this girl at my work who I was trying to get to know better took my cell phone out of my hand and put her phone number in it when i didnt even ask for it. We have been friendly with eachother for a few weeks and I even gave her a ride home a couple times. So i text (with a non needy message saying, hey whats up)her and get no reply. Any idea what the deal is with that?

There is a HB9 in my class. Well, her course is slightly different, but some lectures are the same. I really like her and I think I've seen some IOIs. So, on Wednesday I just met her before the lectures and said something like

-Hi. (me)
-Hi (she)
-What are you doing after lectures?
-I'm free
-Would u like to get a cup of coffeee with me?
-Sure
-What's ur phone number?
-xxxx

But then after lectures she said that she can't make it today. I said that maybe we can do it on friday, she said she would think about it. On Friday I asked her again, the conversation was like this:

-Hi. So what about today? (me)
-I'm afraid I can't (she)
-Oh come on, what can u possibly do at 12 a.m. on Friday?
-I'm supposed to be at home.
-Fine. But lets pick a certain day. What about Sunday?
-I'm staying at home on the weekend (seems like she's lying)
-Okay. Next week?
-I cant.
-Why?
-Because I dont want to
-Well, ok then see u later
-Bye

That's it. I dont know what has happened semms like she completely changed her mind in couple of hours. I've got her number, I can get her facebook account(we've got some mutual friends on facebook). I dont know what to do ... St.Valentine's Day is close, but she's kind of party girl and I dont think she is much romantic. So what should I do? Is there any chances left?

P.S. Excuse my English, that's not my first language

No worries... she is obviously interested. You texted her she doesnt respond... she may have been busy... may have not gotten it... plenty of reasons.

Next time you see her casually bring up that you texted her and tease her about it... "blah blah blah you put your number in my phone then dont answer?" blah blah etc... light, playful, teasing... thats your MO here... she obviously wants you... so just stay the course... no need to overreact to anything

Basically man... it sounds like you were doing well... but just went into puppydog mode when she agreed to go out with you... you invested to much in to small of a thing, and that appears needy.

Your plan of action here is to move on... forget her... go work on other women your in a tough spot with this one now... and to be honest... ironically dropping her like a hot potato and going after other women may (or may not) send her back to ioi street.

She said she didnt recive text messages when I brought it up. Thing is now she had problems with her phone and got a new one with a new number i said
So ill just throw your old number away
her: yeah blah blah
Me: I waited acting cool not really making eye contact like I didnt give a crap, but waiting to see if she would offer me her new number. She did not. I didnt bring it up i wasnt acting needy. but I chit chat with her and bust her balls subtly while at work trying to use the cocky funny techniques. So anyways I dont know what to do now. Any ideas?

Just keep going with it buddy, your doing fine... Personally when she said she got a new number I'd be all playful and silly and say something like "Oh Em Gee! And you didnt even tell me!?! You are out of the circle of trust.... nope! OUT! Out of the circle... my god <as you hand her your phone> put it in there... you have some rebuilding to do missy"

Something like that but is fitting to your personality.

Now I'd probably also jokingly say something like "You know what I just realized? I dont have your new number... now how am I supposed to <enter outlandish joking thing here> treat you like a princess/call you for phone sex without that?" hand her your phone and say "put it in there for me"

again edit to fit your personality

thnx for doing this. theres this hb7.5 in my first hour class and every once in a while she glances back at me(IOIs?)
i was thinking about approaching her and saying " you cant keep staring at me and not talk to me"
i was really like your opinion on what to say to her and how to approach her
btw i really like her and dont wanna mess up thnx again

Yeah I'd say something kinda C&F about it... like (Because I'm a white male who dresses rockerish) "Dont stare at me like yo momma dont feeeed you!" said with my best Queen Latifa impression Or maybe something like "Quit looking at me like I'm a steak!" followed by a couple napoleon dynamite "Gosh!"-es

Your kinda of negging her but more in a teasing joking way... and from there you just start talking... keep up the playful vibe... joking around and teasing her here and there, having fun for a couple minutes then hand her your phone and tell her to put her number in there and "maybe I'll give you a chance to make-up for starting at me all the time "

Something like that... obviously fit it to your personality... but just be fun, up beat and confident

i go to dating websites like plenty of fish and myspace. No one will talk to me and the 1% that does stops suddenly. Most wont even respond to my ims any idea why? Is it because i have long hair?

