im not sleeping with you/im not having sex with you
is just token resistance, you have to think of the frame when she says that, she is thinking about having sex with you, make sense?
i may talk about it but im not easy, is an indicator of ASD,
to lower things like this try to handle ASD before any of the problems surrounding it become an issue, non judgemental frames (i usually have a convo about players/sluts arguement and how it is unfair double standard, why can a guy do what he wants, but a girl cant, what if a girl just likes a guy and descides she wants to be with him, how does that make her a slut just cause she does what she wants, the only guys that think that are just stupid and don't understand etc.), next, at some point set a frame that you are discreet, talk about sex openly, but don't name drop, when baited into name dropping, directly state im not like that, i like to keep that info private etc., (also you probably allready handle these issues but make it as socially acceptable for her to sleep with you as possible im not going to get into that since this doesn't seem to be your ASD issue at hand)
im starting to feel self concious simply requires a re-frame, if you ever hear a girl putting herself down, or being neurotic,
just be nice and say, hey you don't have to feel that way, if you're trying to change what i think about you, don't, I allready like you (this can be used if she puts herself down, or if she is being shy, moody, irrational)
kissing with hesitation, thats not an IOD, just an escalation,
the hugging thing, LOL, same as previous, just say ''yeah?'' act confused as if to sub communicate WTF THIS IS NORMAL, isn't it? (that one is for if you ment to say, are you pressing me into you??)
(if the hug she said what are you pressureing me into?)
i would re-frame, what do you mean? (sub communicate confusion as in previous *wtf this is normal etc*)
the best way to handle resistance is simply don't react to it, just ignore it and be persistant, agree and continue escalating, (anything that does not help you in your seduction can simply be ignored or re-framed, but sometimes rejection is real and you just can't close, that is life)
here are some examples of reactions:
you go for kiss she backs away, you say ok :'( and get all pouty (as if you have been heavily rejected),
you go for kiss she backs away, you say WELL FINE!!! FUCK YOU BITCH!!! ILL GO KISS SOMEONE ELSE GO FUCK YOURSELF!!!
she says im not going to fuck you,
IM NOT GOING TO FUCK YOU EITHER!!
I wasn't going to... you thought thats what i wanted?, no thats not... etc.
don't verbalize rejection or explain yourself, and don't become agressive and attack, NO DEFENSE, NO OFFENSE, just don't do anything and persist, at most maybe laugh and try again,
and F-CLOSE on 1st day is a matter of preference, there is no YOU SHOULD, AND YOU SHOULDN'T, if you like to wait 2 weeks to f-close, then wait 2 weeks, if you like SNL (this is what i mostly focus on at bars) then go for the SNL, Same night lays imo is the way to go, you don't waste your time, you escalate and find out, you get blown out and she is not down, who cares you didn't spend weeks trying to bang her to get nothing out of it, just my 2cents