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This is one of the stupidest pieces of mental masturbation ever. I GUARANTEE you have never field-tested this in your life. Don't give advice unless you've actually TRIED IT at least 10-20 times and it's WORKED for you consistently.
Guilt-tripping women into going on a date with you by lying to them about your intentions, furthermore, is reflective of one of the shittest mindsets I've ever come across in 4 years of posting on the forum.
Grow up, be a man, and fucking be honest with women about what you want!
I can see you have a point. Let me try to understand what you are saying. You are saying: I'm lying to women to try to sleep with them. And I haven't field tested my recommendation. And the reason why is because I have an ego that likes to believe women will follow me and apologize. Therefore I am trying to make woman feel guilty in order to sleep with me, and I have a shitty mindset. So I therefore need to grow up and be a man.
I appreciate your feedback - truly I do. I can vaguely see how you got from making a woman apologize to guilt tripping her into sex. But I don't understand the difference in walking away from her, or talking to her, his intentions will be the same. He needs to back off because he is coming on to strong. I don't want to see him beating his head against a wall, aka: a woman that assumes he only wants sex.
I guess if you only want sex then just go around to a bunch of women until you find it by being direct and approaching. Asking for sex in a respectful way is an art form all in itself. I always look at the bigger picture and think sex doesn't mean acceptance.
Because of my insecurities I was searching for sex, and that is why I got into the game. Since then, I've discovered life is more than sleeping with women. I know it feels good to sleep with them, and it's a skill set. But if we could be content without it, then our lives would be more fulfilling and less troublesome. Plus it's fun to reject a girl, it gives them a little shit like they give us. It's not about whether or not she comes back to him. It's about him leaving her, but not in a painful rejected way. In a way where he is in control. And it's a powerful statement of inner strength.
To be completely honest, I haven't gotten the "I have a boyfriend" line in years. I don't want to field test my recommendation because I would have to regress. I usually know how to calibrated and when to make a move or not. I'm at the point where people introduce me and most of my hook ups come from social groups. My recommendation is not about the results of sex. More so his development of deep inner game to stand up for his integrity.
Going out with the mind set on achieving results in social interactions is flawed. The need to sleep with women in order to feel good is desperate. No matter how good I have gotten at sleeping with women, my life is significantly better with my long term friends and people that care for me both in good and bad times.
While I am not perfect, I have an overall sense of happiness and content with little self suffering. Sometimes I can be frustrated, mainly because of my expectations, and not because of actions others do to me. Most of my happiness comes from achieving my goals that directly relate to myself and my career. Happiness is a state of mind : life is 10% of what happens to us, and 90% of how we deal with it. If we focus our energies on dealing with our internal mental state, the outcome of social interaction will become obsolete. Confidence will creep in without our knowledge. We will be growing and we will have to reflect in order to understand our advancements. We will be investing in solid, long lasting future.
I believe most people here are searching for happiness in one form or another. And Ryan from your post and dedication to this site I can tell you have some powerful opinions. I failed to supply you with the necessary information to understand me correctly. I'm sorry for that.
CHAT
