoon (ray of hope? game mode back on!)
Me (856) You too
Me (1120am) Wow... (my counseling class is whining about how hard stats is)
Her (1122) (my grade rocks)
Me (1129) mine too)
Her (1130) Same here
Me (1135) When you taking test
Her (1137) 1pm... There is so much information and topics it is crazy! It's gonna suck!
Me (1141) same, tell me about it... if I can get an A on this test, AND my project somehow, I can get an A in the class. No pressure :/
!! Her (1142): Haha nice! I'm in Powell if you want to study for a bit before the test
Me (1147): Cool, yeah probably (blah blah)
Her (1148) Alright
I just went to the test a few minutes early (bypassing Powell) and saw her sitting outside the exam room studying. Sat next to her, and talked/studied as normal. We both took the test, I finished first and walked by her without saying anything, she said "see ya later" and I said "same".
One thing I would note, probably irrelevant, but a few weeks ago it was my birthday, and I told her as such in class. I played the "Guess how old I am" game with her, because despite being 29 I look pretty young. Her first guess? 22
hmm or maybe that's a bad thing... either way, she knows my age, and knows I don't give a fuck either.
Now, granted I suck at generating attraction and crap through text, but it does seem at times that she really is just kind of a socially awkward girl who wants to make friends. Class is probably the only thing we really have in common, and next semester we only have one class together. In reality, she's probably more of an HB7, but her personality bumps her up to an easy 8 for me. We've talked about skiing/snowboarding a few times in person, as she lives only a few minutes away from the nearest slope, and she's getting a season pass. I almost texted this morning when she was offering "someone to talk to" saying
"You know, after these finals are done, you and I are (doing something outside of class). I don't know what yet, something probably super fun and awesome, and you know if you didn't live so damn far away you and I would probably be great friends by now."
Maybe more concise, and humorous, but definitely TELLING her we are going to DO SOMETHING. Also, I figure pushing the "friends" card might drop her guard a little. I would like to get to know her better at least, and I seriously need to make some more friends at my college that aren't just stoner kids I know through my ex-girlfriend. A month ago, I actually proposed and will be the president of a Veteran's Club on campus, so that should skyrocket my social proof and circle.
Like I've protested to FS, I feel much more comfortable generating attraction in person than via text. I love using body language, my voice, and especially KINO to help generate attraction. I feel like overly dramatic and funny texts can be exhausting and overplayed, and doesn't feel natural to me - at least not yet. I think using the ski resort would be a great idea to meet up over break, especially if I go with another friend or two of mine. Low pressure, and another common ground besides class. Class is a great common ground for us already, despite the age difference, because we're both smart and hard working yet awful procrastinators, and in the last few weeks of school we both became sick (most likely stress on both parts) more often. So regardless of where the interaction is going to go, I'm still trying to devise the best way to actually hang out with this girl - she seems always too shy or too busy to do anything while she's in town, but at the end of that conversation was the second time she suggested hanging out. The first wasn't really, but more working on a project together and I turned her down. I also don't want to seem overeager, because right now - especially if you read my AMOG topic at all - I definitely am, especially in my text game. I can put on a front MUCH better in face-to-face communication.
Thanks anyone who made it this far. I'm really out of sorts when it comes to game right now, due to my toxic ex shattering my self esteem and shit. Now I've got a "desperate" mentality and working to hide it. I already feel like I'm too available to this girl.
CHAT
