What...the...FUCKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK???????????

I've decided to not post here that regular anymore but this epic topic is plain simply too epic to not take part. How fucked up can things be. Seriously

To be serious: shit that's fucked cannot be unfucked. It will never be normal.

If you really love her, stay with her, don't try to convince her that she should leave her husband. If she wanted to she already would have. Fact of the matter is, she may not be in love with him, but her husband is still her friend, and her children father, they have years of connections. If i were in the situation where my wife needed another lover I would let her have one, if I really loved her, because we are not just sexual partners, we are partners in life.

My advice to you is, ask your self are you happy? if not then leave without saying anything. Do not be a home breaker that's fucked up son. If you are happy then fuck son, you achieved something that most PUA's never will.

And what is that? Living with a married couple and banging the wife? Man, this is just not right. If she is having an affair with him, I could understand to a certain extend. I wonder if they all sleep on the same bed and go on triple dates and ... lol I honestly would pay $$ just to see how they can manage to have this arrangement!

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I do not see what is wrong if all parties are in agreement. Just because you have a set of morals an beliefs doesn't mean others do. I is not like he is sneaking around someone's back. Also, If the husband did not like it, he could leave, the husband and wife obviously still have a relationship. the way I see it, this Dengar guy is just the wife's concubine.

Her husband probably doesn't agree with what is happening. Most likely an AFC that is taking what he is given. The OP is not in agreement with what is happening; that is why he wants her to leave her husband. She is the only one that is happy obviously, taking 2 dicks 7 days a week. It's not about my beliefs, its just a very fucked up situation that 99% agree it is. The OP wanted advice and I think most of the people here will tell him to just leave and let things happen how they were before he came and started sleeping between the couple.

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Thank you! Yes, I am very happy. I always think the ideal situation will be for him to be out of the picture so we can have a child of our own, et cetera, but regardless, she makes me happier than I could have ever thought I'd be.

I expected there'd be some NLP advice given here, but instead I seem to have encountered something that seemed relatively normal to me, but which is confounding most members. Liquid, your advice to just stay in it so long as it makes me happy is probably the best course of action.

Yet that is what he is doing and what you are advocating.
Which is what? Breaking up a marriage?

Just throwing this out there as it seems you haven't consider this at all or really thought about it. Lets say you get your dream goal and she leaves her husband for you and the marriage ends. What makes you think she won't cheat on you? You by sleeping with her now have okay such behavior for her, so who is to say she cheats on you down the road?

I didn't see this mention but do they have kids?

Dengar,

Here is the thing. I have been around a lot of married people, and people going through divorces. Here is typically what happens when a woman leaves her husband for a man.

The woman during the relationship with her husband starts going out with another man. Because they are in the dating and courtship phase of the relationship things are fun and more appealing. The husband is in the further stages of the relationship and shame on him for not keeping it FUN. Still there is a hard statistic that 90% of women who leave their men for a relationship don't end up married to the other man, and most don't make it another 6 months. You could be part of the 10%....

She has a point when she says over time you will end up a lot like her husband. As time wheres on and the relationship isn't as new or exciting the fun will fade, reality will set in, and things will become similar to the way they were with her hubby.

I would very much consider distancing myself from this interaction for the above reasons and of course...after things settle down with you, what makes you think she won't do the same thing to you as she'd doing to her now husband?

Just some things to consider. Good luck!

Jon

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Guess you didnt read what he wrote but if anything like this happen, he will know that he is being cheated and probably will be ok.

They fucking in the other room while he watchs tv.

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Oh! You've gotta be kidding me!

JSmooth: Thanks so much for the input! Here's why I know things are different in this situation - She has basically admitted that she only married him largely for security, and that the connection is nil. I myself was shocked when I'd reconnected with her, to see who she'd wound up with! He couldn't be the more opposite of me, and also opposite to her.

The thing is, everything she craves out of life I provide naturally, because it's simply who I am inherently; I don't have to try at all. The crazy romantic things I do are effortless; it's just me being me. He's totally the typical guy that gets lazy and starts flagging in appreciating his marriage; I click so well as a best friend to her as well as perfectly-matched lover I know I'd never allow myself to become stagnant because of how much I appreciate her.

She's been cut-off from her family over this, and my family is so hurt that it has caused major problems as well. This whole test-by-fire involving her friends and family has really done much to prove the lengths she's gone to in order to have me. She'd never meant for us to become involved, and when it first happened we both were certain it was all over once the husband found out by her own admission.

However, he took a very unexpected turn and blessed the union, and things have been that way ever since. Because of societal expectations, mainly from our friends and families, this can't necessarily continue the way it has the past 8 or 9 months. At some point it appears an ultimate choice will have to be made from one of the three of us, and I suppose that by me continuing to ride it on happily is the best course until we all feel a natural transition that's peaceful, logical, and sound. Again, thanks for your input!

Fair...that does change things some. Then it's pretty much up to her to "Shit or get off the pot" so to speak.

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Pack your shit and freaking Run!

Read this: PACK YOUR SHIT AND RUN!!!!

Once a cheater, always a cheater! And this girl thinks it is ok because the person (people) she is cheating on know she is doing it...This girl is seriously FUCKED UP!

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But he is in love with her.. The feeling he has is special..

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