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PostPosted: Tue May 29, 2012 8:21 pm 
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ANd those options would have made her feel much better.
on the short term very probably so. they allow a self-indulging mentality "things might change" - "I can change things" - "let me ask my best friend, she will know what to do" - ...
on the longer term, hitting a wall works better.. you get up and go some other direction.. true, it hurts, it hurts a lot, but it heals faster.


That has some truth to it, but it is unrelated.
1,) Telling someone we have irreconcilible differences and to move on and to stand firm on that move on makes things obvious. However, this doesn't make her think "i'm not good enough" "some one is better than" "I suck." Some people like basketball and other people like hockey. Some people like oranes and other people like bananas. Some people like SUVs and other people like convertibles. You want her to think "it didnt work with him, but it might work with someone i like better." And that is truth :)

2.) It is completely related because someone hurt him like that before now(and much worse) he thinkgs that it is the right thing to do, smh.


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ANd those options would have made her feel much better.
on the short term very probably so. they allow a self-indulging mentality "things might change" - "I can change things" - "let me ask my best friend, she will know what to do" - ...
on the longer term, hitting a wall works better.. you get up and go some other direction.. true, it hurts, it hurts a lot, but it heals faster.


That has some truth to it, but it is unrelated.
2.) It is completely related because someone hurt him like that before now(and much worse) he thinkgs that it is the right thing to do, smh.
That is not at all how I rationalized it, but we agree to disagree at this point.


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IWantEasyLove's got good feedback here. Reaver, you need to understand something - how YOU rationalize something isn't the point. How SHE rationalizes it - that's the point.

HER perception is her reality. And from what I've read... IWEL's looking at it from her perspective and how to leave her in the best frame possible.

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