How have you dealt with adversity in the past or in other areas of your life?

All adveristy, like any problem has to be handled one day at a time.

First you have to make the decision to face the problem; don't escape reality work on your reality, but when people have the choice to get away often times they don't do what is hardest. Then you have to keep a good spirit, don't feel ashamed or ashamed or depressed; you fight those feelings off. Next you want to believe that you will overcome the problem. Next try to focus all your desires into it your anger (at how things are unfair for you), your lust, your hatred, your love....just everything. Next develop a good work ethic to overcome the problem. Grind everyday and make the progress. Don't let anything stop the progress. Then you will build foundation "block by block, brick by brick, calloused hand by calloused hand." http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WO4tIrjBDkk


SOmetimes your mind is your worst enemy, espcially when you are under pressure. You rationalize your doubts, you rationalize your fears. You try to get out of things. You look for sympathy and help. You make excuses. You procrastinate and make things worst. You put limits on yourself, you lie to yourself ( and this is really the hardest one to see). You can tell when you're making excuses, you can tell when your fears are unfounded, you can tell when you're procrastinating, you will see when looking for sympathy won't work, but when a man has limited himself how does he know? How does a man know if he is limiting himself? How Does he know? You have to believe you will and then commit to it.

The importance of healing emotionally

Before you start gaming you must heal if you are wounded.

Healing Spirit- if you crack a tooth and keeping chewing on it it will break, if you crack a bat and keep playing with it it will break, if you crack a rock and keep apply pressure to it it will break. How is the spirit any different?

Fear and shame form layer upon layer over your talents and abilities that you can no longer see your potential.

You overcome these limitations by finding a mentor http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RijzD_wZifE

or by using your imagination. "The man who has no imagination has no wings"

Does she deserve you? Does She deserve you? Does she deserve you?




This is a question most guys never consider when they meet an attractive lady. However, if you are truly a prize its a question you ask. Is she good enough for you? Does she meet your standards? And when you ask these types of questions oneitis vanishes.

These guys go in the gym and gawk at girls and never think "I don't want to look. I want to be looked at." They call girls and never think " I don't want to chase. I want to be chased." Guys get all dressed up and practice routines and never think I don't want to give attention, i want to get the attention. Guys, also never realize that they are valuing the woman more than they value themselves :/

The bottomline is if you offer a woman your dignity and self-respect on a platter she will eat you up. She will be a maneater. A man must have boundaries and must have faith that if you maintain your boundaries people will love you and respect you. However, if you have not been raised and socialized that way it is very difficult to see. Your self-esteem and self-confidence are playing tricks on your head. The whole point of the "sh*t test" is that women will do all these things to push your boundaries to get what they want, but if htey get what they want they lose respect for you...

A man must have integrity and dignity. He has to know when to say no. When you can say NO, that's when you are no longer needy. You have to be able to stand firm on your principles and your desires. If woman wants to drink and you don't want to say no, if a woman has faults like being (messy, whiny, lazy) see them even bring them to her attention if need be, if a woman wants to go somewhere and you don't want to go tell her no. If you neg, you don't worry about if she doesn't like it, you liked it.

Obviously, you can't have some people if you don't compromise well then you don't compromise. However, what profit a man to gain the world but lose his soul? Why get a woman if you have to hate yourself in the process. Why have a woman if she makes you miserable, it makes no sense.

Sometimes you're going in the completely wrong direction full speed and you can't even see it. Are girls obsessing about is he going to call me? Is he going to text me? What if I said the wrong thing? How does my outfit look? Is my hair nice enough? Should I go to the gym? Should I talk about this or should I talk about that? Are girls making blog posts about you? Are girls day dreaming and fantasizing about you?

If not you need to work on your game until this is so, until women want to chase you. You need to spend time by yourself until are set in your ways and habits so that no woman can corrupt you....

"It is terrifying to see how easily, in certain people, all dignity collapses. Yet when you think about it, this is quite normal since they only maintain this dignity by constantly striving against their own nature." (Albery Camus)

Dignity increases more easily than it begins. (Seneca)

Does she deserve you? Does She deserve you? Does she deserve you?




This is a question most guys never consider when they meet an attractive lady. However, if you are truly a prize its a question you ask. Is she good enough for you? Does she meet your standards? And when you ask these types of questions oneitis vanishes.

