Quote:
Update with some recent information...
via text:
me: "If you're in town tomorrow you should go out with me."
her: I'm working at [annual venue here in town]
me: "Oo. Is that here in town?"
her: Yea. (location)
me: "What's the cover? Is it an 'open' event?"
her: Not sure. I think it's 30? [website info]
me: "Is it cool if I show up?"
her: Of course! Although ill be working so I wont be able to hang out much. :/
me: "No problem. But you owe me a dance."
me: "I might show up. I'll see if I can get a friend to come with me. So, maybe see you tomorrow?
"
me: "You DO remember how you owe me a dance, right?
"
her: ?
me: "First time I met you I asked if you wanted to dance. You said "Maybe later." It's definitely later."
her: At the house?
me: "Haha. Yes. I can't expect you to make good on it if you don't remember... and it technically wasn't a 'promise'.
"
Any observations? Advice? Input?
Pickup is not about the girl, it is about the GIRLS. My sincere advice for you here is before you see or speak to this girl again, you go and open some sets out in the field and go kino on another girl. Even if it just a palm read, dance, hand hold OR a kiss. You are starting to get one-itis and this will seriously impact your game and cripple your progress with this girl.
Thoughts on your txt convo.
1. Well done on opening (hardest part). Avoid the word "should" in your entire vocabulary. Make a concious effort and wean it out of your vocab entirely. Any sentence that has "should" in it could be said better.
2. 3 txts in a row from you without reply on either is not a good thing. IOD with IOD.
3. Don't seek approval with meeting up. FTC your meetup. Really bad move bringing this owing of a dance into the txt convo. Puts too much pressure on both you and her for the interaction. Let it flow naturally.
4. I like you jogged her emotional memory throughout the chat.
5. This set will be FAR more effective when you bring a female friend (pivot) with you to this public gathering. Invite a few friends that can take care of your pivot for when you open the 10 at the venue. If that's not possible go with your female pivot and open sets there, accomp intro your pivot so she has a set that can keep her company when you game your 10. Merge as MANY sets as you can throughout that night.
Good job, and I really do emphasise the FIRST point that I made.
Peace and Good Luck!
-D
I agree with everything you said except 3 texts in a row.. They were one after another.
As far as going with someone... A really close friend of mine is dating a stripper, who has a sister who's also a stripper.. he's been trying to introduce me to her. I'll see if I can get them to go with me. If not, I probably won't go. There is also another girl who used to be a friend w/ bennies, who may be interested in going... So if my buddy C and his stripper friends can't make it, she may.
I have a hard time identifying my own problems. I am a pretty self-aware person, and I'm intelligent, but it's difficult to stop myself from making stupid mistakes with women. This "middle ground" between dating and being "with" a girl is the toughest part for me.
I have had "Series" of great successes, and I know what I am capable of, but for some reason I go through periods where my head is all fucked up and I just can't make anything work. Recently has been one of those periods. Hopefully this site will help me pull through it. Thanks again.
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