I have been with this girl for a while, long story short, we had alot of fun, but things were heading in the bf-gf and serious dating area too fast I think. Plus, I am pretty religious and basically cant get serious with woman that dont believe the same way so its hard for that ever to work. Another thing is that we havent had sex, things have escalated close, we took showers together, went in the tub, rubbing her body, touching her boobs, etc. But sex hasnt happened yet, not oral or straight up sex...I think after we talked about why I couldnt get serious, things changed... I have also noticed myself getting too AFC, im making myself always available to hang out, I always am the transporter, I always pick her up, try to make her happy (im happy too, but I am not the challenge to her that I used to be). I think its some inner game problems I am having, ive never been this far with a girl soo damn sexy. So i am sorta worried she is getting a little bored with our relationship, she hasnt really showed signs yet, but I wanna act on this before anything does happen...We are back to FWB now i think. So, we hung out last night and I still got a good vibe from her (kissing, biting/licking necks, etc) but I was sorta confused, and I told her we needed to talk about one more thing, mainly about sex stuff...

So today I sent her a text, usually we talk face to face, sometimes we text it out. Maybe I shouldve thought about the situation in her shoes, and thought about the consequences of sending it, but I just wrote what I felt..Here is what I said:

"I think we should take a short break from seeing each other, get some space to think...I dunno I've been thinking about the whole thing, and it seems like it moved way too fast, in the direction of getting serious, and not been the suual fun times. Getting serious wont work, based on how we believe and stuff right now, you understand that, but I don't know how interested you are in it, so it could be a loong time before you actually care. So I say we take a break, think about it, and go back to fwb status for the time being. I dont want you to feel like im the only guy you can talk to either, if were not serious right now, an open relationship is best. And about sexual things, my standing with you is I am comfortable with you and trust that if we did anything, it wouldn't be regretted, seeing that were fwb and know and trust each other. The only reason I've been holding back (and its hard to with you being soo hot) is because you told me a long time ago that you dont want to do anything, and I dunno if you feel the same way, so thats why the black bag is still unopened lol."

-By "black bag" i mean a bag that she is storing at her house (I live at home still) that is full of goodies from Fascinations (sex store).

I would love some feedback, tell me what is good and bad about the text, just so i understand more, for the future with other girls, and how this girl may react or whatever.

I really appreciate it!

The only reason I've been holding back (and its hard to with you being soo hot)

check this out.. i learned the hard way , time and time again ..

Never let anyone know how you truly feel right away ... the magic and mystery of her thinking if you like her is gone ...ever here of the cat string theory? if not google it.... Writing what you wrote above , is not a sweet gesture , its something an AFC would say to a girl , something she has heard time and time again ...about her being so hot blah blah blah .. boringggggg I wihs i could take my own advice sometimes.. but this is what this forum is for ... for people to slap me back on course...!!! good luck ... and if its meant to be it will be ...

I leave with a quote... like i will always do in these posts i reply to ...

Fill your bowl to the brim
and it will spill.
Keep sharpening your knife
and it will blunt.
Chase after money and security
...and your heart will never unclench.
Care about people's approval
and you will be their prisoner.
Do your work, then step back.
The only path to serenity...
-Lao Tzu

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one more quote for you


"Never tell someone what you are feeling, let them guess it in your looks and gestures. That is the more convincing language"

From the book:

Art of Seduction- Robert Greene

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Hey thanks for the quick response man, I appreciate it, and what you said makes sense! Yeah I sort of regret sending the text, I let her know too much about how I feel, and have started to apply PUA things less and less as time goes on, its because I am getting too comfortable. Im looking back and analyzing, and I realize I am not doing the right thing, I should be acting different, more alpha, and not be so into this relationship. Stop bending over backwards for her, and shit like that. Not necessarily start being a douche bag, because that's just not me, but realize that I need to respect myself and make myself happy before I try making others happy.

But she did reply to my text, and this is what she said... "Wow um okay I guess we can do that. Thats like going back on what we just talked about last night but if thats what you want we can do that and see what happens."

I don't really understand, because last night I talked about how getting serious just aint working out right now, and that when we were fwb before, we had no worries, and we had fun, and I said I want to go back to that! So I dont know what a good way to respond is...Should I still do a short freeze out, let her miss me a little bit, and dont initiate any text conversations for a little while? I feel like I should get this figured out first tho, so what would be something good to say? I was thinking of saying "Listen, I dont want to hurt your feelings, thats why I dont want to straight up end it, and I feel we still have chemistry and can still have fun together. I am not sure what you mean about last night, because I was explaining I want to go back to being FWB like we were before. What are your feelings on the situation? Do you want to completely break it up or do you still want to be FWB?"

See i dont really know exactly what to say, I dont know if being blunt with her and saying "lets be friends/f-buddies" is good, I think I need to say it differently. She also mentioned that she wants to either be serious with me cuz she likes me alot, but if not, then she would like to know, so that she doesnt have to tell every guy she meets that she is "seeing someone" when she really isnt...Its just that I have other girls I could be with, and its pretty much gotta be FWB or nothing, because if its more than that, she wouldnt like me hanging out with other girls, and I cant have that right now, im freakin 18, could be banging other chicks (their as damn-sexy as this girl, but still). Thats another reason I want to be fwb, and also find out what her comfort level with me is, because she is hot as shite and her bod, mmm, its muy caliente!

How about this? "If it aint broke, dont fix it."

man enjoy your life kid!!!

dont ever end anything if you are having a good time with the girl ...

Take one day at a time and dont bring up anything having to do with being monogamous ( having a relationship with one person)

Just enjoy your days and be yourself.. dont bring up feelings and let your time together with her just "FLOW"....

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