1.) You use affirmations to replace feelings of fear/shame/nervous with confidence and desire then you approach the girl. When you have had success with women your positive experience will cement that feeling of confidence inside of you. If you happen to get rejected by some fluke, you use affirmations to replace feelings of shame and hurt with confidence. Then to see that you are fine after you get rejected will give you some comfort with rejection (and that will make you tougher), but you don't wan't to be comfortable with rejection. You want to win. So the purpose the approach is to succeed. And when you have exceed enough you will expect to win. Confidence expects to win.

2.) Before you approachYou prepare your approaches by thinking of openers, stories to demonstrate values, stories to evoke emotions, some jokes to throw in and how you are going to number close. You practice your approach alone; You memorize your material and you rehearse how you are going to recite it. You rehearse the tone of your voice, the way you make eye contact, the infliction on some words, the pauses before some words and you rehearse this again and again until you memorize it and its even instinctive. This way when you get nervous the material that you have practiced just comes out with out you having to consciously think about it. After you have approached women enough with your method it becomes a habit and you will be able to do it even when you don't feel confident.

3.) The repition of affirmations develops mental discipline. That means you think about certain things and feel certain ways in certain situations. Ala once you think about something enough it will naturally just pop into your head some times and you will naturally feel inclined to feel a certain way. In fact, certain situations will make you recall certain emotions if you feel that emotion enough in that situation.

4.) The reptition of affirmations and the use of compelling affirmations will instill beliefs with your subsconscious. This will make you act on feelings and beliefs without thinking about them. This is a good way to direct drives (such as anger, libido, aggression, fear) into doing what you want to do.

5.) The repitition of affirmation and compelling words & experiences will build feelings deep inside you. This is the way to build willpower. But you have to have patience a keep applying the pressure even when you can't see it making noticeable results.

Synopsis: After you have done all of this you should have 1.) Confidence in what you want to do. 2.) You should be able to do what you want to do instinctively. 3.) You should instinvely find yourself thinking about certain things and feeling a certain way. 4.) You should find your self subconsciously directed to do certain things and not to do certain things. 5.) You should develop a strong passion for what you want todo.



*I have used this knowledge to develop feelings of attraction in women as well.

Respect Revisited

I think therefore I am"

Disrespect reinforces a poor self-conception.

You can tolerate disrespect because it will slowly erode your confidence.

You can't associate with everyone because they will put more pressure on you than you can bear and it will began to reshape how you feel and think of yoursel.

Confidence and Desire is the Recipe.

The mind will get tired before the body gives out. The difference between the success and the failure is confidence. The success can believe in himself and keep going until he succeeds or until he fails. He is willing to go until he fails to succeed. Fear of failure is why the failure fails.

"Don't Save anything for the swim back" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q_OpCOdxqKQ


You never expect rejection, but you have to be willing to get rejected to get your girl. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=45mMioJ5szc


You have to believe in yourself and keep going until you succeed or until you fail.

Pressure + Time = change , this idea is involved in all the ways to build confidence and desire.

1.) Developing positive expectations. Use affirmations get in a positive state of mind then successfully do something. After you have been successful enough your feelings will begin to change and you will no longer need the affirmations.
a. You can use this with others. Make a new experience feel pleasant. Give them that pleasant feelings a few times and then they will develop confidence by expectating that experience to be pleasant.
b. After you have built confidence doing one thing you can build confidence doing another. For example: Swimming in 7ft of water, 10 fft,20 ft, 30 ft and then the middle of the ocean.

2.) Developing emotion and habit. When you are exposed to something that makes you feel a certain way (confident, angry, happy) that stimulus causes that emotion to grow in you. After enough time that emotion will grow to all that that stimulus allows you. (for example: being in a room with a fly will eventually make you very annoyed or angry). Then if you have this same experience, with the emotion growing to that same point everyday that emotion becomes a habit.
A. Habits.
a. After you repeated something enough it becomes a habit, an instinct within pushing you to do something. This can be an action, this can be things you say, this can be things you do, this can be this you think, this can be things that you feel.
b. Developing habits. You would use affirmations to get you started, to get you confident about doing whatever you will do and to get you wanting to do it. For example: Working to running 10 miles a day. You do it 1 mile every day for some time, then you do 2, then you do 4 and so on. Then when you get to 10 keep doing it everyday. And then if you were enthusiastic about doing these things everyday you will get that feeling win you do them.

