So i can get hot chicks, big deal.
now i want a LTR to chillout with.
everytime i get a girl interested in me, i completely fuck it up within days,
basicley, i have no idea how to get a girlfriend.

I met a girl, that i think is good for me.
we met at the park, number closed, talked on facebook, met up and had one amazing beautiful night(didnt have sex with her), now i have oneitus and all these crazy love emotions are going threw my head, im texting HER everyday. so now im gettin the impression im laying to much on her, hell im doubting if i call her up to hangout, she will avoid it, and if i plan a hangout day, she will say yea, then when the day comes she'll skip out.

its the same old routine every freaken time with the girl i want as my GF and im frustrated to hell.

anybody have any advice to calm me down?

I know the pattern.

1. It´s a matter of trust. On both sides. You need to build up more trust, a more meaningful connection. Sex by itself is not a meaningful connection.

2. Do you have a life?

Be honest with 2. - it´s a serious question. You need a lifestyle girls wanna attach to. An independend lifestyle of a man who has a life that attracts them. Social circle, social life, a way, a mission, goals, work, story.

It´s an antagonism: You must be independent to create an attrative bonding opportunity for a girl.

The hotter the girl the more important is your life and your lifestyle.

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Thanks dan, good advice man..
i told her if where going to have sex, its gonna be when were married lol.

trust may be it, iv been hurt by girls so much i dont know how to trust them anymore. can you lay down somemore advice on trust?

My life is awsome IMO
i do need to get work, shes in college and im just some bum kid she met at the skatepark, haha girls do want security, but i know kids that dont have none and they get bye with some good lookin girls

The "problem" with trust is, that you can not fake it - not on the long run.

If you know the Mystery Method you may know how to create "trust" for seduction. But that´s not what it takes to creating ongoing relationships.

You have to find what you both really have in common and how that sharing can attract the girl to get along with you. It´s sharing a lifesytle, a direction and a vision.

Let her believe in something.

The problem: You can not fake it. Maybe for a while. But any closer relationship will pull your pans of in front of the girl and show who you really are. That´s why humans beings are afraid of love and intimacy.

Its all about the question who you really are. What makes you special?
If you know what makes you special you can make a significant other feel special.
And that´s what a woman wants while hanging around with you.

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i dont really stick to any method.. i realize all the techiques used by mystery are just a bad-aid.

i want my life to be the way i want it. as who i am
i dont need all whore sex slaves that worship me,
i want to be someone people look up to, and come to me for advice, genuinly.

Not make an alternate ego that has all the routines and techniques grooved into getting slutty party girls.

i get what your saying about building trust, but now im having doubts that this one girl im shooting for is going to be open to going further, the 1st night we hung out was to much. already feel like iv known her for months. itll kinda feel weird to see her again because of how deep we got, you know what im saying?
kinda like buyers remorse but we didnt have sex.

so any solutions to solving this.. im over the oneitus, and im excited to go out and meet new chicks. but the next time ill know what i did wrong, but for now. before i drop her, im wondering if theres anything i can do

Honestly, I dont think that you can do anything.

The feeling of pressure "What can I do?" is excatly what raises the tension between you and her that make her think about not to get closer with you.

Girls fall for independend men. The less you do the more she is attracted to you. Girls want to qualify for a relationship. If you give them a free lunch, they turn away and leave you alone.

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Your totaly right, you mind fuck yourself into thinking shes the best chick in the world.
lucky for me, i have a friend thats a natural player, he told me what to do oneitus makes you so fucking blind to everything.

it makes you become her bitch, then she ends up loosing all respect for you, so i put my foot down, she texted me telling to drop by a restuarant and say hi, in that situation it would of DLV'd the fuck outta me, my friend stopped me. and replyed back to her saying "if you want to see me come to the skatepark" (where i told her to meet me at previously and she made an excuse)long story short she came and we kiked it for a few. so now its on again. my mindset got from being oneitus, into "my way or the highway"

i think i made a breakway with myself finaly. oneitus is some gay ass shit i wanted resolved forever.