Mistery in "The Game" said that in field we must feel like in a video game. But i feel the best when i am totally relaxed. The problem is even if i would be relaxed, i will forget about the rules, etc..
The question is: what is "the state" when you with girl/s? Relaxed, concentrated, thinking??
Thanks

This can depend on all sorts of things... to be honest with you, online game is not my thing... I've done it a little bit, and I could help you have great convo's over aim or the phone etc... but when it comes to picking up girls off of dating or social networking sites, I just dont know alot on the topic.

I'm going to recommend you checkout the Online Game section of the forum and specifically to seek out posts by Jsmooth and Whoopie. Those guys are excellent at online game.

This situation happend to me just a couple hour ago, it is about online game but i think that is probably commun in normal sarging.

she told me, enough about me, lets talk about you. What make you different from other guys?

I havent awnser, but i think it is a shit test,, and i dont know how to awnser....

Another question that i have is that i opened a girl online and the i asked her with something very know around this community, "Are those your real eyes or contacts? "
Her anwser was: Yes they are my real eyes.

What should i do next?

Well personally I am very relaxed... go with the flow... complimented by high energy.

I however am a natural though and although I have studied MM it never fit my personality well... the methods that seem to come the closest to what I actually do would probably be some combination of Juggler, Gunwich and Speed Seduction.


If you like the MM stuff though, I think that for awhile your mindset will be concentrated and thinking until you get your routines really down... then you kind of run your routines on autopilot while you calibrate. For MM the key is rehearsing your routines, think of a stand up comedian or a public speaker, and practice your routines aloud in the mirror over and over until you have your material optimized.

Whats up doc?

So i've been reading frogs into PRINCES and i have to say it's really really interesting stuff. Thank you for recommending it. NLP is facinating. But i did have a question. The emphasis on the process as opposed to the content was really interesting to me, and how if you can change the process, by deletion or insertion of a new piece, reversing the order, or changing the content. if you could change the process and use that to cure many phobias, couldn't you use this technique on approach anxiety? Like Mystery and many others seem to agree that approach anxiety is always there, you just learn to deal with and live with it. Well couldn't you use this technique to completely eliminate it by reprogramming yourself? Couldn't you reprogram someone to no longer fear approaching anyone?

Thanks Doc. I'm really loving this stuff.

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Johnny Chase

(Sorry about my bad english, Im foreigner)

So, Im now 17 and she is also. We go same school and we are even in same class. This girl is very talkative and kind almost to everybody, what makes difficult for me to know if she is interested in me.

We are good friends imo, she shares some secrets with me and we send text messages to each others (But they never include anything flirting Sad ) Well, to clarify my situation: she sends me sms if she has a fight with her parents or if she is pissed off (for example), but also "normal messages" like "How are you" and so on.

She have told me that Im sweetheart because I listen and answer to her (I read somewhere that this is bad?). Girl have also told that I have funny stories/things and Im nice. In school we talk at lessons and write letters (not loveletters) and draw pictures.

This girl drinks, well, I dont want to lie, every weekend. Sometimes Im also drinking there, but we never do anything. Just talk Confused

What an earth should I do to get this girl? Forgot to tell, HB 8-9 Very Happy

Do you think I should change my style from this listening guy to something else?

Thanks for helping a total rookie. I have had only one pretty short (couple weeks) relationship before this. ALSO I have a problem, Im interested in some chick and when I have almost "captured" her, interest in this girl runs out.

Thanks