These guys go in the gym and gawk at girls and never think "I don't want to look. I want to be looked at." They call girls and never think " I don't want to chase. I want to be chased." Guys get all dressed up and practice routines and never think I don't want to give attention, i want to get the attention. Guys, also never realize that they are valuing the woman more than they value themselves :/

The bottomline is if you offer a woman your dignity and self-respect on a platter she will eat you up. She will be a maneater. A man must have boundaries and must have faith that if you maintain your boundaries people will love you and respect you. However, if you have not been raised and socialized that way it is very difficult to see. Your self-esteem and self-confidence are playing tricks on your head. The whole point of the "sh*t test" is that women will do all these things to push your boundaries to get what they want, but if htey get what they want they lose respect for you...

A man must have integrity and dignity. He has to know when to say no. When you can say NO, that's when you are no longer needy. You have to be able to stand firm on your principles and your desires. If woman wants to drink and you don't want to say no, if a woman has faults like being (messy, whiny, lazy) see them even bring them to her attention if need be, if a woman wants to go somewhere and you don't want to go tell her no. If you neg, you don't worry about if she doesn't like it, you liked it.

Obviously, you can't have some people if you don't compromise well then you don't compromise. However, what profit a man to gain the world but lose his soul? Why get a woman if you have to hate yourself in the process. Why have a woman if she makes you miserable, it makes no sense.

Sometimes you're going in the completely wrong direction full speed and you can't even see it. Are girls obsessing about is he going to call me? Is he going to text me? What if I said the wrong thing? How does my outfit look? Is my hair nice enough? Should I go to the gym? Should I talk about this or should I talk about that? Are girls making blog posts about you? Are girls day dreaming and fantasizing about you?

If not you need to work on your game until this is so, until women want to chase you. You need to spend time by yourself until are set in your ways and habits so that no woman can corrupt you....

"It is terrifying to see how easily, in certain people, all dignity collapses. Yet when you think about it, this is quite normal since they only maintain this dignity by constantly striving against their own nature." (Albery Camus)

Dignity increases more easily than it begins. (Seneca)

Does she deserve you? Does She deserve you? Does she deserve you?




This is a question most guys never consider when they meet an attractive lady. However, if you are truly a prize its a question you ask. Is she good enough for you? Does she meet your standards? And when you ask these types of questions oneitis vanishes.

These guys go in the gym and gawk at girls and never think "I don't want to look. I want to be looked at." They call girls and never think " I don't want to chase. I want to be chased." Guys get all dressed up and practice routines and never think I don't want to give attention, i want to get the attention. Guys, also never realize that they are valuing the woman more than they value themselves :/

The bottomline is if you offer a woman your dignity and self-respect on a platter she will eat you up. She will be a maneater. A man must have boundaries and must have faith that if you maintain your boundaries people will love you and respect you. However, if you have not been raised and socialized that way it is very difficult to see. Your self-esteem and self-confidence are playing tricks on your head. The whole point of the "sh*t test" is that women will do all these things to push your boundaries to get what they want, but if htey get what they want they lose respect for you...

A man must have integrity and dignity. He has to know when to say no. When you can say NO, that's when you are no longer needy. You have to be able to stand firm on your principles and your desires. If woman wants to drink and you don't want to say no, if a woman has faults like being (messy, whiny, lazy) see them even bring them to her attention if need be, if a woman wants to go somewhere and you don't want to go tell her no. If you neg, you don't worry about if she doesn't like it, you liked it.

Obviously, you can't have some people if you don't compromise well then you don't compromise. However, what profit a man to gain the world but lose his soul? Why get a woman if you have to hate yourself in the process. Why have a woman if she makes you miserable, it makes no sense.

Sometimes you're going in the completely wrong direction full speed and you can't even see it. Are girls obsessing about is he going to call me? Is he going to text me? What if I said the wrong thing? How does my outfit look? Is my hair nice enough? Should I go to the gym? Should I talk about this or should I talk about that? Are girls making blog posts about you? Are girls day dreaming and fantasizing about you?

If not you need to work on your game until this is so, until women want to chase you. You need to spend time by yourself until are set in your ways and habits so that no woman can corrupt you....

"It is terrifying to see how easily, in certain people, all dignity collapses. Yet when you think about it, this is quite normal since they only maintain this dignity by constantly striving against their own nature." (Albery Camus)

Dignity increases more easily than it begins. (Seneca)



*Disrespect is truly awful thing. When you are direspected you think you have to submit to things you don't have to submit to, you think you are not good enough for things you are good enough for and you think you can't do things that you can infact do.