3.) Buidling Feelings (Will and Confidence) – Prolonged exposure to pleasant experience develops confidence and desire. Repeated exposure makes that feeling become a habit, that habit fortifies the feeling. What confidence does is it removes psychological barriers of fear and shame, and confidence builds desire because when you are confident you expect success and that is something that you desire so your desire to do things grow, your energy grows.

4.) The Subconconscious- Through experience (nurture) and nature, certain feelings have been implanted into your subconscious and certain habits are within it as well. You are not aware of these experiences and feelings for the most part. However, sometimes when you think about them you can easily figure them out. Often we are fighting Reality and Fighting ourself so that we can do what we would like to do and these are feelings that will take over you if you do not keep them at bay.
a. The easiest thing to change is something you have not done before. You develop confidence in that area and then eureka you have expaned your comfort zone.
b. Someitmes a habit or belief can be changed over time.
c. Sometimes you will only be able to keep some habits and beliefs at bay. And for what its worth that is what you will a lot of use for affirmations for doing that.
*Note: The way to get beliefs into the subconscious is repetition and power of experience and powerful words. When I say power and powerful I mean wods that make an impression.
d. Some things will only be able to be direct and some feelings can in fact ruin people.

5.) Feeling people out. If you listen and observe you can notice how people feel about certain things and you can observe their tendencies. This is very useful, especially when observing the intensity of someone’s negative or positive feelings.
*Note whenever you meet someone you want to leave them with a strong positive feeling and that feeling will influence their judgment.

6.) At the end of the day. The purpose of affirmations are to change how you consciously feel and what you are thinking about, and then eventually change how you feel in your subconscious. (when that starts to change these things become automatic, and you find it hard to do the things that you used to do)
If you build the feeling, and there is also a feeling in your sub how is that affecting the will.


A few more things:
The mind wants to survive so painful experiences are not easily forgotten.
There are general emotional states of confidence, anxiety. Then there are specific situations where you may suddenly become confident. We call that your domain, probably because you have control of the situation.


When you are loved you feel like you can be the way you are and get what you want. So many people want to change and to be a certain way. When you love yourself you try to be what you are and get what you want.

The Formula for Confidence: My Examples

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iTB1h18bHlY




Affirmations are a blind type of confidence. You believe it without knowing or you believe it when reality says otherwise then you make reality into what you believe.

Some things are really deep within you and will take time to get rid of or will only be able to be suppressed as long as you apply your affirmations or will only be able to be managed.

Example of how this works:

Example Number 1: In or near the moment

See HB 10.

Tell yourself “I am amazing” (an affirmation) then thinking this makes you feel better. Then you approach the HB10 because you feel better.

If you have a good technique you should succeed. After you have succeed enough this positive experience solidifies your confidence and you naturally feel confident approaching HB 10.

If you approach HB 10 enough then you develop a habit of approaching HB10 and using your technique so that even if you are nervous you just do it instinctually.

If you happen to get rejected and you feel embarrassed you deal with the feeling by telling yourself “I am amazing” (an affirmation) and the feeling goes away. Get rejected enough and use the affirmation to get comfortable with it, 1.) you will get comfortable with rejection because you will be in the habit of feeling fine with rejection. Also, 2.) you will get comfortable because you will see (this belief will be solidified in you) that it is not the end of the world when you get rejected. However, if you keep getting rejected you will begin to expect rejection and this will hurt your confidence that you will succeed. You want to be careful with rejection/failure because it can scar you. (Leading to Sadness even depression, Anger, Loss of enthusiasm, Loss of Commitment to succeeding, Laziness/recklessness in approaching …and a general uneasiness with women because you expect a negative outcome)

Example Number 2a: Out of the moment Progress.

Repeatedly (drilling it in), You tell yourself every morning or at night “I am great” or lets say you write it down many times then you See a HB and suddenly you find yourself approaching because you have this belief ingrained in you that raises your confidence and self-esteem and pushes you to do certain things.

Example Number 2b
One Time, You hear something and it makes an impression upon you that it raises your confidence and self-esteem and pushes you to do certain things.

