I try as much as possible to use 'natural game' as I cannot make most routines seem 'natural'.

My problem is knowing how maintain a girl's interest until a Day 1 or 2. I use OKCupid to set up dates and although I've had success in meeting up with girls--afterwards the girls lose interest and don't want to see me again. What should I be trying to establish on a 1st date (assuming that SNL is not logistically possible) in order to maintain her interest for a day 2? In addition, after a 1st date I am clueless as to how often to contact her, through what means (text, phone, FB, etc.) and when to set up a day 2.

Another issue I have is when I'm trying to build trust with a girl on OKCupid; often I'll have her interest, but not enough trust for a first meet. If I don't manage to set up a date after first contact, I'm clueless as to how I should contact her again to continue building her trust and eventually get to a Day 1. How should I go about this?

These sticking points have been bogging my mind and really getting me down--I'm almost starting to feel like I don't know how to maintain relationships with people. Can anyone please help?

Assuming you cant get the SNL,you need a new approach.

Perhaps you're not that impactful in person.

Somewhere along the line in the 1st.meet up,you kill your attraction.

Perhaps you DLV yourself(too much).

Perhaps your body language is off.

Perhaps you're super nervous,which in turns makes her nervous.

You're obviously not maintaing the interest.

Something is killing your vibe and energy.

Only you would know what that is.

Either it's your body language or your conversations,or lack there of(good chat).

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