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One of the main distinctions between arrogance and confidence is that with the former, individuals boast of traits and/or abilities that they do not posses. That said, an accomplished individual who gloats, wearing his achievements as a badge of honor for the entire world to see comes forth as having to compensate for deep-rooted insecurities/feelings of inadequacy.
Being confident and humble are very attractive styles of presentation, whereas boasting of past glories and future conquests serve as indicators that you're masking your personal shortcomings; sure people may not immediately be aware of what those insecurities may be, but they will generally get an intuitive sense that something is awry. It is typically gold-digger women who will prey upon such people, as the arrogant man is fearful of revealing his true personality to others for fear of disapproval, consequently his behavior can come across as erratic - highly reactive at times (particularly when his ego feels threatened) and at other times seemingly detached.
Agent Provocatuer does not know a damn thing
1.) By boasting you give the impression of greatness and you can impose this image upon other by saying it so much.
2.) It does not merely mask or hide insecurities. It actually changes how you feel and makes you confident. But y'all don't know nothing about that...
3.) you are supposed to react when people disrespect you or slander you.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yOiXrlw0 ... OiXrlw0oZc[/img]
"By boasting you give the impression of greatness and you can impose this image upon other by saying it so much."
Boasting never wins admiration nor respect. If history has taught us anything its that arrogant, often haughty leaders ruled by show of force. Compliance was gained through threat of violence, not through admiration and respect. Being boastful is a cue for over compensating for a perceived, or real lack of something, whatever that may be. Being boastful in the pickup world serves as a detriment to a man's game, that is unless he is pursuing a merely physical relationship with a woman who in turn wants something equally superficial in return - a mirror for each others sense of vanity, nothing more.
With regard to confidence, this is something that can only come from within. By building an awareness of one's values, becoming competent in various areas, one will progressively gain a sense of efficacy and confidence. Confidence in itself does not come out of affirmations, but rather a self-assuredness that can only come through experience and perseverance.
When people slander, or spew vitriol at you, the motivation behind the behavior is to manipulate, or goad others into reacting. Secure people don't feel the need to engage in disrespectful behavior there's a proactive way to respond (assertiveness), and a reactive/maladaptive way to respond (to aggress). To state that one is "supposed to react when people disrespect you or slander you" is the very belief that gets people in trouble (I see it all the time, I have numerous clients who are contending with anger issues simply because this is their modus operandi when dealing with others).
Looking at the 3 statements you'd made in response to my post, it is to no surprise why you've received such a poor reception on here, and likely with the women you're meeting as well.
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One of the main distinctions between arrogance and confidence is that with the former, individuals boast of traits and/or abilities that they do not posses. That said, an accomplished individual who gloats, wearing his achievements as a badge of honor for the entire world to see comes forth as having to compensate for deep-rooted insecurities/feelings of inadequacy.
Being confident and humble are very attractive styles of presentation, whereas boasting of past glories and future conquests serve as indicators that you're masking your personal shortcomings; sure people may not immediately be aware of what those insecurities may be, but they will generally get an intuitive sense that something is awry. It is typically gold-digger women who will prey upon such people, as the arrogant man is fearful of revealing his true personality to others for fear of disapproval, consequently his behavior can come across as erratic - highly reactive at times (particularly when his ego feels threatened) and at other times seemingly detached.
Agent Provocatuer does not know a damn thing
1.) By boasting you give the impression of greatness and you can impose this image upon other by saying it so much.
2.) It does not merely mask or hide insecurities. It actually changes how you feel and makes you confident. But y'all don't know nothing about that...
3.) you are supposed to react when people disrespect you or slander you.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yOiXrlw0 ... OiXrlw0oZc[/img]
"By boasting you give the impression of greatness and you can impose this image upon other by saying it so much."
Boasting never wins admiration nor respect. If history has taught us anything its that arrogant, often haughty leaders ruled by show of force. Compliance was gained through threat of violence, not through admiration and respect. Being boastful is a cue for over compensating for a perceived, or real lack of something, whatever that may be. Being boastful in the pickup world serves as a detriment to a man's game, that is unless he is pursuing a merely physical relationship with a woman who in turn wants something equally superficial in return - a mirror for each others sense of vanity, nothing more.
With regard to confidence, this is something that can only come from within. By building an awareness of one's values, becoming competent in various areas, one will progressively gain a sense of efficacy and confidence. Confidence in itself does not come out of affirmations, but rather a self-assuredness that can only come through experience and perseverance.
When people slander, or spew vitriol at you, the motivation behind the behavior is to manipulate, or goad others into reacting. Secure people don't feel the need to engage in disrespectful behavior there's a proactive way to respond (assertiveness), and a reactive/maladaptive way to respond (to aggress). To state that one is "supposed to react when people disrespect you or slander you" is the very belief that gets people in trouble (I see it all the time, I have numerous clients who are contending with anger issues simply because this is their modus operandi when dealing with others).
Looking at the 3 statements you'd made in response to my post, it is to no surprise why you've received such a poor reception on here, and likely with the women you're meeting as well.[/quote]
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pickup world boasting is 1.) to be cocky-funny and 2.) to demonstrate value &inspired confidence: a.) this has an effect on yourself and b.) this makes an impression on others.
Sometimes you don't care if people hate you, sometimes you do. You are supposed to be aware of this.
1.) Muhammad Ali is a cultural icon and he kinda used to boast and was very cocky funny.
VERY COCKY FUNNY
Example of Cocky-Funny:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WsAC4lhbE0g
Example of inspiring belief:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wjkoBMS3bmM
2.) Every ruler rules by force. How you think America stole all this land from the Native Americans?
3.) People talk about a Napolean complex, but people fail to understand that when a man is small like Napolean he has to do more than men bigger than him to get the same amount of RESPECT as those men. No you don't have to conquer the world, but you do have to do more than other people.
Overcompensation is for a percieved lack of RESPECT.
4.) Self-assurance comes from knowledge and
knowledge is not really confidence. Confidence is when you believe something without knowing whether it is true or not. If what you are saying is true, then people with nothing but negative experiences should have no confidence, and that is bunk...See, Affirmations work to instill beliefs within you, and then you gain the experience to suppor the affirmation:
Believe it, to achieve it. maybe you have heard that before
5.) If there is no consequence when people disrespect you they will believe its okay to do it again. Now if someone sees that they can get under your skin and push your buttons with no consequence that is a different thing. Sometimes not reacting may work as people think that it has no effect so they stop doing something useless. However, if someone is slandering you if you want to maintain your reputation you have to react.
6.) Apparently, You're a shrink and I contradict what you teach.... That's why you dont like me.
7.) Some people on here like me and others don't. This will happen with any man that stands for something and is uncompromising...
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