. A man changes when he changes how he feels. This can happen momentarily with a few words changing how you feel. Words can get into your subconscious and the change in feeling can be more lasting. Or the change is done on a daily basis to develop a habit.

For instance, an emotional scar often occurs in an instant and the experience was powerfully negative. Similarly, an experience can powerfully positive.

What would you do if you could feel no fear, no pressure, no shame?

That's why you want to feel good about yourself and what you are doing. Most people fail because demands are placed upon them without first removing pyschological barriers blocking their actions. Feeling good about yourself gives you the energy to work harder, courage to take risks, high standards to ask for the best, and commitment to whatever you apply yourself to.



When you feel good about yourself you feel powerful, you feel right, you have energy, you have toughness, distracting and debilitating.

Self-Respect and Integrity:

Why do you stand up to a woman? why don't you let a woman disrespect you?

Well, the obvious is if you beg for a woman, if you pursue a woman desperately (texting alot, calling alot), giving her all this attention...if you let someone disrespect you you become comfortable with disrespect in the future and it is more likely to happen again.

The less obvious is this. Lets say a woman embarasses you or just makes you feel uncomfortable sometimes. She says things that make you feel uncomfortable or does things that make you uncomfortable. Then you face another situation in the future whether with the woman or not...you feel uncomfortable and you are more likely to tolerate it. Or which more harder to see your standards start to drop and you start to aviod risks.

This is the thing about when you face a risks with confidence, it really does not seem like a risk because you feel so comfortable.

Once again the danger when you lose confidence and steem on the inside is that you start lowering your horizon and giving in without really noticing it.

People with low self-esteem think low; they limit their horizons. You think I can't have this girl or I can't have this job or that this person is better than me. This all starts with how you feel about yourself. Also, people with low self-esteem are haters. They project their negative feelings about themselves unto others because it makes them feel bad about themselves when they see other people excelling.

The trues signs of low self-esteem are: Badmouthing yourself and taking shit.

Do not tolerate disrespect or you will lose faith in your judgment, you will tolerate taking shit, you will limit your actions, you will look for permission and approval and you will lose energy. This is truly misery.

Its quite easy for people that are fairly successful to have low self-esteem because their success was fairly reasonable given their background so they dont value their success very highly. For example: Brad pitt dates a HB vs. you dating a HB. Brad pick won't value her as much as you.

You really have to guard your feelings. Because 1.) If you are around people with low-self esteem they are always going to be put your accomplishments down and this will hurt your morale. 2.) Sometimes if you are around people that are successful they won't value your success even when your success is a big deal for you.

You need people in your life that are positive and understand the progress that you are making, that understand where you came from.

The Priceless Importance of Patience

I talk about confidence, I talk about desire, but you have to have patience for these feelings to develop. You have to have patience to develop habits and instincts. Most people, when they don't see immediate progress they abandon a task. You know when you put a seed in the ground it won't grow overnight.

1.) When you have a positive emotion in a situation consistently you begin to expect that feeling in that situation. You associate that feeling to that situation. THIS IS THE SIMPLEST WAY TO BUILD YOUR CONFIDENCE IN A PARTICULAR SITUATION.

2.) When you consistently feel a certain way that feeling becomes a habit.

3.) There are deep driving feelings within you. These may be the hardest to change, because you have to plant the seed and water it and you don't always know how the growth is going. You can just keep applying the pressure.


I can't say how long it takes doing something before it becomes a habit, but you know you have them. I also can't say how long it takes feeling something in a particular situation or seeing something in a particular situation befor it becomes an expectation; however, we know our experiences form our expectations for the world. And we know that we have feelings within us from our experiences driving us to behave certain ways to this day.

How do you get beliefs andfeelings deep down within?

~The repitiion of affirmations

~Powerful Experiences

~Powerful Words.

and this is consistent.

How to Build Will

Lets say you want to go to the gym and work out 3hrs a day everyday. Well you don't go to the gym now at all. Well you want to start off with 30 mins maybe 3 days a week, get excited about doing that with affirmations and confidence and desire. Then do that for some time and you will develop an instinct to go to the gym for 30 mins for 3 days a week. Then try 45 mins 3 days a week then 1hr then 90 mins then 2 hr and then 3hrs. Then push the days up from 3 to 5 to 7. Each time you get out of your comfort zone you use confidence and desire to take the next step....and then you will develop the instinct to workout 3hrs a day for 7 days a week and if you are excited about all your work outs you will have developed the mental habit of feeling excited about your works out. So then you have an instinct and a desire to go to the gym.

If you try to go to fast you are going to absolutely hate going to the gym. You might quit.

This is the same way with girls. Patience. When you have repeated positive experiences with a girl she begins to expect positive experiences when she is with you. Never do anything to hurt her or to make her feel uncomfortable. Never say anything to make you sound suspect or sketchy then she will see you as "solid." Remember repeated pleasant experiences. I can't say how long this will take, but I do know it works.

So if you want to take a girl out first get her comfortable talking to you. Then affirm talking on the phone and then ask her for her phone number. Then talk on the phone for a few times and make that comfortable. Then affirm a date. Then take her on a date and make that comfortable. Then you know how to finish your story...but you want to make every step very comfortable and you want to really sell the next step before you take it. Note: Some girls will have different comfort levels and will be more comfortable with more things sooner than others. WIth this method you could date a shy girl or a wild women. The wild women has fears and insecurities too

How to work with beliefs?
Which is the better way?

. That guys has no idea what he is talking about. It is possible to hold two completely contradictory believes in your mind at the same time. The one that prevails is the one that is stronger. The mind is controlled by feelings, habits and instincts not logic...

But maybe we could work on beliefs and affirmations.
Why not?
It could be better.

I don't understand what you are saying...

You could work with your beliefs of limitation and, at the same time, work with affirmations to overcome obstacles.
I would like to know ways to work with beliefs which are limitation for my freedom.

You need unseen faith and willingness to take risks if
You want to do it yourself. Unseen faith as in telling yourself your the best pua ever before knowing

I would like to be in that state. I want to.
But I need confidence.
After the first rejection, I go home and my confidence decrease.
What to do?