Im having trouble setting my boundaries of how far i let women go with me.
Lately I'v been getting some disrespect that is hurting my value. im pretty sure
its the way im handling it like a choad. that girls are testing and loosing attraction
Quote from mystery...
Quote:
It's important to remember that often she is not deliberately testing
you. It's not necessarily something that she is consciously aware of. She
just gets a feeling to behave a certain way, and so she does. Depending
on how you react, she feels either more or less attracted as a result. This
is known as a congruence test.
If she views you as a contender, then she will test you. A woman often
won't even bother to test a low-value male; instead, she will just
become nonresponsive and then leave as soon as possible. Thus a test
can be considered an indicator of interest of sorts.
Congruence tests are a double-edged sword: If you respond the
right way, she will be noticeably more attracted to you after the test.
But if you fail, then she will be noticeably less attracted.
i understand this concept from mystery. heres what happend lately.
Sitting in a hot tub. the HB9 im teasing pushs me once, then goes back for a 2nd firm push and sends me loosen my balance into a guy sitting next to me. i failed this test by not showing some kinda of something.
driven an HB8 home. shes messing around my my phone after i tell her not to. picking stupid songs on my radio after telling her not to. she finaly gives it back and starts nudging the phone into my face whilst im driving, ( i really held my temper on this one)
can somebody break down putting down boundaries so i know the best way to deal with this crap?
thanks all.