God damn. Some really touching stuff man. What I really like is that you post things that I can relate to.


"SOmetimes your mind is your worst enemy, espcially when you are under pressure. You rationalize your doubts, you rationalize your fears. You try to get out of things. You look for sympathy and help. You make excuses. You procrastinate and make things worst. You put limits on yourself, you lie to yourself ( and this is really the hardest one to see). You can tell when you're making excuses, you can tell when your fears are unfounded, you can tell when you're procrastinating, you will see when looking for sympathy won't work, but when a man has limited himself how does he know? How does a man know if he is limiting himself? How Does he know? You have to believe you will and then commit to it."

I think I can relate to this one the most.

I really want to get rid of my AA so fucken badly. Sometimes I go for it. Alot of the times I don't to be honest. I'm not 100% sure what the problem is. I don't know if it's the matter of putting to much pressure on myself that I end up not doing jack shit. Or something else. For instance today. I got myself all anxious today at the gym and school. Having in my head I gotta approach all these women and blah, blah, blah. It seems as though I psyched myself out with all the pressure I instilled in myself.


A side note on my affirmations. I feel like there starting to ware off a bit.(Kinda like what happened to me and ross jeffries tapes.) I don't know if it's because of how I stressed myself out today of approaching. Or I am genuinely doing something wrong with my affirmations.

Here's what I have so far. There a bit lengthy. But hey! So where Ross jeffries!

My Affirmations
1) Fear is just a misguided form of excitement. Lead it to it's true form. Do not fight or resist it.(You are safe, these sensations will not harm you) Embrace it with compassion. Now play. Encourage it to intensify. Get excited by that feeling. Push the energy out and run with it. Let your heart pound, let your chest feel tight, let your mind race, let your body tremble. Don't control it, experience it!! Fully! and feel really excited and alive because of it.

2) You are a beacon of positive energy that human beings find very attractive and can't help but be pulled towards you by your magnetic energy.

3) Opening ain't shit. Always go for the women you desire. Erection over affection. Think to yourself "Ohhh-ahhh! Let's give this girl a chance to meet me!!" Look at your favorite part of the body you like and say to yourself. Go for it. Approaching is something to be proud of, no matter the results.

4) Always remember why you got into the game. Why you wanna become a PUA so bad. Remember all the blood sweat and tears. Remember how awesome and great you are and how your going to show everyone! The second you hesitate or doubt yourself. Just remember how bad you want it. Remember it all, and let that be your greatest weapon.

5) Always maintain your strong frame of mind. Just remember be yourself. Your awesome anyways. And always remember you can. No matter what anyone says.



Ok, I wanna explain a little why I have these said affirmations.

1) I was digging in some research and apparently trying to come yourself down when your feeling very anxious actually increases your anxiety. Surprisingly enough this has been helping me out the most. If you ever watched the t.v. series naruto I sorta get all amped up and excited like Killer Bee. However, today this one wasn't very helpful to me.

2) There's a guy in my gym who has so much fucken positive energy. The most I have ever seen actually. That everyone greets him with a warm smile. If someone 'trys him' or gives him a disgusted look. All he does is greet them with the warm positive smile of his and surprisingly enough they do it back. To put it bluntly-He returns love when he is given hate.

3) This one is actually a ripoff of Ross jeffries and 60yoc. I just really liked how they explained it in there teachings and it just made alot of sense.

4) Ok with this one I was trying to instill that motivation I need to achieve my goals. When I watched your michael jordan link it gave me this idea. Quite frankly, I actually did something similar with this into my body building. I use to have 35% body fat.. Now I only have 10%. The reason how I got there was because of my will and determination. I had something similar I kept telling myself in the affirmation I posted. And I just thought, maybe if I did what I did with body building. I would have the same success being a PUA. However, I haven't improved yet with this said affirmation. Perhaps I need to be patient?

5) As you said yourself having a strong frame of mind is very important. A disciplined mind. I actually adjusted the last part after reading your other posts today.


Any and all opinions on what I posted would be greatly appreciated. Thanks again man, I really can't thank you enough.

p.s. I want easy love... I never thought of it that way...Whoa..