Example Number 2c
Patience, lets say you have a feeling of shame because of a break up and you feel “I am a terrible man.” You tell yourself everyday “I am a wonderful guy” and slowly that feeling of shame will be replaced. Mental discipline will also work to reduce that feeling of shame. This also works when you have really intense fears. You work on that fear with those affirmations reduce it a little then you go do it.


Example Number 3: Mental Discipline.

Repeatedly, use affirmations to get in a conscious confident mood (a positive mood) then you can use that mood throughout the day. If you do this everyday you will be in the habit of feeling confident and naturally start to feel that way.

You can do other things to do this too. Dressing nicely everyday, cleaning your room every day, listening to music, watching certain T.V. shows, reading certain things. Its just a confidence ritual


Example Number 4

Reframe everything in your life into a positive view. Classic example: The glass is half full not have empty. Other examples: If you take you your time with things you are not slow you are meticulous. If you are not quick to act you are not timid you are thoughtful. If you are like most other people don’t say average say you are in the majority. All these little things help to make you feel better about yourself.

There are many different perspectives in which to see a thing, but the one you believe is the one that has been impressed upon you.


Example Number 5

Hold people accountable for disrespect you, whether be actions that cross the line or just negative words. This will develop a sense of empowerment and self-worth. And, it will make people mindful of how they make you feel, which is most important. The point is people should always be gentle with feelings.


Example Number 6
Never let people make it look like your judgment is ridiculous. A common way to make people not trust themselves is to ridicule and embarrass them. When you are humiliated you do not want to trust yourself. You don't trust yourself because it hurts to believe it not because you are wrong

Examples:
Person A: Mcdonald is always great to eat.
Person B: You must like heartaches.
Person A: Oh have you heard of regular exercise…I do that.

Person A: You should exercise regularly
Person B: You are just vain.
PersonA: Naw, a fit bode is just attractive.


Example Number 7
Learn new things & do things that you are good at. Learning new things like swimming will make you feel empowered. Doing things that you are good at will also make you feel strong and empowered.

Affirmations should be short and very caustic; I mean positive, but very caustic/pointed. They should be said with a lot of enthusiasm and intensity and emphasis (whether they are said verbally or internally). People ultimately do what they want to do. So you want to feel so good about what you want to do that you can’t help but do it.

Never blame someone for not doing something you want them to do; the desire just wasn’t there.

When you have the ability to inspire yourself and create irresitible desire in yourself, your personality will become irresitible to others. The golden rule of the game is would you holler at yourself?

I heard people talking sh*t about affirmations. You can use affirmations to gain experience. You can use affirmations to deal with feelings. You can use affirmations to get over insecurities. You can use affirmations to build confidence. You can use affirmations to develop will. You can use affirmations to develop mental consistency. And you can use affirmations to develop habits. The mind, power of the mind but you got to believe in the method and you got to commit to the method. You got to believe in the method and you go to commit to the method. Oh make it work for ya. Make it work. It will work. It will.

Small Thing to a Giant

Maybe you have noticed some of the most confident people are cocky and are people that put no limit on their abilities to accomplish things. Some people call it arrogant and some people call it confident. Everyone feels that they are great, some people just hate this about themselves and others love it.

When you have the belief that you are something great and amazing and extremely powerful and good and righteous then nothing seems embarassing or intimidating. And this is a really useful feeling to have. If you sincerely beleive in your heart that you are the most handsome man in the world then no woman would intimidate you. Think about it? Is it true, well its your opinion and you decide your opinions. So there is a strategic benefit to this type of belief. If you feel like you are a giant then every thing seems like it can be done and no adversity seems to hard. Hence, small thing to a giant.

This method is very useful to overcome things when you don't yet have experience or to overcome things when you have had negative experience.
However, there are so dangers to this method. 1.) Is that you will fail and failure can really scar you and make you mentally unsure. 2.) It takes constant maintance. if you think you are a Stud and everything around you says scrub then you have to constantly tell yourself you are a Stud until you show it in reality or until you die. However, a diamond starts out looking like a piece of coal so see the reasonableness in the belief.

Once again Confidence & desire are to help you become comfortable with pressure, risk, challenges, pain. Its to help you to become comfortable with hardship and then its really not that hard.

