I like that shit. With that mindset — I assume that it probably takes LONGER to reach your goal of 10 rejections, than it would take to get those rejections if your mindset was that of "just get one phone number." or "open this many sets."

One trick I have been doing lately that makes me laugh and keeps me in check is whenever I'm feeling anxiety and catch myself — I just say to myself "The ALPHA MALE doesn't give a fuck about ______ (what this girl thinks, that he didn't feel like shaving today, that this girl just asked if he was gay... whatever fits in that blank)."

Think Tom Cruise — "RESPECT THE COCK!" with the attitude and inflection of the above statement to find the humor in it.

Here’s another trick I use ESPECIALLY when I go out on my own. I can’t find my damn notes right now for my openers I have made up on my own or I would post some of them (field tested and good) and I am having a hard time remembering them or the finessing of words over time to help them flow.

However — I used to keep a few text files on my phone. I had one with some “cliff notes” with the funny titles I give openers and maybe one line from it so I can use it as a “cheat sheet.” I also have some more in depth notes, but the cheat sheet is always right there.

When you are in the club you do not look abnormal whatsoever pulling out your phone like you are sending a text, even if it is to figure out which opener you want to try on some girl.

I find for me the FIRST 3 are the hardest to do. After 3, I am usually over my AA and the night opens up for adventure and THE ALPHA MALE doesn’t GIVE A FUCK about what happens tonight.

When I take my wingman in training out with me to some local bars next week that have become some bad ass meet markets, I am going to run this contest on him, 2 rounds of drink bought and paid for by the loser who does NOT get rejected by 10 girls first LMFAO... Between the 2 of us, that would end up being some funny shit, and we would probably end up with more numbers in our pockets or the potential of not completing the goal because we bounced some girls back to the crib.

It felt excusy and afcish as I was typing it haha, I don't deny to the pussying out.

I'm hoping after a few more solo nights and a few more approaches n rejections I'll toughen up and improve.

I'm also wondering if bars might be slightly better cos at least your not shouting at someone from 2 inches away from their face for them to hear.


Then again with some more experience in the bag having to be so close might help to build tension.

Another thought you know when you squeezing you way through the crowd and there is a group sqeezing through going in the opposite direction and one of the girls makes eye contact with you and throws 2 or 3 dance moves at you before continuing on (if that makes sense - I know what I mean anyway)

what do you do then? that happened to me in under a minute of being in the place, it was so early it took me by surprise and before I realised the moment was gone and she was past.

Not a major loss, but those tiny moments must surely be an oppurtunity of some sort.

I've outright grabbed girls like that in passing and gone in for the kiss without saying a word. It has even worked a few times!

One example was this girl I did that to in a crowd just like you described who was leaving with some guy and she started making out with me right there while the chode stood and watched with his jaw dropped (and yes, I had a killer buzz on, and had been opening up sets all night so I was very in state).

I didn't end up with anything but a quick makeout session and ruining the night of some chode, but it was funny.

I was going to go out on a solo sarge last weekend at an event which would have provided a great opportunity to do so, but I ended up going out on a date with some girl I met online (a "D1" I guess ???). That one ended early, we just met and had a few drinks, kissed a little and generated some future interest for another more planned out encounter later.

On my way home from that D1, I TOTALLY forgot about this event, and was just pulling into my house when I remembered it was going on. Had I remembered a half hour earlier I would have been in a GREAT mindset after wooing and making out with this girl I just met, but by the time I got home I was tired and the wind out of my sails.

The one take-away I can get from it, is that I was in a bad mood when I left to go on that date and having mind routines to go over in your head that make you laugh and relax are great to have. By the time I met up with the girl half an hour later I was in a GREAT frame of mind and we both had a good time.