Iwanteazylove

I am experiencing everything you have described. It's not really that I'm scarred of approaching but I got burnt pretty badly by my first love a year ago and have never been able to let it go. I feel it's limiting me in all aspects of life an not just pick up. Mind if I pm you? Your advice sounds pretty legit.

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1.) I shortened your affirmations. They are too long. Its okay to start your day with something longer, but when you are in the heat of the moment you are not going to remember a speech. Your are going to remember that one-line, that one caustice statement that gets you going. You know, if you ever had a teacher that could just piss you off by saying something cutting that is what you are going for with your affirmations. you want them to be as short as possible and you want to repeat them until you remember and you just recall them instinctively. These are the kind of statements that get stuck in your subconscious and affect you without you even knowing. This is also why politicians try to use taglines ala "Read My Lips" or "Change You can Believe in."

2.) I think you should make up your mind when and where you are going to look for a girl otherwise its easy to just get like a dog just chasing all over the place for a bone. There is a time and a place to think about women, thats part of the discipline to....with this in mind pick where you want to talk to the woman. Before you go take the time to use your affirmations to pysche yourself up. Know what you are going to say before you do it. Then do it.

3.) I have to disagree. Calming yourself down when you're nervous does work...So how would this work. You go out you see a hot girl then you tell yourself "Opening ain't Shit! Opening aint SHIT! OPENING AIN't SHIT!!! I'm fucking awesome! I'm fucking awesome! Go get her" And when ever I do something like this my internal dialogue is very intense and i just overwhelm myself with a feeling of excitement and pleasantness.

Sure thing dude. Ask me anything you want.

1.) The goal of the affirmations primarily is to replace those negative feelings holding you back with ones that allow you to do what you want to do. After you get positive experience that feeling of confidence will be solidified.

2. ) Now the affirmations can be instilled within you and 3.) the affirmations can become a mental habit after you have practiced them enough where you just instinctively begin thinking about certain things and feeling certain ways.

However, the primary objective is just to use the affirmations to replace fear and anxiety then to get positive experience.

I see... So your saying. Pick a place where I want to pickup women so therefore that is taking the pressure off in certain places? With the feeling nervous thing i'm conflicted now. I'm not sure which to do. I can tell you this much, the method I posted can really get me off. Perhaps I can do some sort of combination..hmm...imma try it out! So keeping it short and simple makes alot of sense. You said it's ok though to have it long as I start out my day? Meaning I have two versions? The long one in the morning, and the short one for everything else?

If the long statements fire you up then I would incoporate that into my day somehow. I'm just saying that its hard to remember all that...its kinda like a speech. The whole speech may get you fired up, but you usually only remember a few points. I would recommend having very short affirmations that you can use in the spur of the momen and remember easilyt...That's what I have done.

I'm saying pick a place and time to pick up women. That way you are not worrying about women all day and That way you can prepare yourself for it mentally right before you do it. That preparation should take the pressure off you as it gives you confidence.

Self-Respect

For many guys the problem is a problem of integrity (with a choice you made long ago, to go with desire instead of self-respect), that you want girls so bad that you compromise your principles and your value. When you make a choice you get comfortable making that choice. You think its okay, maybe even think you should. This is the importance of self-respect because when you get in the mud sometimes you can get stuck. When you behave desperately you think its okay to be desperate. When you cut corners you short change yourself and this in the long run hurts your chances with women...

Disrespect makes you feel like you can’t do things that you can do, that you are not good enough for things you can have, that you are just wrong (your thoughts, your desires) the way you are is just wrong, that you have to tolerate things that you do not have to tolerate, it saps your energy as all work feels unbearable and certain to reap nothing of value, it makes you sensitive and it makes you seem worthless in the eyes of others. Disrespect produces misery, it paralyzes the human spirit within a prison of shame and fear.

Accountability restores honor, which in turn restores feelings of confidence and esteem.

People like to take your pride so that they can manipulate you. Somebody acts like what you are doing is the worst thin in the world because they don’t like it. Without pride you feel wrong, just wrong in general…just wrong. What you think is wrong, what you want is wrong. Everything you do is wrong except what I tell you. Maybe you have weaknesses and you can fix them, maybe you have strengths that you can utilize more. However, no matter the circumstance you can overcome and conquer. Its not about being a certain way but getting what you want out of life.

the way to change your wiring is to make daily wiring changes - consistently and without anything re-changing it again

This is why you need "rituals" - see anthony robbins on that.

Daily progress must be made to change your wiring - or you go back to where you started