When you have an emotional Scar you can get over it with positivity and positive experience, but the memory is always there to haunt you. you'll remember it and itll break you down. You'll dwell on it and it'll break you down. You'll be more sensitive because of it. This is why you don't want to get hurt.

THE MORE YOU COMMUNE WITH A FEELING THE MORE THAT FEELING BECOMES A HABIT, THE DEEPER THAT FEELING GETS AND THE STRONGER THAT FEELING GETS.

Getting someone to do anything is about DEVELOPING INTEREST. DEVELOPING INTEREST.

Is There No Shame in Your Game?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rMD9FnHSJ14

If you have no integrity then you will lose yourself. If you have no dignity you'll lose your confidence, self-esteem, your social value and your character. If you chase women you will lose your integrity and your dignity.

You must build your value and know wihen you show value women will chase you. You must believe that you will have respect and a woman. And, you should be so set and firm in your ways that a woman cannot change.





Most importantly, you cannot be soooo desperate for a woman that you don't care about your integrity or your dignity. You want better than that.

What is a Pick Up Artist?

art- an unconventional form or medium in which impulses regarded as artistic may be expressed.

There are a lot of different techniques in this game. However, its easy to lose sight of the purpose of the techniques and that is ultimately to develop iinterest, a woman's interest in you. There are a lot of rules, but its easy to lose sight of the goal, to turn a woman on to you. In baseball, a batter can be strong, he can have a perfect stance and he can have a beautiful follow thru, but the purpose of the game is to hit the ball. In basketball, a player can jump high, he can dribble, he can pass, he can even have a good shot, but if he does not score everything is for not. Many people are stuck on form and not goal, and many people have the skills but are still not succeeding. Then you see a guy breaking rules: complimenting alot, giving lots of attention, qualifying himself. And, that guy is winning...





An artist bends rules, an artist creates rules, an artist breaks rules and its beautiful because of its creativity


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dI17VdRfCek&feature=fvst

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Alright, I really wanna get this stuff down. Some things I noticed with the affirmations. First of all they work on some level. The shorter ones you suggested actually were alot better. I added a few more to. Anyways, so I feel as if I get so cocked up on these affirmations at times that I feel I'm supreme. However, I end up crashing really hard. And by the time I arrive at the scene. I'm already nervous as shit.

This is just speculation but remember how I said that ross jeffries affirmations lost affect? I believe I found out why. The reason why is because eventually I try to force the feeling I created the previous days. And by doing so it doesn't work out so well and I tend to cause myself anxiety.


I really wanna get this shit down man. I wanna fucken forget about AA and let that be my last worry lol. I WANNA BE A PUA!!!!

Well, the affirmation really is just a word of encouragement to yourself to do what you want to do. Then after you do it enough you get experience and you get in the habit of doing it....This is the most obvious way to get results from this. One reason, the affirmation is supposed to be short, is so when you get nervous and you can think of anything else you can think of it. I mean you cane usue the affirmations in the very moment you get afraid to change your feelings or I mean you can use the words right before the scene to get your mood up or you can use it in the morning and at night to implant the words in your memory and build your general confidence.

Also, a word of caution. Ideally, This is to get you progressedly out of your comfort zone. You would not want to be an amatuer boxer then use affirmations to go fight Mike Tyson, thats unrealistic. Or you don't want to be some free time bballer and use affirmations to play Lebron James. So don't push yourself to hard to fast.


Visualize- See yourself doing it then do it. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1uVFB9VyN54

Example of how it sounds to affirm someone @55-1:06, @2:47-3:05, @4:40-5:00
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6jAnO0t3Q9o

Chances are you will be nervous. This is why you memorize your words and all your body movements very well before your approach so you can perform basically automatically. Often times the affirmation will be just enough to get you to face your fear. Then as you get more success you will naturally become confident. You have to have patience. The fact that you get nervous is just a reflection of your inner beliefs about the world; you think the situation is dangerous and you get afraid instinctively. The repeating of affirmations can change what you believe within, however the goal is to primarily use successful experience to do that.

Also powerful affirmations don't wear off: "if I don't do this I will starve" "if I don't do this I will never have a children" " this is the only thing that will make me happy". These are driving and burning words whose effect and meaning never fade...never.

However, with that said the meaning of handsome or brave are always the same. Calling yourself "handsome" or "brave" has an effect the words just may not sound as powerful.