A proper debate.. thats what I like to see! ...

Some good points raised.

The way I actually wrote the email was (in points)

* My day has been a bit shitty
* Fallen out with friend
* I believe he is mentally unstable
* Was best man at his wedding to be, now not going at all
* I am positive and believe things will resolve
* How you been?

So I was writing it 'thinking' DHV.. because

1. Open about feelings
2. Not just pisstake jokey emails, but also deep
3. I can spot someone who is not well and have been patient with them
4. Was appointed best man (as im such a great guy lol)..
5. I am positive so think things will work out
6. didnt want her opinion on it or to drag things down but moved on to ask about her.


Tell me genuinely now that you have head that if it is DLV or DHV. I do appreciate that point that maybe, after 6 emails, it was too soon.. but i did think at the time there was merit behind it.

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Like I said nothing you said is wrong. Again ignore what I previously wrote about it sounding "emotionally unstable".

But for someone you have not even seen face to face 6 emails is NOWHERE NEAR enough of an interaction to have established comfort. The point of emailing/texting really is to bridge the gap between your next face-to-face meeting or create one in the first place, UNLESS you've already build comfort and now it's another form of contact.

PLUS she may just not be a very deep person and it could be HER problem altogether. That is always a possibility. After all you know VERY LITTLE about her.

Think nothing of this in the grand scheme of things, just learn from it and aim to build as much comfort as possible with the individual to better get to know her and calibrate her responses. This is all done optimally in person.

Wish you all the best. If you have any other questions, don't hesitate to PM me. I'm here to help.

Regards,
Sep

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Cunning, like I inferred earlier, sometimes it's nothing you said or did, but the girl has a change of heart or had some other agenda to begin with (e.g., maybe she was corresponding with you via email because that week she felt unattractive and needed the attention).

I wouldn't waste your time thinking about it.

Good points made again.

.. It's a guessing game, you never know but I think in future I will wait before going deeper. I will probably email back once more with a different topic and make it fun again.. I have nothing to lose I suppose, but when I think about it.. I suppose I don't want to bother that much with a girl who flakes over that.

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A few simple rules to live by:

-Never burn your bridges with others; u never know what opportunity may present yourself later on. That said, keep a line open to her, check in with her every now and then just to say "hey" and see what comes of it, you might be surprised
-no opportunity is a wasted one; you took a chance, and it either pans out or it doesnt. "With risk comes opportunity, and with opportunity comes risk" Embrace it, live by it.
-human behavior is way too complex to predict. the so-called PUA literature will try to tell you otherwise, stating that all women pretty much can be manipulated into doing things you want them do to. This is an illusion, and basically they're peddling bullshit, for the most part. You come here asking for an opinion from 10 people, you'll likely get 10 very different opinions and leave scratching your head even more perplexed to when you first logged on. Human behavior is way too nuanced and varied to predict and in fact will change markedly from context to context. If human behavior was so predictable by now I'd be out of a job as a counselling therapist. Each and every day there's something new that surprises me, often in the same client.

You need to learn to trust your intuition more. Think before you do. If you want to share something with somebody think of how YOU may feel afterward (e.g. regret, relief etc.). Once you've considered this, only then act.