So, basically you're a pussy?

See the difference between you, and real men...Wait, no..What's the same between you and real men is that we all have temptations to fuck other woman when in a monogamous relationship with a woman. The DIFFERENCE between you and real men, is that a real man who could no longer hold out on temptation, would be...well...a man...and tell his woman what was going on, out of respect for himself, and her. He wouldn't be going behind her back to feed his own school girl insecurities. You want to be a real man, challenge yourself. Become a better man. Be honest with yourself, and those who choose to be a part of your life.

I'm surprised everyone is being so black and white on this.

Relationships and the people in them can be crazily complex and suggesting there is some kind of "cheating is always wrong in every situation no matter what" strikes me as a little dogmatic.

I am monogamous.
I am satisfied with my current girl cause I know how to keep her happy and, more importantly, she knows how and is willing to keep me happy even more.
My need to fornicate other girls is satisfied by said girl. However, you make it sound as if us guys have some primal sexual thirst that nothing can quench.

No offence, but it's as if you're fighting some invisible war against the "unjust" norms of society. Truth is, you're the one looking deviant here. Nobody in their right mind would follow this mentality.

Now you say you have the need to cheat. Common sense dictates that that means you're not ready for a LTR....so why are you in one? You love your girlfriend? Clearly not as much as you'd think.

Tl;dr version: Appreciate what you have before you lose it.

You love your girlfriend? Clearly not as much as you'd think.

Monogamy means having one partner at a time not spending your entire life with them.

Marriages fail cause the people involved are so damn stupid. One example that comes to mind is that nerd who proposes to his first girlfriend at age 20.

You are against monogamy because you are not ready for it. Become single, go out, bang a few chicks, spend a few years like this. Eventually you'll have "experienced it all" so to speak and will accept it.

But whatever the case, cheating remains a thing for losers.

STOP ACCUSING GUYS THAT CHEAT

If you are the guy that is not tempted to fuck other girls, please do me a favour and tell yourself in the mirror you are the best guy ever, i'm genuinly jealous!!! AND DONT READ ANYTHING BELOW THIS LINE
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Again i plan to write a good essay about this! But let me give you a sneak peek. Me and my gf are now exploring open relationship. Something i could´ve never imagine she´d try.

Dude i loved my girl soo much (still do). And i tried sooo hard to not cheat. I started to make myself believe the most stupid things in order to suppres my instinct. iT MADE ME SOO UNHAPPY THAT EVENTIUALLY SHE DIDN'T LIKE ME ANYMORE. AND I DIDN'T LIKE MYSELF ANYMORE

let me give you a promise
- You will never become monogamous NEVER
- You will always feel unsatisfied if you don't fuck other girls.
- NOTHING can compensate your need to fuck girls, NOTHING

So the choise is yours. You can either live your life as a robot of society's conventions and dogma's or accept yourself and TAKE ACTION

IF YOU DECIDE TO DENY YOUR INSTINCT FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE OR WANT TO DELAY ACCEPTING YOURSELF UNTIL YOU ARE MARIED AND HAVE KIDS SO YOU CAN LEAVE YOUR FAMILY AND FALL INTO A MIDLIFE CRISIS DONT READ ANYTHING BELOW THIS LINE
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If you decide to accept yourself and TAKE ACTION read this
I know it's hard to accept you are a person that has feelings that contradict the way society is put together. But if this is who you are. Accept it and tell it to the people around you!

What happens when you tell her
After you tell her this is who you are and there is no onther way than accepting it. (I reccomend taking a relationship break and than come back). Then this happens.
a. Fights fights fights
b. Drama drama drama
c. But she will not leave you
d. more fights.
e. The sex you two have together gets 1000X as intense
f. more fights
g. You enjoy eachothers precense more
h. FIGHTS!
i. You now notice that she cannot leave you
j. more fights.
k. I'm not sure what comes after this but i'll keep you up 2 date!

You have to be able to see your girl unhappy from time to time and i thought i could never do this. But the thing is, tell her you two should focus on al the positive things you have. And how much better sex has become etc.

Some rules
- make solid rules together!!!
- Don't brag to your friends. Open relationship stuff should be a normal thing. NO BRAGGING
- During the fights tell her to focus on all the positive things you two have together and how this is improving both of your lifes.
- assume she likes to fuck guys on the side as well and talk about how equal you two are.
- Be a calm alfa dude
- never show a girl you've met to her
- Never fuck girls you 2 both know
- Don't tell about the girls you're seeing she'll get madly jealous
- Sometimes its easy and tempting to tell something about the other girls to make her behave better when she's bad too you because you make her a little jealous, do not overdo that in her mind you fuck 100X as much girls as in real life
- From time to time tell her she's most important to you
- Tell her that if she's not comfortable with this she should be 100% honest to you and to herself

Thing is she'll mostly be unhappy because she want's to be the most important girl in your eyes. The fact that you fuck other girls (that she doesn't know) is not that much of a problem to her.

THIS IS IMPORTANT DO NOT GO BACK INTO NORMAL LTR WITH HER. NEVER!!!!!
SHE WILL TRY TEST IF THIS IS REAL EVERY 2 DAYS OR SO. LEAD HER AND TELL HER THINGS SHOULD BE LIKE THIS. ITS EIGTHER NO RELATIONSHIP OR AN OPEN RELATIONSHIP.

REMEMBER YOURSELF EVERY DAY THIS IS WHO YOU ARE. AND DON'T GIVE UP

What grey area is there?
When is cheating right or okay?