Girls want both a friend to lean on, and a lover to get off on.

Do not give her friendship without getting sex unless your cool with that, and that isn't a relationship that's a friedndship. Shes definitely seeking the friendship and rapport she misses with you but if you want get back, then you should absolutely not give her this without the precondition of intimacy

Id keep semi-ignoring her with just small maintenance texts and whenever you say you miss her make sure you alternate how badly you still want to touch an kiss her and what not. basically letting her know she not getting you back on friends only status just not in a mean or direct way.

In the mean time let her think you having the time of your life and you are the king of the town and your social circle. Give her something to miss and aspire to. Dont show neediness whatever you do, you start pursuing her and shes going to have a way easier time dumping you for good.

Also get a job kid

lol at last sentence - and note on the first sentence - if your a girls best friend, and she can tell you anything, and you listen and are nice to her, why would she risk that just to be a title of "girlfriend?". It's more work finding a friend like that than a BF

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Thanks for the reply, detox..Very informative and true, and helpful..

I'm not interested in being just friends.. I mean, when you're in a serious relationship, and that ends, no matter the reason...its very hard to just be "friends"..So I'm not interested in that..and she knows it...and hopefully by next week I'll have a job! I'm still looking, and applying at places..but theres 2 places that I feel I have a good chance of getting..I'll know next week.

thanks again for the reply

There is truth in what detox said....If you're become friends with a girl...theres usually no sexual attraction there.. you may feel it...but the girl doesnt.. and there is no challenge for her..she already has you where she wants whenever she needs a friend to cry to when the next douche bag screws her over lol ive been there with quite a few girls in high school...we'd hang out all the time...but by the time i'd make a move, they had already long lost the attraction they had...which made them perceive me as just a friend.......now theres nothing wrong with being 'just a friend' with a female...but if its a girl you like and want to be with...it sucks lol...but also...I was in the "friend zone" with Emily before we started dating.....so not all hope is lost if you ever find yourself there.

update: november 4, 10:17pm EST


Me: Happy Birthday.
Her: K



about 10 minutes later...

Her: What are you doing???




I'm not sure if I should answer her....It took me 2 hours to reply back with the happy bday....maybe I'll text her later and say something[/b]

Nanshou a bot?

I dont know if he's a bot.....

But I like to think this is a good thread..


Its something everybody goes thru...

Not only that...if you're experiencing the same type of situation and aren't sure how to handle it....You can follow this thread and see how it works out for me lmao Its good learning material, in my opinion.. While you guys help me, I'm putting my life out there as well to help others going thru the same shit

Do you remember what I said bro?... Stay Strong. Don't be an idiot

insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result. You have to do something different

Shes behaving just as I predicted.. I've been here way to many times dude.. Way too many

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heres a good response

"i'm at this party, its insane!" - no more texts

or

"with my friend, just talking over coffee, gave me a new shirt as a gift!" - wtf gives shirts but chicks, but change subject if she texts back, plausible deniability

anyway you get the idea, your having a shitload of fun and moving on - WITHOUT HER around to enjoy it

Yeah, I remember what you've said...The last time I sent her a text was on Tuesday, November 2...she had contacted me..I exchanged a couple messages and said I had to go... She has contacted me about 5-6 times since then...I have not replied to one. However, today was her birthday...I wanted to wait a while until I texted her "Happy Birthday"........she ended up texting me first tho..which could be seen as bad....since it might make it look like I forgot her birthday, and it took her texting me first to remember........even tho that is not the case..I just wanted to wait like you said.

She just texted me again...because I never answered earlier when she asked "what are you doing??"

Now she said "motown...."


So I guess she is getting anxious, annoyed, pissed off, or something that its been 2 days and all I've said to her was Happy Birthday.

thanks..I'll keep those in mind. She knows I don't drink coffee, but I understand what you are saying and where you're going with that...I think I'm just not going to say anything.............I mean....its her birthday....she was supposed to go with friends and have fun...without me....so I dont know why I would want to even be sitting at home texting her when I wasnt invited.......Although, even if I was invited, I wouldnt have gone...Not right now anyway

Dude... DO NOT DO THIS

I REPEAT... DO NOT DO THIS lol

Its bragging and makes you come across showy and REALLY unattractive..

You want her to wonder about what your doing..

If if you were at the best party of your life and she wrote to you ( you shouldnt reply to any text messages from her but lets just say you did) you should only say " i just been really busy with work" ... That way she gets skeptic and does some research( work on your behalf.. its a good thing) and if she finds out you were at some party, her attraction goes up because you chose not to put it out there.

If you want the girl, dude take my advice... this is where a lot of guys go wrong when getting there ex back.

This girl left you at your lowest point, she doesnt even deserve you but im going show you how to have her come back begging.

Now.. She is getting anxious but obviously not anxious enough yet, Shes still only texting. Thats step 1... Keep ignoring (ignore every text message unless its something relevant to her property, mail etc), Step 2 is when she starts calling.. You ignore the first call and ill tell you what to do on the second call.

Step 3 is when the game is on..

As of right now shes still trying to use you as a emotional crutch as shes moving on, and with every response you're helping her walk until shes ready to walk by her self and at that point there is no turning back.. shes gone... You have to let her fall by herself and then she'll come to you begging you to pick her back up again.

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Hey Fuze's advice is pretty much spot on

I also suggest you pretty much freeze her out, although I wouldn't completely ignore all of her texts, reply the MINIMUM amount.

If you stop talking and replying completely she might think you're angry at her = not attractive,
but yeah if she's asks you what you're doing constantly over and over reply that your 'too busy to text, lol'

Yeah, but the aim of the game is to keep her thinking about you and not the other way around.

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god damn texting is a mess

this thread proves it

these games simply didn't exist before text messaging

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Texting is a mess.....You cant hear vocal tones, sarcasm, teasing, etc. Its stupid. Thats what I dont get about this generation... I would much rather dial a number and TALK, if I'm not face to face..But a lot of people now days avoid that..


anyway...Fuze, I hear ya buddy. And I have yet to answer her back.

And she woke me up this morning with a text message saying, "Guess we will just never talk again"


So at this point, I don't know if she means that..or if she's just getting annoyed that I'm not texting her back.....Cuz there has been times when a small argument broke out, and she'd be like "Fine, have a nice life!!" but then be blowing me up later that day..So we'll see.


Thanks again to everyone who has pitched in on this thread...Like I said in a previous post, I'm sure all of us are helping quite a few people out there (myself included) that are going thru something similar and don't know how to handle it..So I'll keep it updated as long as this is going on