It's quite possible that 1.) they don't know you want to bone, or 2.) they're not confident that you are in control of the experience. In most situations between girl and guy, the girl is most comfortable when the guy is the doer. When your frame is strong, and you sexual intentions are clear, most often the girl will let herself be swept along with hurricane that is your awesomeness. Hope this helps, read some Juggler or check this link out for more on framing and sexual directness:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TLXIoEck ... ideo_title
A little warning, the delivery of the cat in the video is rough and direct, but it's like spinach for your game.
-H!j!nx