Hey OP,

I was 18 when I paid for sex, twice. I was a complete virgin and I regret paying for it. It was my first year in college and there was so much sex going on around me that I was driven to go and pay a prostitute. Now, having had sex twice doesn't really mean anything in terms of experience.

I finally started my baby steps in adopting a PUA lifestyle shortly after I turned 20. After half a year I kissed my first girl who eventually turned into my first girlfriend. I finally had sex without having to pay for it the same day she became my girlfriend. Like you, I had always been nervous and over think things. I was afraid she would see through my inexperience, even with just kissing...fingering her, eating her out and...sex.

Call me an narcissist but I believe I am smarter than most people. So I went and google searched how to do each and every single one of them. I never got feedback on my kissing but apparently my fingering and oral skills are amazing. And she said that the first time I did those things to her so it wasn't as if I had any practice aside from just reading what to do.

Mental game is very important that's why you need to take care of all obstacles or potential obstacles. If you are scared of the sex that may come from becoming successful, learn it. Know what to do with you finger and tongue ahead of time so that even if your penis can't satisfy her, you got two other options.

I honestly can't tell you how much PUA has changed my life. I still have a great deal to learn and improve but I went from needy virgin who had to pay for sex to a man with morals and confidence.